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Marriage, relationships & families

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MoneySaving mums

A place for mums with kids of all ages to discuss parent MoneySaving matters.

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Deaths, funerals & probate

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Irish passport
My husband's UK passport expires later this year and he's entitled to an Irish passport because both his parents were Irish. However we're struggling to get any info for acquiring his mum's birth certificate and his dad left Ireland many, many years ago and joined the British Army. Somehow he joined the army with the birth…
Accessing money tied up in mesher order equivalent
Following a divorce a few years ago, most of my assets are tied up in the family home through an agreement similar to a mesher order (I have a charge on the old family property, but am not co-owner). Is there any way I can access this value so that I can buy a house? I'm currently renting....
What options do I have? I am very concerned about my future
Hi all I am writing on behalf on a friend who is worried and needs advise. I wasn't sure which board to put it on but hopefully this is the right one: "Hello, I currently live in a flat that I purchased around 6 years ago on the help to buy scheme. The flat is now worth about £50,000 less than what I got it for and I am…
Separation advice
I’m tentatively making enquiries for my son. His partner, unmarried, has walked out of the home taking their two children, 4 and 6, stating she wants to live with a relative. They were together 7ish years. She moved into the flat he owned. Which was then sold and they brought a house. He has always paid all bills and the…
Homeless daughter and granddaughter due to bad relationship
hi, my daughter and granddaughter are currently living at my place, ( we live in a two bed park home) after she was told to get my granddaughter away from the rented accommodation she live in after her partner had a psychotic episode. When it first happened two weeks ago she came up to stay for a week but had to go back to…
Merged: Is he in contempt of the clean break order?
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LPA Attorneys?
I am about to do my LPA. I had planned to appoint my son and my daughter to act jointly and severally for both Finance and Health/welfare, but they have now fallen out and not spoken for several months. So I am wondering what to do. Daughter and granddaughter for Health and son for Finance? Or might there still be too many…
School Library Fine
Sorry, I didn't know where else to put this. Hoping someone might be able to help...My 16 year old daughter has unbeknownst to us had three library books for longer than she should have and we have just received an invoice from the school for £50! That's a lot of money to us and I am reeling as there's no way I wouldn't…
Advice and thoughts needed please divorce
Hi everyone. I would be very appreciative of any advice, views or thoughts on my situation and whether it would be considered fair and meet the criteria of ‘need’ by a judge. My wife and I are divorcing after 16 years. We have 3 children (11,12 and 14). We have a house with £350,000 equity and around £60K in savings and…
NEED ADVICE ON LAZY SON
Hi Folks Our 23-year-old son started university a few years ago. After telling us all excuses and reasons under the sun, he has recently admitted that he hasn't gone back to university since September 24. He said the course is too easy and that he seems to know more than the lecturers!! He also said he has started an…
Advice if possible (forced sale)
Couple splitting, not married No kids House, joint ownership One wants to leave, the other doesn't want to sell but has agreed to a buy out House valued by three agents All gave same valuations Leaver paid deposit, buyer expected half of deposit They have now accepted, likely after advice and working out what the leaver…
Moved: Sons belongings
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Child Care Home Travel Costs
Hi, I daughter is in a care home and the government pay the care home fees, we pay for all her personal needs. The care home is now wanting to charge towards transport costs, they do have a car and do take her out, not sure how often, she is able to walk but not that far, they have asked we start paying £35.36 a week…
Gifting money to grandchildren and care fees
My mum is going to downsize and wants to gift some money to her grandchildren. What happens if she needs to go into a home within 7 years of that? Is the government likely to ask for that back? She will still have a substantial amount of money which I guess would be taken for care home fees.
smart casual attire
I am asking this question as I have no female friends to ask. I have a family meal to attend and been told its smart casual no jeans (don't wear them) and no t -shirts.I don't really have any money to buy anything. But I have 2 dresses in the wardrobe. They are lindy bop print swing dresses they have a print going around…
Inheritance tax and property from an Ex-wife
Hi, I suddenly had a thought pop into my head and I probably need to go and get some financial advice, but thought I'd first ask here to get an idea. My ex wife has a terminal illness. She created a will on learning of the illness which sees her property and all finances transfer to me, on the agreement that I will then…
Mortgage Liability
Mortgage value agreed by bank based upon husband’s income. Wife’s income very low, under £250 a month. Couple separate, ex husband demanding ex wife now pays towards mortgage until house is sold. Husband claims he can no longer afford payments alone. Where does she stand with bank if she can’t afford to make any…
Has anyone used Lawhive (online legal advice) and would you recommend them?
Looking for low cost legal divorce advice
Divorce and Mortgage in England
Hi. Following a previous discussion of mine, my friend is in the following position and needs advice. She is currently residing with teenage child in matrimonial home. Estranged husband is renting a house with 2nd teenage child. There is a non molestation order in place until 30 June 25 against husband preventing him from…
Gifting of a house
Just after some thoughts please. in 2002 my Nan and grandad transferred their bungalow to my mum, me and my brother and sister. This was done at no value with a declaration of trust.The grandchildren were included in this transfer as my grandparents did not like my mums husband at the time (proved to be good judge of…