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Marriage, relationships & families

Discuss the MoneySaving implications of relationships and family life.

Divorce and pregnancy
My friend is going through a divorce, she has since met someone else and has recently found out she is pregnant, with the new partners baby. She is hoping for 50% minimum of the marital assets but is now sick with worry that her husband will get away with giving her less or even nothing. Can anyone shed any light on this…
Disagreement between siblings for dads POA
My partner and his sister have a joint POA for their dad. His health has been failing for almost 2 years .He was in hospital for a few months and is now in a care home, which he absolutely loves. My SIL is now trying to get him moved to another care home about 30 minutes away from us . She lives about 2 and a half hours…
Child financial assistance
Our daughter lives on her own and has a mortgage. Her chronic illness has got worse and has meant that she is now on long-term sick leave from her job and is struggling financially. Obviously, we are going to help out. Does our assistance have to be declared for tax purposes and does it count towards her income? I don't…
Probate Query
Sorry this is probably a really thick question to ask so apologies. I am completing probate online for my late partner with whom I owned a property as tenants in common. I am also his sole beneficiary in his will. My question is for the gross value for probate, given we were tenants in common, do I still exclude his 50%…
Don’t even know where to begin
Hi everyone, I am really hoping for some advice as I just don’t have a clue what to do. I apologise in advance for the length of this post but I’m literally losing the will to live. I’m married with two high school age kids. We currently live in a rental property that is rented in joint names. I NEED out of my marriage.…
Power of attorney replacement.
My brother in law has dementia and is being cared for. My sister currently has POA but at the time had to apply for it after he lost capacity . She is very ill and if anything happens to her,who will take over his POA? Would a replacement have been nominated at the time (we are unable to ask her currently)or would we need…
Child Benefit NI Credits
Is it possible to claim NI credits towards my state pension for years I was eligible for child benefit as a parent but did not register for it, and how?
Fertility Treatment
A bit of a clanger last weekend. boyfriend (owns own house in which we were living together) dropped the info that after a year of it being on the cards he no longer wants to pursue fertility treatment. We were going to be eligible on the NHS from nov but now i am a single female with a quoted bill of 10k from the…
Moving with partner and 2 kids
Hey, So my partner got a really good job in Somerset, and it doesn't make sense to live apart and only see each other on a Saturday and a little bit on Friday before he has to travel back down. (I should mention we currently live in Cambridge). the area he is looking at is Weston super mare/bridgewater/Yatton? has anyone…
Money Moral Dilemma: Should we drive my mother-in-law over when she doesn't pay towards petrol?
This week's MoneySaver who wants advice asks... My mother-in-law, 80, wants to visit me and my spouse. All of us are retired. My mother-in-law doesn't drive, and it's an 80-mile round trip to collect her and take her home again. In the past, she hasn't offered to pay towards petrol, and while she's not short of money, she…
power of attorney ,dad with dementia advice
My 90 year old father has been diagnosed 3 years ago with dementia , and is getting worse, my mother died 25 years ago and my father has a partner who is 85 and not very competent at organising things. When first diagnosed my brother and i suggested sorting out power of attorney she was very dismissive and said they had a…
Not married in UK - Divorce
Asking for a friend, any ideas where to get the right advice please? Friend is a UK resident, already bought a house (mortgage) in his name solely. Married an Indian lady in India. They both returned here and she lived with him. To date, they have been married for just over 2 years. Since she has been in the country, she…
Power of Attorney mother spending lots of cash
My 94 yr old mother is spending large amounts of cash, around £300 or more a week. This is on top of all her bills which are on direct debit and food shopping which I organise. Each week I give her £200 cash for her cleaner and spending money but she is drawing out at least £100 more. She goes out regularly to get her hair…
taken advantage of!
There is no nice way to put it. Basically, 3 family members have took advantage of their dying mother in last year of her life. In the last year or so, these family members has forced/ bullied their mothers husband out of his marital home which he shared with their mum of 30+ year. Branding him "a money grabbing thief"…
Formula when out all day
Hi, What do everyone do when you want to go out all day but your baby needs feeding? I was breastfeeding for the first 2 months ( I intended to breastfeed all year but didn’t work out for me ) and at the time I booked a day out in September to a theme park 3hr drive from our house one way. Now, that the baby is on formula.…
Ex still on mortgage.
I'm posting this on behalf of my Sister in law as she's not sure where she stands. She split from ex husband 10 years ago. He left her for someone else and stopped paying all bills. They divorced but never did a financial settlement. She remained in the house with the three kids and covered all the mortgage & bills on her…
Power of attorney - do they have to act in my interests?
Entirely hypothetical issue, am I worrying unnecessarily? I've been doing some housekeeping about affairs recently and as part of that have appointed my wife as attorney for both financial and health (she's done the same with me, we both have siblings as reserve attorneys). Looking at the requirements for an attorney, it's…
The knock on effects of Separation and Divorce
I'm after some advice, i know this forum is not for legal advice but want to get some general feedback. I am separated with my wife and am looking to divorce shortly. I have moved out of the family home as she is not working and i am working full time so she is doing more childcare. Based on this she has updated the…
Divorce Advice!
Hi! Looking for some early advice/tips. Long story short my wife and myself are getting a divorce. 13 years together, 3.5 married. 3 kids (1 14 stepdaughter, 6 boy and 2 girl both mine) Childcare we have no issues - both happy to coparent 50/50 and very amicable. Debt - no major debt other than a car loan circa £15k being…
Money Moral Dilemma: Should we give two of our daughters cash in lieu of paying for their weddings?
This week's MoneySaver who wants advice asks... Our youngest daughter is getting married and we've offered to foot most of the bill for the wedding, which will be around £20,000. We have two other daughters, who have both made it clear they don't plan to wed at all. Should we gift them the same amount in lieu of being able…