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Marriage, relationships & families

Discuss the MoneySaving implications of relationships and family life.

MoneySaving mums

A place for mums with kids of all ages to discuss parent MoneySaving matters.

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MoneySaving dads

A place for dads with kids of all ages to discuss parent MoneySaving matters.

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Deaths, funerals & probate

Get MoneySaving help at the time of bereavement - discuss wills, inheritance tax, estate planning and more.

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Pets & pet care

For MoneySaving questions about taking care of your cat, dog, parrot or other animal companion, including vet fees and pet insurance.

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Inheritance implications of parents living with me
Hello Forumites, I may have found the answer elsewhere, but appreciate the knowledge and experience of you lovely people! My elderly parents own a house worth around £500k which they have lived in since year dot. They are still in good health, but my family are moving away to a house that has a self-contained flat. We are…
Buying my long term partner's share of house and mortgage
I would like to buy my partner's share of the house. How do I go about it? As an example the house is worth £360K with £60k left on the mortgage. The mortgage and ownership is split 50/50. We are not married. My new partner and I would like buy my partner's share outright less £30k my partner owes on the outstanding…
Cheap Ancestry membership
Just renewed at about 1/2 of going rate These are for 12 months tooAnnual Worldwide for £89.99 https://www.ancestry.co.uk/checkout/mli?direct=1&quantities=1&flow=3&offers=O-24532&rType=11 Annual UK Premium for £59.99 https://www.ancestry.co.uk/checkout/mli?direct=1&quantities=1&flow=3&offers=O-24531&rType=11 There is the…
Lasting Power of Attorney - activation key
Hi - my wife and I Lasting Power of Attorneys has been registered. In letters from OPG confirming registration they have given me an activation key to add the LPA to online account, both my LPA as donor, and my wife's as attorney. When do I use the activation key? We don't want to 'activate' the LPAs - i.e. we don't need…
Which? Power of Attorney Service - Scotland
I'm looking into Power of Attorney in Scotland where we don't have the same DIY form-filling options as England and Wales. Given solicitors charge around £400 for PoA, the Which? DIY service at around £69 (for both welfare and continuing powers of attorney) looks good value, complies with Scots Law and your completed…
Money Moral Dilemma: Should I lend £20,000 to my in-debt in-laws and risk not getting it back?
This week's MoneySaver who wants advice asks... My in-laws have a mountain of debt in mortgages on three properties. My father-in-law quit his well-paid job after burning out, the bills piled up and now they’re skint. I've inherited some money, and my wife wants me to lend her parents £20,000 to see them through selling…
Mum's care team asking me to give up power of attorney so that local authority oversees finances
My 85 year old mother is bipolar and has had dementia for a few years now, though it is advancing slowly and she still is able to take care of herself. She lives in her home on her own since my dad died 12 years ago - she was mentally and physically abusive to him for many years, and unfortunately transferred the mental…
Financial Advice - Elderly parent care
Hi, how do we choose someone who can provide sensible financial advice for how we look after my dad please? Everyone seems to have different advice! (that always seems to benefit them funnily enough). Happy to pay for independent advice. How much should we budget for this? He's 80yo with severe dementia. His health has…
Changing back to maiden name
has anyone had any issues with changing back to maiden name after divorce - I am currently selling my home (not the marital home) and wondering whether to wait until afterwards but just wondering if anyone came up with any negative issues
Deprivation of assets question: Related hypothetical question
lRe the post: ""transfered mother in laws house to my wife and sister 15 years ago to avoid future care home costs" does not apply to me but has got me thinking. With no intention of cheating, and, not now or in the past being eligible for or claiming government means tested benefits, some years ago and long before my…
transfered mother in laws house to my wife and sister 15 years ago to avoid future care home costs
My mother in law was widowed 15 years ago. We felt it was prudent to transfer house ownership to my wife and her sister to avoid any future issues with future care home costs. In November 2025 my MIL was struggling to live on her own so was put into a care home. No chance of her returning to her house I'm afraid, so we…
Cancelled Family Court Hearing
About two months ago, the Oxford Family Court cancelled my daughter's Two DayaFinal Childrens' Matters Hearing 48 hours beforehand because of a shortage of judges. My daughter still lost between £7,900 in legal fees because her barrister had already booked two days to be in court. I understand all my daughter is able to do…
Implications of my mum giving or lending me money to buy my husband out of our house
Hello, my husband and I are separating and have agreed he will keep all our cash and I will keep the house, however, I need an additional £45,000 to do this. My mum has said she will give or lend me this amount, which ever is preferable. Can anyone in this forum advise if there will be any tax implications and how best to…
Has anyone used Lawhive (online legal advice) and would you recommend them?
Looking for low cost legal divorce advice
Inherited premium bonds - can they be given away without it being seen as a deprivation of assets?
My elderly mother is 85 and has inherited £17,300 from my late father's premium bonds. Can my mother gift some of this money to her grandchildren or would this be looked on as a deprivation of assets if she needed to go into a care home in the future? At present she lives in her own home and there is no immediate sign that…
Online LPA, timescales
I have just completed an online LPA for myself and having got all the signatures after a family gathering at Christmas sent it off for them to register. I am aware that if you don't return it within 42 days (from December 12th in my case) they refund your payment. I sent it tracked and it was delivered by Royal Mail on…
LPA
Hi all, I have LPA for my brother who is currently in a nursing home self funding. I can act straight away. He inherited our mothers house - it is currently empty costing him upkeep as well as paying for his care. His savings are running out. He says he wants to go home but keeps making excuses about why he can't go 'just…
Divorce - how is house equity charge back registered with Land Registry?
If going through a divorce and the house which is jointly owned is to be transferred to one party whilst the other party is to have a percentage of the equity retained for a period of time then how is this registered with Land Registry? Situation is... Divorce applied for. Conditional Order granted. Mediator has drawn up a…
Legal right to estranged bothers estate?
For reasons stemming from the winding up of my late mothers estate, I am estranged from my sister and brother, it has now been about 6 years and we have not spoken in that time, it happened and was related to my giving up everything to become my mothers full-time live in carer as my mother had dementia, she passed away in…
Long Johns?
I didn't know where to post this, so here goes. Back in the day, the oldies would wear thermal long johns, it was cold before we had climate change.Back in the 80s when I delivered parcels, I would wear my running tights under my trousers, I was only in my late 20s then, so it must have been cold.But now I am in my 60s, I…