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Money Moral Dilemma: Should my partner pay more towards bills to cover his children in our new home?
This week's MoneySaver who wants advice asks... My partner and I are looking to move in together. He has three children from a previous relationship who will live with us part of the time. We both have the same deposit to put towards our new home, but he's suggested he pays more of the mortgage and owns a larger percentage…
Lab grown diamond engagement ring vs natural?
Hi For the first time in my life I’m looking at getting engaged and came across the lab grown diamond rings. They are obviously more cost effective and, depending on how you look at it, more ethical (a factor I’d like to consider). Would it be seen as ‘cheap’ to get one of these versus a traditional diamond ring? It’s…
POA/Wills
I need to sort these out for my Mum, both the health one and finance, and a will as well - am I best going to one place and getting this sorted? Do they file it on the GOV website for you? Once she's sorted I then need to sort myself out!
Being brought out of marital home
Hi, I am new to this and am looking for some advice! My husband and I have separated but are still living together. He has been accepted for a mortgage to buy me out of the property. My Solicitor who is only dealing with the transfer aspect has just mentioned for me to find out if there is anything else i need to do to…
Sharing household bills with new partner
My daughter owns her home due to an insurance claim which left her paraplegic, so she has now mortgage. Up til 4 years ago we lived with her but then we moved out so her partner could move in. Due to this she lost her universal credits due to her partners wage and savings. (she does work part time and is self employed to…
Advice on my predicament please - ex partner and joint mortgaged property
I am in a toxic relationship at the moment and have asked my ex wife to buy me out of the house so i can move out. I currently pay all the mortgage and bills. She has under cut me and told me to accept her offer or force sale. I don't want to force sale if i can help it based on how much the legal fees would be and not…
Starting divorce proceedings
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EPA deed of revocation and change of address
My parents signed EPAs in 2007 naming each other and my brother as their attorneys. They now want to revoke the EPAs and replace them with LPAs but my brother has since changed address. On the Deed of revocation, should we put the old address (so that it matches the EPA) or the new address? Many thanks.
Consent order advice?
Hi, I am in the early stages of divorce (still waiting for initial email to be sent to my husband) We have had a slightly unusual situation in that we own our home outright (we are in our 30s). We bought this house just after we got married and I paid for it in full with my own savings and a large inheritance I received.…
Divorce and pregnancy
My friend is going through a divorce, she has since met someone else and has recently found out she is pregnant, with the new partners baby. She is hoping for 50% minimum of the marital assets but is now sick with worry that her husband will get away with giving her less or even nothing. Can anyone shed any light on this…
Disagreement between siblings for dads POA
My partner and his sister have a joint POA for their dad. His health has been failing for almost 2 years .He was in hospital for a few months and is now in a care home, which he absolutely loves. My SIL is now trying to get him moved to another care home about 30 minutes away from us . She lives about 2 and a half hours…
Child financial assistance
Our daughter lives on her own and has a mortgage. Her chronic illness has got worse and has meant that she is now on long-term sick leave from her job and is struggling financially. Obviously, we are going to help out. Does our assistance have to be declared for tax purposes and does it count towards her income? I don't…
Probate Query
Sorry this is probably a really thick question to ask so apologies. I am completing probate online for my late partner with whom I owned a property as tenants in common. I am also his sole beneficiary in his will. My question is for the gross value for probate, given we were tenants in common, do I still exclude his 50%…
Don’t even know where to begin
Hi everyone, I am really hoping for some advice as I just don’t have a clue what to do. I apologise in advance for the length of this post but I’m literally losing the will to live. I’m married with two high school age kids. We currently live in a rental property that is rented in joint names. I NEED out of my marriage.…
Power of attorney replacement.
My brother in law has dementia and is being cared for. My sister currently has POA but at the time had to apply for it after he lost capacity . She is very ill and if anything happens to her,who will take over his POA? Would a replacement have been nominated at the time (we are unable to ask her currently)or would we need…
Child Benefit NI Credits
Is it possible to claim NI credits towards my state pension for years I was eligible for child benefit as a parent but did not register for it, and how?
Fertility Treatment
A bit of a clanger last weekend. boyfriend (owns own house in which we were living together) dropped the info that after a year of it being on the cards he no longer wants to pursue fertility treatment. We were going to be eligible on the NHS from nov but now i am a single female with a quoted bill of 10k from the…
Moving with partner and 2 kids
Hey, So my partner got a really good job in Somerset, and it doesn't make sense to live apart and only see each other on a Saturday and a little bit on Friday before he has to travel back down. (I should mention we currently live in Cambridge). the area he is looking at is Weston super mare/bridgewater/Yatton? has anyone…
Money Moral Dilemma: Should we drive my mother-in-law over when she doesn't pay towards petrol?
This week's MoneySaver who wants advice asks... My mother-in-law, 80, wants to visit me and my spouse. All of us are retired. My mother-in-law doesn't drive, and it's an 80-mile round trip to collect her and take her home again. In the past, she hasn't offered to pay towards petrol, and while she's not short of money, she…
power of attorney ,dad with dementia advice
My 90 year old father has been diagnosed 3 years ago with dementia , and is getting worse, my mother died 25 years ago and my father has a partner who is 85 and not very competent at organising things. When first diagnosed my brother and i suggested sorting out power of attorney she was very dismissive and said they had a…