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Marriage, Relationships & Families sticky
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Both agreeing on dissolution
Good evening everyone Long time lurked on this website (years), and the forum, but first time poster. My partner and I have been together for almost 19 years, and in a civil partnership for the last 14 months. Sadly, we’ve realised we’ve fallen out of love. We are still great friends, its just the spark has gone. We have…
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Mum (early 60s) doesn't seem to be enjoying life particularly much. No partner or grandchildren
My mum is 61 and unfortunately isn't enjoying her life very much. I know this because she has discussed it with me. I suspect that a couple of key factors contributing to the situation are that she has no romantic partner and no grandchildren. The fact that she has no grandchildren is unfortunately my fault. I am her only…
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Moving from Care home to Nursing home
I have a parent who has been in a care home for the last couple of years(less than 3 years), moved with the assistance of LA who provided a list of care homes and then I chose the preferred option. Funding is a combination of pensions, attendance allowance (that was previously paid directly to parent and then I think at…
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Am I being unreasonable? I think partner should do more household chores. Help!
Long term lurker :) I am looking for some help please. Thanks. TLDR : Am I being unreasonable in expecting my partner to do more in the house. He works from home part time. I'm not working due ill health, but do at least 80 per cent of the housework. He refuses to take on more responsibility but moans we don't spend…
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x Husband been missing 5 years now wants half equity and clean break
Hi im new so bear with me My husband left 5 years ago and we divorced in 2024 with not finance order as he didnt sign the absolute on time and the judge granted the divorce with nothing in place. Today i received a letter from a solicitors asking for me to agree to having the house valued and to pay him 50% of the equity…
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Need some legal/smart advice about certain situations in a seperation where I am being bullied/setup
Hello Just need some friendly advice please as my soon to be ex wife is bullying me and baiting me very clearly and threatening me with things, and with her mum saying she will constantly call the police certain things (essentially lying about it when I just talk normally and manipulate things) Anyway is it legal to me to…
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Clearing home as lpa as parent gone into care. Items in will
Hi We would appreciate some advice please. We are selling dads house to fund his ongoing care home fees (We have lpa health and wealth and are also executors of his will) He has named a quantity of items in his will to be left to family members. We dont have anywhere to store these items ( some large items of furniture )…
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Reablement between 2 local authorities
Hi there, My father, recently deceased, was discharged from hospital into EMI residential care by a hospital social worker, despite us being told he needed EMI Nursing care. The social worker put the fear of God into us by telling us if we didn't find somewhere, he would just be kicked out of hospital and into a local…
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WWYD? Request to loan in-laws money
DH and I have been together for 20+ years and do well for ourselves. We have a fully offset mortgage which is close to being paid off, but we haven’t as it gives us the flexibility to withdraw against it until DH turns 70 (deadline to pay off). We will need to do some renovation in the next couple of years so will borrow…
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Invested my redundancy payout in a new kitchen, to be then told getting divorce and I need to leave
Hi bit of a tough one for me here however we were going up and down for a while, have 2 kids together and mortgage I am the primary owner and wife is part time and childcare mostly (which is absolutely fine), however I Got made redundant and we seemed to be going on right track, done therapy etc paid for new kitchen on…
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Embracing the new family dynamics and looking forward to the future with optimism
I usually have some sort of sewing related title to my threads. My diaries of how I cope, or don't cope with my unusual life. But I have lost my Sewing Mojo at the moment. Moving forward with a two year old, a four year old, a 12 year old, and four Adults who still take up my time I doubt this single Granny is going to…
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Childminder leaving the register - means we can't use childcare vouchers
Hello Our childminder, who looks after our child after school, has decided to leave the register because she only looks after children who are over the age of 8. We spend about £80 per month for the after-school care fees, and use childcare vouchers to pay. We are trying to work out whether we would save more money by…
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Divorce settlement - chargeback on property
I am in the early stages of divorce with my partner and are working on the consent order. Things are mostly amicable, there's no fault, and we are using a fixed fee service for this rather than using individual solicitors. Of course, we've ran into a stumbling block regarding money. Our family home is worth an estimated…
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Elderly Lady Moving from HA Accommodation to Nursing Home
I’m looking for some advice regarding an elderly lady who may soon need to move permanently into a nursing home. Over the past year she has been in and out of hospital and has recently been transferred to a temporary nursing home for assessment. We are close friends and effectively the nearest thing she has to family,…
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How much should a ‘simple’ divorce really cost?
Hi all, I got divorced last year and the house has finally sold recently. I’m currently renting with my new partner, getting towards retirement age and need to buy something with my share of the equity ideally. My issue is that my matrimonial solicitors have charged me £11K for their services when their initial estimate…
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Joint tenants or tenants in common?
About to buy a house with my partner. We are engaged and will marry (hopefully) within the next year. I have two children from a previous relationship, partner has none. Joint tenants or tenants in common? Or does this matter? Do we just draw up what we want to happen in a will? Thanks in advance.
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Money Moral Dilemma: Should I lend £20,000 to my in-debt in-laws and risk not getting it back?
This week's MoneySaver who wants advice asks... My in-laws have a mountain of debt in mortgages on three properties. My father-in-law quit his well-paid job after burning out, the bills piled up and now they’re skint. I've inherited some money, and my wife wants me to lend her parents £20,000 to see them through selling…
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Cheap Ancestry membership
Just renewed at about 1/2 of going rate These are for 12 months too Annual Worldwide for £89.99 https://www.ancestry.co.uk/checkout/mli?direct=1&quantities=1&flow=3&offers=O-24532&rType=11 Annual UK Premium for £59.99 https://www.ancestry.co.uk/checkout/mli?direct=1&quantities=1&flow=3&offers=O-24531&rType=11 There is the…
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Is it normal my parents LPAs are getting processed at different times
Hi all, Both my parents are in the process of doing health & welfare and financial legal power of attorney with me being the sole attorney on each one. When checking the status of each one yesterday all four LPA documents (2 each) said "Received" but today the status of the two LPA documents for mum had now changed to…
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LPA: Is "Standard Clause X" for Discretionary Investments still needed in 2026
Hi everyone, I am currently completing my own Property and Financial Affairs LPA using the online service. I’ve come across the debate regarding "Standard Clause X" (the wording that allows attorneys to use Discretionary Investment Management services). I know the OPG updated their guidance in 2022 saying this clause is no…
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