Marriage, relationships & families

My new partner is separated and about to start divorce proceedings, she moved out of the marital home some time ago. They have 2 children, they have already decided on the split of which days/nights they will have the children between them. As we understand it, they will be encouraged to try mediation first. We believe her…

For background: I’ve grown up in a somewhat toxic family, lots of passive aggression and control - I’m now living in a different country and my relationship with them is growing more and more distant. Anyway - my mother who is a very cold and anti-social person messages me random things from time to time - I gather this is…

Happy New Year, fellow forumites! Appreciate that this may need some more detailed legal advice, but interested in views on this. Wife has elderly (80yo) aunty who owns a small (approx. 1 acre) piece of land, and said aunty wishes to leave said land to wife - and her will is made out to this end. Discussing with said aunty…

Was talking to a friend who has recently separated from his wife. They had been together 11 years and married 6. They have 2 young kids 5 and 4. I didn't really know the relationship well but all seemed good from the outside looking in. He told me that basically a year or two after getting married (so about 4 years before…

Following on from our December 2020 resolutions thread this is your chance to set your intentions for 2022. As with last year, things still feel unpredictable but hey if you don’t have a dream, how you gonna have a dream come true? As always I’m taking some time to think and will come back and post mine in a couple of days…

My father will be going into a care home shortly and we will need to sell his house to enable us to pay care home fees. Can he gift his grandchildren (I believe £3k per year) from the funds of his sale or do all the proceeds need to left to pay for fees? The fees will be £80k per year.

Hi, I've just regsitered an LPA. I already have an OPG online account because I an attorney for my mother. When I log into my Attorney account I can see my mothers LPA but I cannot see my own LPA. Is this correct? Do I need a seperate donor account? Thanks

Hi, I have previously posted about wanting to leave my husband and I have come to terms with the fact that there is no way round it, I am definitely leaving him. I feel a huge ball of guilt when I think about it, but I feel a huge weight of sadness if I consider staying. It is going to be hard, but the only way I can see…

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Hello! I'm trying to negotiate a settlement for my divorce after almost 4 very painful years. I had a specialist pension report which gave an offset figure of 17k in my favour. The op is suggesting this is deducted from the equity of our house sale before we split the remaining proceeds. Surely that would be paying half…

I want to change back to my maiden name. I have used a template from gov.uk and got it witnessed by two independent witnesses. I now want to start to change passport, driving licence, utilities, work details etc. Has anyone done this and know what is a good order to do it in? Have to go into the bank in order to do that…

This week's MoneySaver who wants advice asks... While putting away the dishes, I accidentally dropped a bowl belonging to my flatmate. She told me not to bother replacing it as we have loads of others, but the bowl I smashed was from an expensive ceramics brand, while our other bowls are normal cheap crockery. Yet I still…

I am selling an item and asking for 1200, the person interested is a stranger I met online (older lady pensioner + before becoming a pensioner didn’t work for about 12 years due to health related reasons so I don’t know if she receives PIP too) We spend the whole morning talking at mine and I know where she lives, not far…

Wonder if any one can help. Mother in law did both types of LPA's in Summer of 2021 They are all signed, dated and witnessed but as she took a turn for the worse a few weeks later we didn't register them at the time as didn't think we'd need them . Anyway fast forward a year and a half and although she still has capacity,…

Would you rather... Sell the house in the so-so catchment and move to an excellent one to send a child to a good public school (Edinburgh). Or move even further away from the city centre and use majority of the household's disposable income for private school fees.

After a divorce of 6 years of marriage, my x got awarded 500k. I now have to sell my house which is in my sole name and the x paid zero towards it. So I immediately put it on the market 100k above the price the estate agents agreed (1.8995) at the time of the divorce a year ago, as I have increased its value internally.…

I seem to recall reading somewhere that if I leave my main residence to my son he is able to claim up to £175000 against IHT as well as 2 x £325000 making a total of £825 000. Is that correct?

Hi My parents are elderly and wish me to be a living power of attorney to make visits to the bank on their behalf. The GOV.UK is not clear to me. Do I open an Gov. account on my parents behalf or do i create me own? How are the banks informed? Do I show some sort of letter?

I'd like to know how much your kids (please mention age bracket) understand about money. Is there anything they definitely don't understand about money at this stage? And was there one particular moment that flicked the lightbulb on for them?

hi Please could anyone offer advice on my new gf's situation regarding the financial side of her divorce. She got divorced late year, decree nisi was Nov 2021. So all that she is waiting for is the financials to be divvied up. They had a shared house in France which the ex is getting , less £30K she has asked for as that…