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First steps after separation
Wondering if anyone can help, a family member has had her husband walk out on her after 25+ years of marriage. He has left to live with another woman. What are the first steps she should take. There are no dependant children at home, but she doesn't have a job so no source of income, at the moment he pays for everything…
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Should I charge my son keep?
Looking for opinions on my current situation. My son and his girlfriend - 19 years old and their 2 year old baby live with me. Me and my husband both work full time and have two other children aged 10 and 11. My son and his little family moved back in with me a few months ago after struggling to afford their rented home…
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Divorce after 35yrs Finacial settlement and existing equity release loan
We got divorced after 35 yrs ,last Yr. We are currently going through financial remedy Matrimonial home was paid for by me in full .but somehow I never ended up on the deeds. Key points 1) I stupidly was co Vincent by spouse to transfer my equity in matrimonial home to spouse during marriage but after separation as I was…
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Financial Clean Break
Hi, I’m hoping this is in the right place. Apologies if not. I was married for 12 years, which ended in 2017, officially divorced end of 2018. We have 4 children together (now 16,13,11,10). My ex husband didn’t want a financial clean break and I didn’t have anything worth fighting for! I re-married Dec 2019. My Gran passed…
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Saving for Children's education
Hi All, Not sure if this is the best place to post but may as well start somewhere! Our mortgage will shortly be paid of and rather than going nuts and spend a bit more on family luxuries I'm thinking it may be more prudent to start thinking of saving for kids futures. At the moment both myself and OH are earning £40k+…
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Joint Finances - paying for bills
So currently, I have a bills account and a current account. Salary gets paid to my current account, then I transfer enough money to cover all the bills including food into the bills account. That way, I know I can live and eat, and anything in my current account is for me to enjoy. However, my girlfriend is now moving in.…
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What is fair? Splitting renovation costs
Just wanted some outsider perspective on our situation. I currently own a 2 bedroom flat with a mortgage. My partner inherited 50% of a flat when his mum passed away last year, which regardless of marriage in the future etc. I will never inherit as it's owned as joint tenants in common with his brother. We agreed, in order…
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What is fair during mortgage buyout?
Hi there My divorce has been dragging on since 2020... I moved out of the family home as ex refused to, yet made my life unliveable by giving me silent treatment and not giving me time to have guests visit without her being there. For transparency she was the one that cheated and then decided she didn't want to be married…
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Is it fair that I pay extra tax that has nothing to do with me.
My partner (of 20-odd years) and I have been looking for a few years to buy our own place, we have REALLY struggled to agree on what we want and now because we have not been able to get on the same page for so long we have very little options ,as prices have increased so much faster than we could save and we are almost…
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Ex Wife Needs Help With Childcare
My ex wife and I have 5 kids aged 8-17. I have them on alternate weekends and half school holidays. I pay maintenance- slightly more than the online calculator says and I also pay for clothes, phones, Xbox live subscriptions etc. The kids also ask me for money to go out with friends etc too as Mum always tells them she’s…
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Housing After Divorce
I was hoping people might be willing to share their experiences of how housing issues get resolved in divorce. I have a basic idea of how the law works (Meshers, orders for sale etc) but I had some more specific questions I'm hoping people can give me some steer on. Just a very simple background. Divorcing, I'm 40, she's…
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Divorce and property
Hi, sorry very long-winded. Background: I live with partner of about 4 years (lived together 1 years now, in his house, plus with one of my grown up children). He is a couple years off retirement age. Me a while yet (about 15 years). Both of us are in low paid jobs. He was made redundant from his job of about 30 years…
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What does the Death Notification Service actually do?
I used the Death Notification Service a couple of weeks ago to notify half a dozen companies of the passing of my mother. Having not heard from any of the companies since, I decided to phone the first company (Natwest) to ask if they had been notified. They confirmed that they had, but told me that I needed to send them…
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Divorce - financially dependant
I've been married 13 years this year, have three kids aged 5, 9 & 11 and Im a full-time mum. I used to work full-time before I had the kids. My husband is a higher earner (he's over the 90+k bracket) and we have a mortgage which is joint, with joint names on the deeds. The house is an average 3 bed semi. He has a company…
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Break up I don't want
My wife said last Sunday she wants to split up. After a difficult week I am now spending time many miles away with my parents for 10 days or so. I really want to change but she says it's too late. There are fertility problems with me so we tried adoption but that has broken down due to my mental health breakdown this time…
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Deed Poll name change before marriage
Hi all, Looking for some guidance please! This is my situation: My name is currently Katie H and I am engaged, but have wanted to change my name for some time to Katie A (family maiden name/ want rid of my current name before marriage). I understand this needs to be done by deed poll. My passport is due to expire in Aug…
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Declaration of Trust - covering 100% of all monthly bills (utilities, internet, council tax + car)
Hoping to get some help as very concerned over what has been agreed as outlined below: Male A was with Female B for 30 years. She met him when she was mid 40s and he was 15 so he has spent his entire adult life with her. They bought a house together 25 years ago with her putting in the deposit and him paying the mortgage…
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Rights on split after cohabiting for less than six months
Hi, on behalf of my son who is trying to get a solicitor meeting. - bought house in December 2021 with girlfriend on joint mortgage. - she declined to a prenuptial agreement as it would end relationship - she put in 7k, he approx 45k. - she has not paid towards mortgage citing food bills as her contribution. - Long story…
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Mortgage advice
My husband and I are splitting - married 28 years. Our three adult children still live with dad in the main house . Two are in uni. I moved out a few months ago but would not tell them where as I would be coerced to return. I was told I was in an abusive marriage. I knew deep down but I lied to myself that every family has…
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Was my child 'excluded' or was it reasonable what the teacher did?
In short - daughter is 17, getting to the end of college hairdressing course, something she did because she didn't know what to do after school, not really interested in it but has made a go of it and there are no problems. Course ends in June. Has managed to get an apprenticeship in a completely different field that she…
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