Would you lend money to an ex?

Gam2015

So my ex was texting me loads yesterday morning asking to borrow £200 for car repairs allegedly 🤔 so me being me I transferred the money over. I texted her yesterday teatime asking if she got car sorted. Still not had a reply 🙄 think i can wave goodbye to the £200. Lesson learned 

Pollycat

I think you could have titled your thread 

Would you lend money to an ex?

Here's a recent thread discussing lending money that ran to 12 pages:
Sister has asked me to lend money - how to deal with it - Page 12 — MoneySavingExpert Forum

Maybe your ex is busy with sorting her car our out or doing Christmassy things.
Or maybe you can kiss goodbye to the £200.

My answer to the question would be an unequivocable 'NO'.

74jax

Is this the ex who moved out for 2 weeks but wouldn't tell you that the relationship was over because she still wanted to ivf?
If so then not a chance I'd have handed over the money. 

JReacher1

Based on your other thread it sounds like a toxic relationship.  I think you need to move on from her, block her number and have no more contact. 

Emmia

The short answer. No 


However, before marriage I blocked numbers/ social media of ex's and deleted their details from my phone to remove this type of contact - do that too, to remove future contact. 

Gam2015

74jax said:

Is this the ex who moved out for 2 weeks but wouldn't tell you that the relationship was over because she still wanted to ivf?
If so then not a chance I'd have handed over the money. 

That’s the one 🤦🏻‍♂️

Pollycat

Gam2015 said:

74jax said:

Is this the ex who moved out for 2 weeks but wouldn't tell you that the relationship was over because she still wanted to ivf?
If so then not a chance I'd have handed over the money. 

That’s the one 🤦🏻‍♂️

Then based on your other threads about her, your money is gone.

tightauldgit

I can't think of any ex that I have that I would even reply to a request for money let alone reply with a yes. 

Once an ex is an ex then you stop interacting with them and move on with your life, surely? Never understood these people that want to stay connected to their exes. 

SusieT

One ex sure if I could help I would, but we are still friends and the loan would only be what I could afford although if it were me that was asked I know things would have to be desperate and I am 99.99% certain it would be repaid as soon as possible. Others a big no, they are out of my life and on hello how are you only terms if we were ever to meet, and thats if we actually recognised each other. 

Slinky

What's that saying? If you lend £20 to a friend and never see them again it was probably worth it.

Xenon

Gam2015 said:

74jax said:

Is this the ex who moved out for 2 weeks but wouldn't tell you that the relationship was over because she still wanted to ivf?
If so then not a chance I'd have handed over the money. 

That’s the one 🤦🏻‍♂️

Then why give her money ?

Block her and move on - she is the past