Would you lend money to an ex?

So my ex was texting me loads yesterday morning asking to borrow £200 for car repairs allegedly 🤔 so me being me I transferred the money over. I texted her yesterday teatime asking if she got car sorted. Still not had a reply 🙄 think i can wave goodbye to the £200. Lesson learned 
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  • Pollycat
    Pollycat Posts: 34,672 Forumite
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    I think you could have titled your thread 

    Would you lend money to an ex?

    Here's a recent thread discussing lending money that ran to 12 pages:
    Sister has asked me to lend money - how to deal with it - Page 12 — MoneySavingExpert Forum

    Maybe your ex is busy with sorting her car our out or doing Christmassy things.
    Or maybe you can kiss goodbye to the £200.

    My answer to the question would be an unequivocable 'NO'.


  • JReacher1
    JReacher1 Posts: 4,652 Forumite
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    edited 24 December 2022 at 10:24AM
    Based on your other thread it sounds like a toxic relationship.  I think you need to move on from her, block her number and have no more contact. 
  • Emmia
    Emmia Posts: 3,149 Forumite
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    The short answer. No 


    However, before marriage I blocked numbers/ social media of ex's and deleted their details from my phone to remove this type of contact - do that too, to remove future contact. 
  • Gam2015
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    74jax said:
    Is this the ex who moved out for 2 weeks but wouldn't tell you that the relationship was over because she still wanted to ivf?
    If so then not a chance I'd have handed over the money. 
    That’s the one 🤦🏻‍♂️
  • Pollycat
    Pollycat Posts: 34,672 Forumite
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    Gam2015 said:
    74jax said:
    Is this the ex who moved out for 2 weeks but wouldn't tell you that the relationship was over because she still wanted to ivf?
    If so then not a chance I'd have handed over the money. 
    That’s the one 🤦🏻‍♂️
    Then based on your other threads about her, your money is gone.
  • SusieT
    SusieT Posts: 1,267 Forumite
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    One ex sure if I could help I would, but we are still friends and the loan would only be what I could afford although if it were me that was asked I know things would have to be desperate and I am 99.99% certain it would be repaid as soon as possible. Others a big no, they are out of my life and on hello how are you only terms if we were ever to meet, and thats if we actually recognised each other. 
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  • Slinky
    Slinky Posts: 9,979 Forumite
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    What's that saying? If you lend £20 to a friend and never see them again it was probably worth it.
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  • Xenon
    Xenon Posts: 236 Forumite
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    Gam2015 said:
    74jax said:
    Is this the ex who moved out for 2 weeks but wouldn't tell you that the relationship was over because she still wanted to ivf?
    If so then not a chance I'd have handed over the money. 
    That’s the one 🤦🏻‍♂️
    Then why give her money ?

    Block her and move on - she is the past
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