Would you lend money to an ex?

london21

No.

Give what you can afford and would not mind losing only. 

Claddagh_Noir

If it was my ex, they would have no way of contacting me.  I would have disappeared and become untraceable to them.  How dare they have the cheek to ask. Don't lend or in this case, give her anymore!

MalMonroe

No. The only person I would ever lend anything to is my daughter because I know I'll get it back. 

As someone else said, only lend what you are prepared to lose.

Your ex is your ex for a reason and that reason really is very clear here. You should steer clear and move forward. Hate to say it but it's so true - there are soooo many more fish out there. And some of them are decent human beings to boot.

gizmo111

Yes - and we have helped each other many times over the years, but not everyone is that lucky to be able to still remain friends and have that trust. 

DullGreyGuy

Give only as a gift with no expectation of repayment... if they happen to repay then great but you accept from the start that its bye bye money.  "Loans" between friends, family etc are a bad idea.

TBagpuss

I think it is the same as any other question about lending money - it depends, on the person, your relationship with them, your financial situation, whether you could afford to lose the money and/o the relationship.

I have one ex who I would lend money to, but we were friends before we darte and stayed friends afterwards, and 'friend' element is muchmore relvant than the 'ex' part. 
It's really common for one of us to buy tickets for something we both want to go to and the other to pay them back, or for one of us to pay for a meal and the other to pay thm back or pick up the next one, so we both know that the other person is trustworthy.

There are other, including some family members, whoI wouldn't lend money to unless I was willingto see it as a gift  becasue I wouldn't fell confiodent that I would get it back.

 OP, in your cae, if she texted you and awas explicitly askingto borrow the money then you would be a fairly srtong position to ask for it back and possibly even go via small claims if need be, as it would be very hard for her to claim it was a gift, but it's probably nt worth it for £200.

I would however text her again to sugget a repayent arrangement, maybe £50 a month , and see what she says.