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Marriage, relationships & families

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MoneySaving mums

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Practicalities about signing LPA forms
I have read all the guidance on gov.uk and the insistence that the signatures must be done in the right order, but, whilst not wishing to do anything illegal, how is that practicable if one attorney lives at a long distance, or it simply proves impossible to get the relevant people together to do it all on one day. as is…
Money Moral Dilemma: Should I pay Mum back after she replaced my gift to my aunt without asking me?
This week's MoneySaver who wants advice asks... I gave my mum a present to take to my aunt, as she was seeing her before Christmas and I wasn't. But instead of giving my gift, she bought a different one without consulting me and gave it to my aunt on my behalf. I'm upset as she obviously thought my gift was inadequate or…
Deceased wife's refund
My wife passed away 10 months ago and we paid her bills out of a joint bank account. When she passed we failed to inform a finance company with whom she had purchased a mobile phone and some other electrical devices. We contacted them to advise that she had passed away 10 months ago. Because she paid from the joint account…
Leaving 2nd property in will
I am an elderly gentleman so please bear with me whilst i try to explain the situation i have, Many years ago i bought a house for my son and his then young children to live in. The house was in my name but he lived in it and he paid the mortgage payments. He lived there for the 24 years until the mortgage was paid off.…
UK partner visa
Hi, I met my partner, who's based abroad, online in 2021. We first met in-person in early 2023 for 3 weeks and have had two lengthy visits since (August to November 2023 and June to November 2024). Come February, we were looking at the possibility of applying for the partner visa, since the relationship needs to be at…
Ex stopped half of Army Pension payments
Hello, Me and my ex husband divorced 20 years ago. We agreed on him paying me half of his Army Pension( No Court order) . Usually paid on the 3rd of each month. I have not had a payment today. Can he just stop paying, We were married for 20 years. Thank you in advance.
Marriage Failure. Help.
I've been absent from MSE for a good while but this is the only place I can put my problems into words and get advice which I'll probably ignore. So the context. Married in 1990 now 57 years old, 2 grown up kids and one grandchild. There has always been trauma in our relationship. My wife could be described as prone to…
Money Moral Dilemma: I loaned my friend £1,000 and she isn't paying it back - what should I do?
This week's MoneySaver who wants advice asks... I've often loaned my friend money when she's been short, and she's always paid me back over a few months. This time, she borrowed £1,000 - but two weeks later, she asked if she could pay me £20 a month. I have a deteriorating medical condition, and this may be my final year -…
Eden Red Childcare Voucher Scheme
Hello good people! Anyone in the same situation with Eden Red Childcare Vouchers please? Anyone managed to get left over balance back through their ex employer after they left? I got £407 left in my account but unfortunately can not use them any more. My ex employer says they can not do anything as I no longer work for…
Dating post divorce ~ no 'umph'
Hey all, This is a post for those have walked the road of divorce and moved on in life. I am currently on the dating scene, plenty of people interested, but I am lacking the 'umph'; the drive to meet up week after week. The repetitive dance of getting to know someone new, for it to fail early on, smashing hope and all…
Money Moral Dilemma: Should I give my child money for a property as I gave the others wedding money?
This week's MoneySaver who wants advice asks... I have three children in their 30s. Two are married, and I contributed towards the cost of both weddings. My other child, who is single, purchased a property on their own and I lent them money towards the deposit. The amount they borrowed is similar to what I gifted towards…
Complications with Deputyship for Property and Financial Affairs.
Hello, My mother has been in care for a few years with dementia and I've come across an issue. A Solicitors have started the application for my mother deputyship of Property and Financial Affairs. They sent a forum to myself and to my brother (whom I've recently reconnected with). I sent my form off some time ago and the…
Historical divorce contract
Hi, my patents got divorced in the 1980’s and there was a legal contract put in place. I’m trying to get a copy of this as I believe this was not adhered to. I believe my siblings have took the original and are denying one existed to their financial benefit. I’ve tried writing to the courts but they say they only keep…
Family law solicitor dispute over bills with no contract
I had a family law solicitor who did not sent me his terms of business to sign. Five months into the case he sent it raising the rates from what was initially agreed. I did not sign it and told him I no longer wanted his services. Now I'm disputing half of the fees with him and he wants me to sign a "mandate" which is to…
Divorce/Separation Property
I am looking to research the potential impact of separation/divorce on my housing situation. married living in house worth 500-550k for past 10 years, shared mortgage about £180k. house bought with large deposit 160k from their family given with no terms/conditions re: me and share of home/value/future. One child, Our…
Savings for Niece
I would like to make regular payments into an account for my niece however I currently have a rather difficult relationship with her parent (my sibling). Is it possible for me to open an account in her name without ID or consent from her parents?
Lasting Power of Attorney - Certified Copy
Can anyone advise on a slight confusion I have regarding certifying a copy of an LPA? The gov.uk instructions state... Write the following text on the bottom of every page of the copy:"I certify this is a true and complete copy of the corresponding page of the original lasting power of attorney." On the final page of the…
Financial Order, starting the journey
I've got to the Final Order Divorce stage without starting any FO paperwork. To be honest, I've been putting it off because I am scared myself sons and I are going to be a lot worse off. I am Resident Parent in the family home to our two sons 13+7 and have been for 14 months, the boys Mother lives some distance away and…
Divorce
Hi All I'm new to this forum. My partner has just had his divorce finalised. Was very lengthy as his ex-wife was not very helpful in the situation. Also he had 3 solicitors through no fault of his. He went to the 3rd solicitor with decree nisi complete and all that needed done was to have his pension shared which he paid…
finding marriage registration
anyone knows how to find if overseas marriage before citizenship has been registered in the uk. marriage was shariah based. i can see one can request a paper copy but which year to put it as for multiple years' input multiple payments will need to be made. is the first year when marriage was based and a visa was applied…