Holidays as a single person

KxMx

Do people in relationships get questioned as much about who they are going on holiday with as single people?

I'm long term single, not happily, but I'm very used to being single and in my own company. 

Most who know me, know this, but I've had so very many questions about who I'm going on holiday with I wondered if it was unique to singles or not?

My answer is usually followed by a head tilt, sympathetic look or a "oooh you're brave" comment, sometimes all 3! 😬

Personally I never ask anyone that question, single or otherwise. 

Emmia

People in couples normally go on holiday with their other half,  and if they're going solo or with a friend they usually say that when they're discussing their plans. I like going away solo even though I'm attached, no one has ever commented on this. I also travel solo for work .. again no comments.

Personally I don't comment on this type of thing, I normally ask about what kind of holiday (beach, ski, city break etc.) where they're going - what they're hoping to see etc. If it's somewhere I've been and they haven't, I might offer a recommendation of somewhere to eat or visit, transport options etc.

FlorayG

Most people know I'm just me so the question is more "Are you going with anyone?" rather than "Who are you going with" but yeah, people in relationships think it weird that anyone could enjoy a holiday alone.
I went to Disneyworld on my own and got a park badge that announced 'First Solo Trip' and it made me laugh just how many people approached me and said " Oh you're so lucky, I wish I could do that, my family are driving me insane this week" 

BridgetTheCat

I do both solo holidays and trips away with friends, so I suppose it’s normal for people to ask me whether I’m going with anyone even though they know I’m single. It’s part of normal conversation and I don’t attribute any malice to it. @KxMx Maybe the question grates because you’re ’not happily’ single?

I do get the ‘ brave’ comment quite a lot but I take it to mean ‘confident’. I also know people who say the same thing about going to the cinema or eating in a restaurant alone.

KxMx

I know why the question grates for me personally 😊

Just curious if other singles also experience this, and what the norm for people in relationships is. 

FlorayG

KxMx said:

Just curious if other singles also experience this, and what the norm for people in relationships is. 

I think the norm for couples is that everyone just assumes they are going as a couple and then get very weird about it if one of the couple says "No, I'm going on my own".

Ordinary_Yet_Unique

I am single and enjoy going away on my own. I rarely get those comments but if I do I always reply “Much better than going with someone lol”. I can do as I please and have fun with who I please! 

DullGreyGuy

KxMx said:

Do people in relationships get questioned as much about who they are going on holiday with as single people?

I'm long term single, not happily, but I'm very used to being single and in my own company. 

Most who know me, know this, but I've had so very many questions about who I'm going on holiday with I wondered if it was unique to singles or not?

My answer is usually followed by a head tilt, sympathetic look or a "oooh you're brave" comment, sometimes all 3! 😬

Personally I never ask anyone that question, single or otherwise. 

Who are questioning you? People here or when you are on holiday?

With couples people just assume that you are going with your partner but if you correct that assumption and say you are going solo or going with a friend instead etc then yes it also leads to a raft of questions about why you arent going together, do you trust your partner whilst away etc. It gets worse if you say you are not going with your partner but a friend of the opposite sex (or guess maybe same sex if you are "out") when people then want to know the sleeping arrangements and double down on the trust questions. 

KxMx

Questions from people here, my friends and family 🙂

Appreciate all the replies, it's good to know what the same issue is like on a different side of life- similar it seems! 

Exodi

I suspect I'd be guilty of this,.

If I'm being totally honest, the idea of going on holiday alone is quite alien to me, so I think my brain would just assume someone would always be going with someone else (hence why I might ask if I know someone to be single - perhaps they've met someone? etc).

It's good so many have a great time travelling solo, personally I'm not sure I'd enjoy eating dinner alone in a resort and having no-one to talk to - unless of course you guys are social butterflies and make friends with other people on holiday. I am envious of the concept though.

I'd also imagine it is significantly more common for women to travel solo than men, which might explain my view and the responses to this thread that say they travel solo (which I suspect are all from women?).

DullGreyGuy

KxMx said:

Appreciate all the replies, it's good to know what the same issue is like on a different side of life- similar it seems! 

Its less often, most couples probably do holiday together and you always have the option of not correcting them when they assume your going with your partner but yes, it becomes similar or worse when they find out its not you going with your partner