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Marriage, Relationships & Families sticky
👪 Here are some Forum threads you might find useful: * Information about term time holidays and imposed penalties * Please look after your privacy, we can't do it for you! * What to do when a partner/spouse dies * Pet Insurance guide discussion area * Free rail travel for people fleeing domestic violence 👪 And here's some…
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Changing back to maiden name
has anyone had any issues with changing back to maiden name after divorce - I am currently selling my home (not the marital home) and wondering whether to wait until afterwards but just wondering if anyone came up with any negative issues
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Name change & keeping professional identity
Could anyone share personal experience with changing your surname but keeping a professional identity under your former name? We both do very different work but it is locked quite significantly in our given names. I absolutely don't wish to and can't change my name in a professional capacity. My partner feels similarly.…
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Power of Attorney online tool STILL not live – here's how the process is set to change in future
An online tool to apply for Lasting Power of Attorney (LPA) is still not available despite being announced over a year ago – and the Government has confirmed that it doesn't have a launch date. This means a tricky paper form remains the only way to apply for this crucial protection. Power of Attorney online tool STILL not…
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Lack of family time starting to get to me
When my partner returned to work after our son was born, we agreed she would go back to work part time as our finances and childcare etc allowed this. I work Monday to Friday in a 9-5 job, she went back to work and told her employer her availability was all day Monday, Tuesday, Thursday and she was available at a weekend…
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Options we have for a distant MIL
Hello! Apologies If this isn't the right place. I've got a slightly awkward situation involving my wife and technically MiL. For various reasons my wife has been no contact with her mum for many many years. She's in the past few years gone through some specialist therapy and has semi recently been in contact over email,…
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MSE News: Martin Lewis: 'Let's make it easier for people in Scotland to use their Power of Attorney'
People in Scotland are being "sub-served" when they come to use their Power of Attorney compared with other UK nations, Martin Lewis has said. In a letter sent to the Scottish Government today (Thursday 5 February 2026), the MoneySavingExpert.com founder has urged for change to prevent unnecessary stress at what is…
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Partner not contributing to house expenses. Is it fair?
I've been with my partner for about 25 years and we have a grown up child between us who lives away. He moved into my house after our child was born and since then we've moved house twice. Before I fell pregnant I owned my own house and had a lodger to help with the mortgage. He owned his own flat that was mortgaged. After…
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Inheritance implications of parents living with me
Hello Forumites, I may have found the answer elsewhere, but appreciate the knowledge and experience of you lovely people! My elderly parents own a house worth around £500k which they have lived in since year dot. They are still in good health, but my family are moving away to a house that has a self-contained flat. We are…
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Buying my long term partner's share of house and mortgage
I would like to buy my partner's share of the house. How do I go about it? As an example the house is worth £360K with £60k left on the mortgage. The mortgage and ownership is split 50/50. We are not married. My new partner and I would like buy my partner's share outright less £30k my partner owes on the outstanding…
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Cheap Ancestry membership
Just renewed at about 1/2 of going rate These are for 12 months tooAnnual Worldwide for £89.99 https://www.ancestry.co.uk/checkout/mli?direct=1&quantities=1&flow=3&offers=O-24532&rType=11 Annual UK Premium for £59.99 https://www.ancestry.co.uk/checkout/mli?direct=1&quantities=1&flow=3&offers=O-24531&rType=11 There is the…
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Money Moral Dilemma: Should I lend £20,000 to my in-debt in-laws and risk not getting it back?
This week's MoneySaver who wants advice asks... My in-laws have a mountain of debt in mortgages on three properties. My father-in-law quit his well-paid job after burning out, the bills piled up and now they’re skint. I've inherited some money, and my wife wants me to lend her parents £20,000 to see them through selling…
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Questions to ask to understand parents finances
Hi, my parents are competent and pretty self sufficient, but are aging and do have a few physical limitations, with my father's memory also not being great. My father has always been the one who manages their money, investments, bills, etc, as my mother has had no interest in this. Over the last couple of years they have…
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Lasting Power of Attorney - activation key
Hi - my wife and I Lasting Power of Attorneys has been registered. In letters from OPG confirming registration they have given me an activation key to add the LPA to online account, both my LPA as donor, and my wife's as attorney. When do I use the activation key? We don't want to 'activate' the LPAs - i.e. we don't need…
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Which? Power of Attorney Service - Scotland
I'm looking into Power of Attorney in Scotland where we don't have the same DIY form-filling options as England and Wales. Given solicitors charge around £400 for PoA, the Which? DIY service at around £69 (for both welfare and continuing powers of attorney) looks good value, complies with Scots Law and your completed…
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Mum's care team asking me to give up power of attorney so that local authority oversees finances
My 85 year old mother is bipolar and has had dementia for a few years now, though it is advancing slowly and she still is able to take care of herself. She lives in her home on her own since my dad died 12 years ago - she was mentally and physically abusive to him for many years, and unfortunately transferred the mental…
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Financial Advice - Elderly parent care
Hi, how do we choose someone who can provide sensible financial advice for how we look after my dad please? Everyone seems to have different advice! (that always seems to benefit them funnily enough). Happy to pay for independent advice. How much should we budget for this? He's 80yo with severe dementia. His health has…
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Deprivation of assets question: Related hypothetical question
lRe the post: ""transfered mother in laws house to my wife and sister 15 years ago to avoid future care home costs" does not apply to me but has got me thinking. With no intention of cheating, and, not now or in the past being eligible for or claiming government means tested benefits, some years ago and long before my…
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transfered mother in laws house to my wife and sister 15 years ago to avoid future care home costs
My mother in law was widowed 15 years ago. We felt it was prudent to transfer house ownership to my wife and her sister to avoid any future issues with future care home costs. In November 2025 my MIL was struggling to live on her own so was put into a care home. No chance of her returning to her house I'm afraid, so we…
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Cancelled Family Court Hearing
About two months ago, the Oxford Family Court cancelled my daughter's Two DayaFinal Childrens' Matters Hearing 48 hours beforehand because of a shortage of judges. My daughter still lost between £7,900 in legal fees because her barrister had already booked two days to be in court. I understand all my daughter is able to do…
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Implications of my mum giving or lending me money to buy my husband out of our house
Hello, my husband and I are separating and have agreed he will keep all our cash and I will keep the house, however, I need an additional £45,000 to do this. My mum has said she will give or lend me this amount, which ever is preferable. Can anyone in this forum advise if there will be any tax implications and how best to…
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