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Divorce without lawyers
In Scotland. Sister has split with husband they were together nearly 20 years no children. There Is a house/pensions and money in banks He is being an !!!!!! now that she is now wanting the financial to get sorted rather than let it go on He has decided not to play ball and now says everything through a lawyer. All she wants…
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My soon to be ex has lied on his consent order and is refusing to add the assets of the marriage that total 45k , he has a share of a 2nd property which he has disclosed. He threating me that he will draw the 2nd home and call it " inheritance " ( family member still on this planet ) hes also treating that i will get far…
Complaint about care home
Not sure if anyone has had experience of having to deal with missing items in a care home? My brother lives in a care home for people with mental health issues and within the last couple of months a lot of stuff have gone missing. Some of the stuff my brother says he threw out but he is very confused with so much…
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Both agreeing on dissolution
Good evening everyone Long time lurked on this website (years), and the forum, but first time poster. My partner and I have been together for almost 19 years, and in a civil partnership for the last 14 months. Sadly, we’ve realised we’ve fallen out of love. We are still great friends, its just the spark has gone. We have…
Charging my son Annual Board instead of monthly? and any tax implactions
Hi everyone, Firstly sorry if this is in the wrong thread (Not sure as its family AND tax related). Cutting to the chase, My son has been paying a monthly board to us for the last few years at a very low rate, he's saving plenty and as he knows all about the costs of living etc ,and is aware that he'll have to pay more in…
Power of Attorney or will?
Hi, I am after some advice regarding a will etc if we are not married. We are currently unsure what is best to do as we are together with a mortgage and i have a 22 year old son with another partner and two children with my current partner 18 and 7. if one of us in an unfortunate event dies, we want the mortgage/house to…
Mum (early 60s) doesn't seem to be enjoying life particularly much. No partner or grandchildren
My mum is 61 and unfortunately isn't enjoying her life very much. I know this because she has discussed it with me. I suspect that a couple of key factors contributing to the situation are that she has no romantic partner and no grandchildren. The fact that she has no grandchildren is unfortunately my fault. I am her only…
Cashpot at care home
My brother is in a care home for the mentality ill. He keeps throwing his debit card away so we need to set up a cashpot at the care home for him to access his money. The care home has sent me an agreement on how the cashpot should operate. I have access to my brother's bank account as I manage his finances. So I will send…
MSE News: Scottish Power of Attorney process to improve next year with more changes in the works
Managing a Power of Attorney in Scotland is set to become easier next year with the launch of an online database, which should enable banks and other organisations to confirm you've got the paperwork in place. Campaigners had urged for it to be made much simpler to put your Power of Attorney to use in Scotland – though not…
Here we can all be heard for a little while. Part 3
This thread is a continuation of The Mental Health thread “Here we can all be heard for a little while Part 2”. The previous thread can be found here- https://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/discussion/5320917 I started the original thread when I was lonely and suffering with mental health issues and was lucky to find a…
Power of Attorney Gifts
I hold a Lasting Power of Attorney to manage my dad’s finance and property affairs. Dad has recently gone into full time residential care, currently using his savings to pay fees, his property has been put up for sale which will fund care Home costs when his savings run out in around 18months. A sibling has approached my…
I am getting a divorce, as main earner (85%) of household I am being told I need to leave, advice pl
Hi getting a divorce and have been told I need to move out the house, got hit with a non-mol and occ order which got over turned as nothing was wrong with it and now being told I am not allowed to go back in by ex partner I have to go stay elsewhere to "save money" whilst they have a 4 bed house and are PT whilst the wage…
Splitting moving costs
I moved in with my boyfriend three years ago. I have my own room(menopause } but none of the furniture or household bits are mine. I still have a house elsewhere. My boyfriend has sold up and we are going into rental. He wants me to pay 50% of the moving costs £1000 my share. He refuses to get a lower quote or move…
Money Moral Dilemma: Should I bail out my son who wants nothing to do with me?
This week's MoneySaver who wants advice asks… My adult son lives in the USA and took out student loans in 2016, which my American friend agreed to co-sign for. She recently contacted me to say she is being chased for a payment of $27,000 [£20,000], or they'll deduct $1,100 [£800] every month from her pension. My son's…
Loan to sibling for house purchase deposit....
My sibling has asked for a loan, to go towards a deposit on a house for family - long time renters. Their proposal is to pay back in 12 months, which I think they may struggle with, with a new mortgage (but maybe not?). However I am keen to help, but I have my own family to keep in mind too. I am thinking (I still need to…
Nursing home and finance
I need some advice. My parents have joint accounts and house is in joint names. We have been told that my father needs palliative care in a nursing home. Is my mother ok to move some money from her joint account to a sole account? Obviously not all, we want my father to have his care.
Reasonable fixed fee for obtaining probate/administering an estate?
I've been talking to a large legal organisation who specialise in this service. I don't want to handle the estate myself. The only noteworthy assets are a property worth about £700,000-750,000, plus bank accounts and cash savings of about £130,000. No complications that I can see. The will is very simple - myself and my…
Transfer of property ownership
I'm looking for some advice regarding the transfer of property ownership. My parents have lived in their matrimonial home for 25 years, and at the moment, my mother is the sole owner. We are planning to add my father to the title, so it’s jointly held in both their names. There’s no mortgage on the property, and we’ve had…
Money Moral Dilemma: Should I give some of my lottery winnings to the person who gave me the ticket?
This week's MoneySaver who wants advice asks... A relative always puts a lottery ticket in family and friends' birthday cards. In my most recent card, I won a decent sum of money on the ticket - should I keep it, or tell them about it and offer to deal them in on the winnings? Unfortunately the MSE team can't answer Money…