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Mortgage / Divorce advice
My wife left me back in April 2016 and moved back in with her mum with the kids. The mortgage is currently in joint names but she is not paying anything towards the mortgage. My mum has agreed to buy her out of the mortgage and pay it off in full with me paying the money back to her over time, she is refusing this although…
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Violent drug abusing stepson.
I'm not sure if this is the right place or forum but I'm after some advice on how to deal with my partner's 24 year old son. We have lived together for 5 years, with my partner's younger son (20), her eldest son went off the rails at around the age of 15 and is now dependant on legal highs, he lives in shared accommodation…
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seperation issue
I am separating from my ex. I have asked for shared custody one week our daughter is with me the other with her which she did agree too.. I work a flexible hours mon-fri, she has a complicated shift rota system. Our daughter wants the week on week off but the ex is trying to stipulate how I work my week ie be there in the…
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applying for contact order
Hi everyone, OH is going to start the application for fixed access to his son, does any fathers have any good experiences of this? he has made this decision due to ex constantly moving the goal posts with times/dates etc, not being allowed to see him on christmas or birthdays/take him on holiday. There has been no domestic…
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Engagement ring - getting the most for your money.
Hello all. So after living with my girlfriend for just a month we found out we're expecting. That in mind I'm looking to propose to my girlfriend of two years. I've saved up around £2k and I'm looking to get a nice ring for her. Ideally I want a platinum ring (they stay brighter for longer than white gold) then a nice…
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Dummies guide for daughter living alone
Hi I wonder if anyone has ever put together a "folder" to leave for a child who's going to be living in the house without dad for the first time? Kind of....what to do if there's no hot water, if the lights go out, where the stop-!!!! is, what day the bins go out etc. A-Z of living in a house, really. Looking to put this…
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peed off
Good evening, help advice needed re bills etc. my partner and I had an amicable arrangement whilst we were together re bills etc ALL ARE IN MY NAME barring the mortgage which is joint. we have separated but still live in the same house for the sake of our daughter, recently her job has had issues whereby she has had her…
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School Holidays Help
Hi All, So me and my wife told a little porkie at school in order to get a few extra days holiday on the back of the easter period. Our reason, we had a wedding to attend and my wife is on maternity and we figured that with my daughter being in Reception, missing a few extra days would be ok. However, it backfired on us…
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Divorce Fees - Who pays them
Hi, I am in the process of getting divorced and originally we agreed to do this amicably and keep the costs down. However she has since proceeded on with a solicitor and the whole situation has changed. My question is, who pays the divorce & solicitors fees? Originally we were going to go 50/50 but now her solicitor is…
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Child Maintenance Service - Paying too much
Morning, I wonder if anyone has had any issues with the CMS when paying too much and if there has been any success in reviewing the amount they have had to pay and what they have had to do? I have just received my annual review letter, which has seen a significant increase in what I am supposed to pay each month, so I…
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Off work with leukaemia What's best to do? Please help
Hi I'm Tom first time post browser on site for a few years. I'll try to be brief a month ago I was diagnosed and admitted for intense chemo for ALL LEUKEMIA. Iv got a note for 6 month out of work and and I am in Hospital being treated. My work are being good about it a said I'll be ok for a few months and the review my…
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Why do developmental milestones matter?
I think a lot of the expectations of "child must do X Y Z by a certain age" comes from health visitors, and their advice is always to push the child to do those things But as long as they aren't disabled and eventually do those things why does it matter whether he/she does it by X months of age? School is so slow paced…
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His Ex has got the C.M.S. involved
Hello, In the 2 and a half years since my partner left, and she divorced him, he had not once defaulted in paying the child maintenance, which they agreed on at the start. Because of a demand she made, and he didn't agree with shortly after Christmas, she approached the C.M.S. who re-calculated what he should be paying.…
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Big Saving
While searching for days out I came across this for days out at Chessington World of Adventures. If you have a toddler under 6 this beats any other offer by miles. You have to book at least 2 days in advance. chessington.com/plan/chessington-adult-and-preschool-ticket.aspx
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Benefits
Hi All, My wife and I will shortly be first time parents. I've been trawling the internet to find out what benefits we'll be entitled to and whilst I think I've worked it out (just child benefit), thought I would ask here too in case I'd missed anything obvious. Our joint income is £57k (me 42, her 15) . Is there anything…
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CMS - Retroactive adjustment?
Hello there, I have a dilemna. When my ex raised the CMS case in November, she said it was to help her get a mortgage and then she would drop it. She never had a mortgage as the house sale fell through and it is obvious that she has no intention to ever drop the case. Back in November, I was in Biz trip and to help…
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Sharing Parential leave
Hi all Wife expecting 1st child at xmas.. as normal she will get 9 months off with her package but she has to return to work for 2 month after or have to pay back the money they paid while she was on maternity leave. We no friend or family so will be quite hard but would this work... i take the last 2 month off (so wife go…
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Need advice for gutter protection
I recently bought a house and it has no gutter protections. Since i have a lot of trees and a steep roof and a four story house , the gutters are filling up with crud.Thus we are looking for a gutter protection solution but i don’t know what is best.I am looking for gutter protection that’s is good in all seasons. I got a…
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Buying another house with ex - her rights as the mother of my child?
Hi, this is going to seem a really bizarre question to some other separated dads, but I want to help my ex move from the area we used to live in together, to somewhere else. Our daughter is still only 8 and I'm happy my ex gets to stay in the house until she's 18. I'm not suffering financially as a result of the split and…
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Quality of personal finance education at schools
Hi all - is it just me or are other parents of 11+ year olds finding the quality (or lack of) personal finance education in some schools worrying? To be honest we have started to educate our kids about the rights and wrongs and wondered whether other parents did this and any tips?
