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Marriage, relationships & families

Discuss the MoneySaving implications of relationships and family life.

MoneySaving mums

A place for mums with kids of all ages to discuss parent MoneySaving matters.

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A place for dads with kids of all ages to discuss parent MoneySaving matters.

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Get MoneySaving help at the time of bereavement - discuss wills, inheritance tax, estate planning and more.

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Sexless marriage
I can’t believe how shattering to my self esteem our sexless relationship is it came from nowhere it’s been 5 years now . You can’t underestimate the damage it does
Scammed on dating site
I know this is a long shot, but I have been targeted by an online dating scam, most likely a very professional Nigerian dating scam, totally plausible and believable, my friends and family were all as convinced as I was that this was a genuine person. I lost a sum of money (I realise this was my responsibility and that it…
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People who are married / live with long term partner do you still have a seperate saving accounts ?
People who are married / live with long term partner do you still have a seperate saving accounts for yourself ?. (So you have atleast something saved as an emergency fund just encase it all goes sour etc )
Property Purchasing Below Market Value from Parents, they want a divorce agreement.
Hi, I am looking for advise on a never nice situation, but my wife and myself are purchasing a property from my parents for BMV. They would like an agreement to say that if we split up then my wife will only be entitled to 50% of the value that we purchased it for, or the difference to Market Value is excluded from this. I…
How do you handle insubordination in kids?
Hi money savers, I'd love to know how you deal with your kids. I mean, how you get them to do this they wouldn't want to do without yelling at them. Thank you.
Mortgage gift deposit form and declaration of trist
Could someone help me please? my parents purchased a property with a family member and a gift deposit form was used the relationship turned sour. My parents sought legal advise and had in place a declaration of trust and constructive trust drawn up to cut a long story short while my parents where on holiday their…
Money Moral Dilemma: Should I ask my neighbour to pay for the meat they spoiled?
This week's MoneySaver who wants advice asks... I recently ordered around £40 worth of meat online. I was at home when it was due to be delivered, but received a text saying it had been left with my neighbour. I went over 10 minutes later, and they told me via their video doorbell that they'd gone out and wouldn't be back…
Life after domestic abuse on a joint mortgage...
Hello, I haven't posted here much, although I have been a silent lurker and reader of the forums for years. I am hoping that someone has some advice to offer me, as I feel like I've searched the internet on this one, and not found much to support my specific situation. I'm sorry about the essay that is to follow. I jointly…
Friends refusing to refund holiday moneh
I booked 2 holidays this summer with some friends: a holiday to a cottage and a camping trip both costing me around £110 for the 2 but with fall outs in the group they are refusing to let me come or give me my money back. what should I do? I have linked an image of the message
Financial Remedy Order
Hello, I would need some guidance about Financial Remedy Order after divorce and hope someone might be able to help me. I am now divorced from my ex Husband as of last year. Sorting out finances has not been an easy task. At first we have agreed of no splitting of assets and I have sent off for Consent Order to be dealt…
Decree Nisi to Decree Absolute divorce question
Hi. I'm the petitioner. I can apply the decree nisi to be made absolute after 16 June 2021 but the financial claims of my wife hasn't been settled. I wish to delay decree absolute. Could you please assist.
Partner is still married, after 4 years of being together?!
My partner is still married after 4 years in to our relationship and has been going through divorce proceedings with his ex during the entire time. I feel like a dirty secretive mistress and I am embarassed to say I am with a married man when work colleagues, friends and family ask when we’re going to tye the knot! It’s…
WILL
Hi, I have been married for over 35 years and have four step children. However whilst I have worked hard all my life (my wife never worked) I supported my wife and the step children and payed for almost everything. However my wife now wants us both to make a will, she has been very controlling all of our marriage and I…
Advice on buying out partner from mortgage
My wife and I are separating and we're starting the horrible process of deciding how we can move on with our lives and minimise the impact on our 2 children (8 & 5). We have a joint mortgage (i.e. joint tenancy) and approximately 50% equity in our house. After doing initial sums, I think that I can buy her out without…
ex-husband threatening to enter mutual property when I'm not there
Hello wonderful people I have a genuine problem that I need advice with. I live in a house that I bought with my now ex-husband in 2011. We have to sell the property to pay the shared equity loan. The house is not ready to go on the market as yet , a long story, but now my ex is threatening to "make entry" to the house…
How to split my estate fairly in my will
I am single, mid-sixties no kids or exes. I plan to leave my estate equally to my three nieces. There is a hitch though. One of my nieces is in fact a step niece, for want of a better word. When my brother married his wife, he took the child on as his own, who was then about 3(before having two further daughters, my…
POA - Some advice - but also - who decides?
I have just started to create a POA on the government website. Once we know what we want to say, my wife will raise a "mirror" version of mine. There will be both a financial and a health POA for both of us eventually. So - questions. 1. I had assumed that my wife would be my first attorney and my three children (all…
House sale detb
Hi all. My house is on the very last stage of sale. It is morgaged by myself and ex husband, he has run up a hugh detb with is only in his name there is a charge order against the house attached to it all figures have been calculated now and he has a short fall of £8553 if it doesnt pay it even though i know he has the…
Ex still hasnt shared the pension 6 yeares later.
This was due to a mistake by the courts but of course hes made zero effort to correct or chase it. Do i have to go back to the family court or could I pursue this as a debt through the small claims does anyone know ?