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MoneySaving mums

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CHC Funding for Sick Elderly Parent - Help/Advice Needed.
My Mam was in hospital for a couple of weeks after having issues with breathing. She has terminal lung cancer. After a while they said there wasn't anything more they could do, and sent her home with a oxygen concentrator machine in place along with a care package and district nurses coming out to drain her lungs 3 times a…
Breakdown in Communication
Hi all, Long time lurker looking for some advice. My husband's ex-wife has become impossible to communicate with regarding their daughter who is now 13. They split up after 1.5years of marriage (daughter was 2) after his ex-wife had an affair. Ex-wife has a son but has no relationship with her son's dad, neither does the…
separation and house selling help
ill try and break down the key facts, if i miss anything i apologize married for 3 years ( not divorced yet ) bought the house before we got married mortgage and deeds in her name alone we have one child we live in wales shes living with parents, and ive found my own place I have just found out that she has put the house…
Prevent wife from selling matrimonial assets
Hopefully someone can help first time poster please be kind we are getting divorced, it will not be amicable. My wife owns 2 rental properties which are a good part of the household income. I do realise that I can’t receive any rent from them, but I’m apprehensive that ensue may try to sell them before the money side of…
Setting up LPA for relative with Parkinson's
My Brother in law has been struggling with Parkinson's for the last few years and now wishes to set up an LPA, unfortunately his mobility is not good nor is his speech, you really have to concentrate and listen hard. Is it possible to arrange for a solicitor to visit him to set up these LPA's, he lives in Honiton. Or what…
Husband who recently suggested divorce has backtracked but wants to see financial advisor
Long story but recently husband has wanted a divorce. He's said my son and I can keep the house and he'll rent a flat, which I don't think is fair, as he's pumped a lot into the property we're in. Reconciliation, but he's saying he wants to see a financial advisor at the end of this month, and wants to know how much I…
Moved: Home Buying Solicitors letter stating equity query = ANY IDEAS
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Live-in doesn't think he should contribute to the bills
My boyfriend owns his own flat. I sold my flat 6 months ago, and I'm due to complete on my new place next week (fingers crossed). We lived together previously and plan to again, but something he's just said is bothering me. He's planning to rent his flat when we move back in together, but hasn't set any of the wheels in…
What was your biggest misconception about money when you were a child?
The Social team posed this question on Twitter a while back after we debated it at MSE HQ. One of my colleagues used to believe that any price ending with 99p was cheap, and another thought ATMs were just magic free money machines. What about you, Forumites? What was your biggest misconception about money when you were a…
IHT 403 - Gifts and expenditure table
Hi, My mother passed away recently and I'm working my way through the HMRC forms and have now reached the Gifts section of IHT403. I've checked through posts and cannot find the exact answers to my queries so would appreciate some help. I can complete the income section fine . It is the expenditure section that is not so…
Divorce - Financial Settlement
I'd be grateful for a bit of help and advice please. THE SCENE. I left my wife just over 2 years ago, and immediately entered a new relationship. Since separating my wife has continued to live in the marital house. The house is in joint names, there is no mortgage, it's fully paid for. There are no financial debts, and our…
School catchments
We have found the perfect home which we want to make an offer on. However we are really unsure due to the local schools. The closest 2 primary schools are not ones we really want to send our children to. They are about 0.3 miles from the house whereas the 4 schools we would ideally like on our list are 1-1.6 miles away.…
Person died on the day the will was due to be signed
A friend of mine who separated from her partner years ago but hadn’t finalised divorce had a short illness and had a will drafted by a solicitor. The solicitor took notes of their wishes and went away to type them up, and an appointment was made to come back with the will to be signed but on the day of the appointment the…
New Wills or Codicils to existing ones?
When I separated from my wife in July 2019 our savings were split 50% each. From part of those savings myself and my new partner bought a new caravan, which we more or less live in permanently, are are joint owners. My new partner and I both have existing Wills, both are more or less the same, ie. in the event of our death…
Divorce, slowly
I need to put my thoughts to paper, and would appreciate some ideas on how to handle this to get the best emotional and financial outcome, including keeping the house :) We're in Belgium. There's me (Dutch, 49F), husband (West-African, 45M), DDs (9 and 12), ... and husband's girlfriend (possibly same nationality, no idea…
Marriage breakup and divorce
-I have been married for 20 years-I bought the house 2 years befor I got married-We have 3 childresn aged 18, 15 and 10-My wife has been working as a child minder for 17 years or so-My wife has been using the house for her childminding business-The morgage is now paid but my wife has never contributed a penny towards the…
Solicitor For Divorce Now Threatening To Stop Defending Me & My Court Case
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Finances and marriage
I have been married to my husband for almost 20 years Over the years my career has taken a back step as I have worked part time to look after the house and children. We started out at a similar salary level, he is now the higher earner. I work part time he works full time and we combine some of our finances in a joint…
Amicable divorce, how to deal with the house
After 15 years we’ve decided the time is right to get a divorce. We’re still very good friends and have 2 kids, so we’re trying to find a way to allow me to stay in the house with the kids without him suffering too much financial hardship. We both have an equal claim to the equity in the house, which is about £100k each,…
Home and relationship breakdown
I own my house with my ex for 18yrs I’ve paid majority of interest only mortgage for 16yrs. Ex now planning to marry. Can new wife claim part of my house as ex is still on mortgage?