Marriage, relationships & families

So at the end of May 2021 after speaking with my ex twice about how i felt, i gave up and left our house. We never married but were engaged, she has 2 children that arent mine and since leaving ive been trying to get her to sell the house. We are joint tenants, all the furniture i paid for and white goods, i bought a car…

My husband and I have decided to separate amicably after 8 years. The short version of my dilemma is that my husband wants to stay at my house (bought before we married) whilst he saves a deposit even though he has his own mortgage free house which he rents out. He can’t get this house back as they’ve just signed a year…

I have full POA over my mother, who is 94 and very frail. We can't find the will she made 30 years ago (which leaves everything to me). As her Attorney, can I make a will for her that leaves everything to myself? I don't think anyone in my family would challenge this, but I'm concerned it might not be passed for probate.…

Hi all, Happy new year!. I was referred to a Senior solicitor from a community website, who is working as a partner in a legal firm in London.She gave me a rate for a "fixed fee" divorce of £950 + vat + court cost £550.For further "EMAIL ONLY" financial matters it will be from another junior solicitor with the rate of £200…

My partner and I met whilst he was going through a messy divorce and he subsequently went into an IVA. He is a high earner but they were hit by the flop in property market Nd had loans etc. I had my own house which had about £80k equity in it at the time. He has always said he does not want to own my house. My house is…

Moral dilemma: One of my neighbours has just been appointed a magistrate at the local Family court. He has quite a fiery character and the police have been called to the house for domestic violence issues, although I understand that no charges have been pressed Surely this police record would have been checked during the…

Hi. Really hope someone can help me. I will condense the situation best I can. bought a property with ex boyfriend (not married) March 2020. Have a Tenants in Common 95% to me 5% to him. I paid £110,000 deposit and mortgage of £140,000. In July 2020 we split and he was taken to court for criminal damage and a 1 year…

Myself and my mum are currently in a predicament, where my uncle has not been in my grandma and grandad's life for 20 - 25 years until my grandad passed away just short of four years ago, and has now managed to worm his way into my grandma's life. Whilst my grandad was unwell in 2017, he asked that I took care of my…

Hello. I recently applied through the VOA to have our house rebanded and was successful, going from band D to band C. I then received a rebate from the local council for the years we have been living here (since 2018). The house was bought by my in-laws as a new-build in 1973, and has been owned by them until my…

I was married briefly for 3 months then we split up and filed for divorce later. We never bought anything together, no joint assets, houses or accounts etc. However i owned my own house. Can she claim against me for finances or any of my assets? I never supported her in anyway as she has always worked and do have I...

Hello, I will try to write about my situation as clearly as possible… so it will be long… my boyfriend is from an EU country, we have been dating for 5 months now. His brother has been here in the UK for a long time with his wife and teenage son, they have a house, my boyfriend lives with them. When I first went out with…

My daughter wants to divorce her husband. They separated 2 years ago although did live together very briefly during that time due to them having no alternative accommodation. They sold the marital home almost a year ago and divided the proceeds and have each bought their own house. They have remained friends as they share…

Hi, my wife and I are considering separating/divorce- age 55 and 56. Both with non resident adult kids from previous relationships. We both work full-time earning £38k and £54k and have a house with a £140k repayment mortgage and likely equity of another £140k. We both pay extra into public sector pensions as we came…

I'm writing this on behalf of a friend after some advice and I said to try here, as I'm currently doing a mortgage application and found these forums really helpful. She is wanting to divorce her now husband as he had an affair and left this summer. She could go down the 'adultery’ or ‘unreasonable behaviour’ route for…

I hope this is the right place to post, I usually hang out on OS. I'm just wondering how you manage your finances. My hubby works FT - I stay home - I am disabled and applied for pip on 1st June which is currently going to MR (and tribunal if necessary). I also care for my son full time who is disabled. So We have my…

I am retired and in addition to the state pension I also have a small final salary pension and a SIPP in drawdown. I have taken the 25% from the SIPP some years ago (and spent it !). I do not take a regular income from the SIPP but occasionally take a small annual amount to supplement my other income. My question is in any…

I have been divorced for many years and in order to ensure payments are fair moving forward, we have agreed to set up a joint account to stop the constant tooing and froing when our children need haircuts, new shoes etc. Please advise of an account that will not affect my credit score.

Hi, Looking for some advice on to proceed. My partner and I have separated, we jointly fully own the property we live in as Joint Tenants since July 2021. I have served notice of intent to change this to Tenants in common today and will be sending the SEV form to the land registry tomorrow. I can afford to buy the house…

Hi and Christmas greetings to you! This is a request for impartial opinions from outside the family please. So, if a son, with car, asked his 75 year old mother to catch a train on her own - with suitcase and presents- to travel 25 miles to stay with him on Christmas Eve, what would you think. To give some context, the 75…

Following on from our December 2019 resolutions thread this is your chance to set your intentions for 2021. I know it feels odd to be setting goals when so much is unknown and unpredictable, but 2021 is going to happen in any case and I’m going to try to focus on the bits that I have some control over. As always I’m taking…