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Marriage, relationships & families

Discuss the MoneySaving implications of relationships and family life.

MoneySaving mums

A place for mums with kids of all ages to discuss parent MoneySaving matters.

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A place for dads with kids of all ages to discuss parent MoneySaving matters.

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Deaths, funerals & probate

Get MoneySaving help at the time of bereavement - discuss wills, inheritance tax, estate planning and more.

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For MoneySaving questions about taking care of your cat, dog, parrot or other animal companion, including vet fees and pet insurance.

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Please advise on my divorce case
Summary: Married for18 years with two children 17 and 13. We had a few domestic violence incidents in the past, wherein I missed a lot of opportunities to prove my side during those incidents considering the then age of my children. We have been living separately in the same house for more than 2+ years, based on that I…
Grandmother causing problems by lying
My grandmother is 95 soon and she's causing so much grief and stress. She lies all the time and makes up stories about things. This infuriates my father. She's not eating as lost so much weight. My grandmother claims she's 10st. More like 7! Then the other day, mum put something into her wheelie bin and noticed a load of…
VAT taken
I am just a little confused as to why my French buyers are charged VAT when I am not VAT registered. Item subtotal£40.00Postage£2.00VAT (eBay collected)£8.40Discount£0.00Total**£50.40
Am I alone...
...in finding that the MSE Forum is like a wise, elderly parent? I started consulting this site when I took my pension early at the age of 55 and a half. That was nearly 2 years ago now and I have dipped in and out of the Forum since then. I looked at it a lot 18 months - 2 years ago, took a break and then came back a few…
Neighbour Abroad Hasn't Been in Contact
My 80+ year old neighbour is currently living in Japan and usually calls us every two weeks to check in on her home that my sister is house sitting for her. The last we heard from her was on the 6th of February. A friend has contacted the local police but due to Data Protection they can't tell us anything. They did say…
Is it illegal to not pay a global payment through a court order
Hi please can anyone advise me? I have a global payment of £1000 per month through a court order for 2 children. It’s due to reduce to £750 when it’s just the younger child. One of them is 17 & has temporarily moved into his dads but today his father has reduced my payment to £500 without notice even though I am however…
I do I Help my Ukranian wife in Crimea
I am desperate for information on how to give financial support to my Ukrainian wife who is with my son and her sick mother in Crimea which is annexed by the Russians and now faces sanctions.
Divorce and pension sharing
Hello My question surrounds short term marriage 7 years and even shorter living together 3 years during the marriage although over the 14 Yr relationship we saw each other every weekend. In terms of our 'unconventional' marriage. How are the courts likely to view such a short-term living together arrangement at both her…
My ex partner is refusing to leave my house i solely own
Good afternoon all. I wonder if you can help me? I split up with my ex partner at the beginning of August who is a foreign national here in the UK during our break up she told my 2 year old son to not cry a d get used to not seeing me so I took court action to get a no fly order which I did successfully. Since then it has…
Whilst walking with the tide, I espied...
...this thing. It's on Mablethorpe beach. Anybody have an answer to what it is? It's got me flummoxed.
What's my purpose?
Firstly let me stress I'm not suicidal. As posted before I became a widow at the grand old age of 53 quite suddenly back in October and as strange as it sounds I can deal with the fact my husband died. I've accepted that. I've accepted that the life I thought I was going to have is not going to happen and I'm on a…
Is it rude to pester my mother about creating a will?
My mum is in her 60s, 3 children, 6 grand children, not married and owns her home outright; though she does have about £40k in debts to a personal friend and the council. As I was updating my will last year, it came to light she didn't have one or intend on doing one. I mentioned she could do one online for free but it's…
WORRIED ABOUT MY 20 YEAR OLD SON
Good Morning I am worried about my son and having sleepless nights. I am worried that he may be going to some websites online which are not appropriate for him. Is there any way I can check which sites he goes to? Thanks
Brother in law wants to move in
My BIL had an abusive ex, he got out of the relationship and moved to Australia where he lived (rent free) with his aunt/uncle and worked on & off on a tourist work visa thing for a year and a half. He then went on holiday in Asia and met a girl who lived in Brazil, he followed her back there (to extend the holiday I…
Joint home & No life insurance - Divorce
I’m Divorce. 2 years now. No financial break order in place. Reason is Ex in IVA. So could not afford to go through it and said I will drag it out much as I can. I Live in the family home. As a Single parent on low income and can’t force a sale, I can’t afford to go down the legal route. I am the main carer. Now Ex stopped…
Divorce: Is there a way to keep house for kids?
So, things have changed a lot recently. Wife cheating ... discovered ... divorce initiated. Currently all living in same house ... limited fun. Kids (13 and 15) have indicated a desire to live primarily with me ... and I am 100% supportive of that. (but recognise need for relationship with mother as well). Due to divorce I…
New parents- how do you control feeling overwhelmed?
Hello, I have recently become a parent. It was planned and everything in our lives make it the perfect time to have a child. Mid 30s, stable job, house etc. However, I feel hugely overwhelmed. I work about 40 hours a week ( in education with kids being most of the people I work with). After that I basically come home and…
Divorce with no clean break - pension advice
I am divorced since quite a few years. At the time of the divorce we divided everything 50/50 except the pensions - at that time my ex said she did not want any of my pension. Everything was done without court hearings through solicitors. We exchanged CETV data at the time so she does know that my pension was worth a lot…
Giving my partner an allowance?
Looking for advice and opinions please! My partner was made redundant in lockdown and struggled to find a new job. She's now pregnant and we made the decision for her to not work for now and wait till a while after baby's born. Due to my £40k salary, she's not entitled to any benefits whatsoever, and no maternity allowance…
Purchasing a Share of an Inherited Family Property by Instalments
Hello. As an only child, I inherited my parent’s nearby property a few years ago and it is solely in my name. We have three adult children – one married with his own family living abroad, one settled with a partner living a distance away and a son who is sole parent with his young son, living in my parent’s house which I…