Why don’t gamblers, give up asking for money.

sim2335

Long story short over a year a gambler manipulated me for 6k, you name it he tried it.

Any work or any problems I had he answer, he would be available almost 24/7

Spend hours texting and calling me.

Went to his house, he took me out etc 

After a year when I blocked him he spent a whole year trying to get back in touch, then he did as curiosity got better of me, then I re blocked and he’s still trying to get in touch.

I’m not asking what to do, I know what to do block and ignore, which I’m doing

Do you think he will do something illegal?, to get money from me?

Why not go to someone elese, isn’t he scared I could tell his wife brother etc

What kind of a thrill, that high he needs everyday. 

Also what is he gona do now, he needs gambling money everyday, all day,and he may not have it for months now ( I’m not worried just interested)

All this just to gamble, 

BrassicWoman

context here: https://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/discussion/6238105/friend-owes-me-thousands/p1

answer: everyone's story is different. No single reason.  Try reading some editions of "new life" here
https://www.gamblersanonymous.org.uk/literature

Pollycat

Nobody knows what this person is thinking or will do.
We don't know if he will do something illegal to get money from you.
If you don't know, how can random strangers on the internet know?

Don't be 'interested' in what he'll do.
Put him out of your mind.
If you continue to ignore him and he has no access to your money, he can't do anything to you.

Move on.

sim2335

It’s scary to even think what he’s trying to do get me into debt I can never get out of and never have any money. Like situation he is now.

What kind of a addiction is this.

Sea_Shell

You still seem to be letting this guy take up a lot of your headspace.

You not only need to ignore and block him (as you say you have), but you also need to forget him and move on.

Have you made any additional new friends since you've kicked him (and others?) to the kerb?

How's the driving coming along.  Are you getting the hang of those busy junctions yet?

MovingForwards

The dream you have of buying your own home, cling on to that and keep this person blocked. If you unblock them and let them into your life you've given your dream away and will end up with more bad credit history.

Who cares what goes on in their head, it's their problem, don't make it yours again. 

Make new friends!

sim2335

No new friends, nope
i had 3 close friends, still have 2 now, however ones moved really far and other one, has been ignoring me for few months randomly, however he sometimes does this when busy.


ive been going out though to events etc 

driving I have lessons in May, as this month paying match making compnies, looking for a wife

improved a lot at big roundabouts after watching YouTube and picking brother up.

Sea_Shell

sim2335 said:

No new friends, nope
i had 3 close friends, still have 2 now, however ones moved really far and other one, has been ignoring me for few months randomly, however he sometimes does this when busy.


ive been going out though to events etc 

driving I have lessons in May, as this month paying match making compnies, looking for a wife

improved a lot at big roundabouts after watching YouTube and picking brother up.

Sorry to go off topic, but that's not the way dating and relationships work.

Maybe concentrate on finding a girlfriend that you enjoy the company of and see how things go.

Have you had any previous long term romantic relationships.   It's rare to find "the one" on purpose.   It usually happens much more organically than that. 


Glad to hear you're feeling more confident driving.   

sim2335

Where can I find these girls?

never had a girlfriend

people do get married through matchmaking companies and looking online.

Sea_Shell

sim2335 said:

Where can I find these girls?

never had a girlfriend

people do get married through matchmaking companies and looking online.

Some people undoubtedly DO find "the one" via on-line dating sites, but it's still probably much more likely that people find their life-partners in real life, through interaction and meeting people.

I would also guess that many people who have signed up for dating sites, have already had "experience" and so are trying something different, in an attempt to meet someone from outside their usual social or work circles.   Widening the net, as it were.

You say you've been going out to events more.   What sort of events?   

Keep broadening your horizons, and getting involved in more social activities, and you might meet someone.   It's not guaranteed that you will, mind, or that you'll want to marry them (and they, you)...but that's just life.

If you think you're going to instantly go from never had a girlfriend, to finding a wife, then I'm afraid you're going to be disappointed.

That could come across as "needy" or "desperate" and that's not attractive IMO.

Northern_Tribe

sim2335 said:

Where can I find these girls?

never had a girlfriend

people do get married through matchmaking companies and looking online.

Have you considered Meetup.com? It isn't a dating site but there are lots of different groups covering a wide range of interests and ages. It might be a way of meeting people and, who knows a future wife in a less pressured way than via matchmaking services.