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Money Moral Dilemma: Should I tell my son I've discovered he's in debt?
This week's MoneySaver who wants advice asks... My son and his girlfriend are both in full-time employment, but live with me and pay minimal rent so they can save for a deposit on a home. His girlfriend started getting letters from a debt collection agency, and then my son left out a letter from a loans firm saying he owed…
Shared Parental Leave whilst on a FTC
Rejected consent order
Can anyone assist please I am in receipt of my decree absolute so am officially divorced My ex partners solicitor put together a consent order with it swaying heavily in his favour Due to financial difficulty I was unable to seek legal advice regarding the matter at the time and due to circumstances really couldn't face…
Early inheritance vs. mortgage extension?
We need to do a complete renovation on our house which we think is going to cost in the region of £70k. Our plan was to extend our mortgage to pay for this but my husband's parents have said they would like to help us with the finances. His parents are in their 70s and not in the best health although nothing…
How much allowance for teenagers?
The last time this was discussed was back in 2012, there is a closed thread on this subject that suggests figures from £60 to £140 a month for a 14-16 year old teenage girl. I thought I better ask again, because as it's nearly 10 years ago, things change. I want to give my 14 year old an allowance to cover her social life…
Marriage tax relief
hello. I wondered if anybody else has experienced the same issue I currently have. I applied for marriage tax relief in early May. Online application was an absolute nightmare & didn’t work in the end due to very poor website - but that’s a different story. In the end did it all over the phone after finally getting…
Sexless marriage
I can’t believe how shattering to my self esteem our sexless relationship is it came from nowhere it’s been 5 years now . You can’t underestimate the damage it does
Scammed on dating site
I know this is a long shot, but I have been targeted by an online dating scam, most likely a very professional Nigerian dating scam, totally plausible and believable, my friends and family were all as convinced as I was that this was a genuine person. I lost a sum of money (I realise this was my responsibility and that it…
Moved: Could this be dodgy
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People who are married / live with long term partner do you still have a seperate saving accounts ?
People who are married / live with long term partner do you still have a seperate saving accounts for yourself ?. (So you have atleast something saved as an emergency fund just encase it all goes sour etc )
Property Purchasing Below Market Value from Parents, they want a divorce agreement.
Hi, I am looking for advise on a never nice situation, but my wife and myself are purchasing a property from my parents for BMV. They would like an agreement to say that if we split up then my wife will only be entitled to 50% of the value that we purchased it for, or the difference to Market Value is excluded from this. I…
How do you handle insubordination in kids?
Hi money savers, I'd love to know how you deal with your kids. I mean, how you get them to do this they wouldn't want to do without yelling at them. Thank you.
Mortgage gift deposit form and declaration of trist
Could someone help me please? my parents purchased a property with a family member and a gift deposit form was used the relationship turned sour. My parents sought legal advise and had in place a declaration of trust and constructive trust drawn up to cut a long story short while my parents where on holiday their…
Money Moral Dilemma: Should I ask my neighbour to pay for the meat they spoiled?
This week's MoneySaver who wants advice asks... I recently ordered around £40 worth of meat online. I was at home when it was due to be delivered, but received a text saying it had been left with my neighbour. I went over 10 minutes later, and they told me via their video doorbell that they'd gone out and wouldn't be back…
Life after domestic abuse on a joint mortgage...
Hello, I haven't posted here much, although I have been a silent lurker and reader of the forums for years. I am hoping that someone has some advice to offer me, as I feel like I've searched the internet on this one, and not found much to support my specific situation. I'm sorry about the essay that is to follow. I jointly…
Friends refusing to refund holiday moneh
I booked 2 holidays this summer with some friends: a holiday to a cottage and a camping trip both costing me around £110 for the 2 but with fall outs in the group they are refusing to let me come or give me my money back. what should I do? I have linked an image of the message
Financial Remedy Order
Hello, I would need some guidance about Financial Remedy Order after divorce and hope someone might be able to help me. I am now divorced from my ex Husband as of last year. Sorting out finances has not been an easy task. At first we have agreed of no splitting of assets and I have sent off for Consent Order to be dealt…
Decree Nisi to Decree Absolute divorce question
Hi. I'm the petitioner. I can apply the decree nisi to be made absolute after 16 June 2021 but the financial claims of my wife hasn't been settled. I wish to delay decree absolute. Could you please assist.
Partner is still married, after 4 years of being together?!
My partner is still married after 4 years in to our relationship and has been going through divorce proceedings with his ex during the entire time. I feel like a dirty secretive mistress and I am embarassed to say I am with a married man when work colleagues, friends and family ask when we’re going to tye the knot! It’s…
WILL
Hi, I have been married for over 35 years and have four step children. However whilst I have worked hard all my life (my wife never worked) I supported my wife and the step children and payed for almost everything. However my wife now wants us both to make a will, she has been very controlling all of our marriage and I…