Solicitors Letter

benidorm59

Early nineties the family home was put into a siblings name.  The other one was told that they would get half after the parents passes. 
 Late nineties  the father died a will was made both children made executors.   Mother wrote a letter of wishes 2005 said she had requested the sibling to give the other one a share when the house sold. 
 She dies in 2016    The sibling rents the house  out then sellsi it to a family friend who then resells it for a higher price.  Maybe tax avoidance.  The sibling with nothing asks if the mother's wishes are to be honoured .  Receives a letter saying.  House nothing to do with them. 
It's was gifted  after renting it  by the other family to the friend   not true though and  as for  letter of wishes itd not legal  and do one. 
  Is it worth responding to the letter it's hard to get your get your head around how greedy some people Are 

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benidorm59 said:

Early nineties the family home was put into a siblings name.  The other one was told that they would get half after the parents passes. 
 In 1999 the father died a will was made both children made executors.   Mother wrote a letter of wishes 2007 said she had requested the sibling to give the other one a share when house sold. 
 She dies in 2014.   The sibling rents the house then sell it to a family member who then resells it for a higher price.  Maybe tax avoidance.  The sibling with nothing asks if the mother's wishes are to be honoured .  Receives a letter saying.  House nothing to do with them. 
It's was gifted to the other family member not true though letter of wishes not legal  and do one. 
  Is it worth responding to the letter it's hard to get your get your head around how greedy some people Are 

Whatever the parents' motivation for putting the family home into the sibling's name the property became that of the sibling.  The parents could write whatever they like in a will or a letter of wishes but the house was no longer theirs to bequeath.  If the parents had wanted both children to receive the property then the property should have be gifted to both children in the 90s or neither child with appropriate wills drawn up.

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The same property? https://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/discussion/6066048/letter-with-a-will/p1

GrumpyDil

Nothing to challenge. Parent gave house away so had no further control over its disposition.

Sad but money often seems to take precedence over wishes. 

T.T.D

Oh no why do people do this? 

This is a good example of what I call “splitting the family up wishes” nothing good ever comes from this type of wish. 

If anyone reading this has this type of an arrangement with their siblings should fix it Before they get to the gates of St Peter. 

Mam&Dad hoped that eldest sibling(?) would take care of the youngest (really old fashioned way of thinking), so parents then thought that there would be no issue in just naming them in the will for the house to be passed to and then writing a “wish or want or instruction” to the sibling saying “hey bud you better look after Tommy by giving him some money when we die from the sale of the house” (as though it has some legal weight if eldest sibling doesn’t) trouble is money is the root of all greed in some people and the wants and wishes and instructions of parents flow out the window and there is nothing poor Tommy can do about it!.

Marvel1

Parents wishes mean nothing as they were not the owners of the house.

Spendless

Why put the house in one siblings name in the first place? There was clearly a reason for this. Someone who has been made aware that this is a 'good' idea tfor whatever reason then should surely be aware that it becomes that person's property to do with as they wish, and has nothing to do with the parents who gave it away what happens next.  


When they made both siblings executors of their will what was mentioned in it  because they didn't own the house at this point, they'd already given it away. Did they have savings etc to leave. They don't seem to have understood the ramifications for giving their property away to one of their children. 

74jax

benidorm59 said:

Early nineties the family home was put into a siblings name.  The other one was told that they would get half after the parents passes. 
 Late nineties  the father died a will was made both children made executors.   Mother wrote a letter of wishes 2005 said she had requested the sibling to give the other one a share when the house sold. 
 She dies in 2016    The sibling rents the house  out then sellsi it to a family friend who then resells it for a higher price.  Maybe tax avoidance.  The sibling with nothing asks if the mother's wishes are to be honoured .  Receives a letter saying.  House nothing to do with them. 
It's was gifted  after renting it  by the other family to the friend   not true though and  as for  letter of wishes itd not legal  and do one. 
  Is it worth responding to the letter it's hard to get your get your head around how greedy some people Are 

Was this letter of wishes ran by a solicitor?  I'm guessing mother just wrote it herself.... 

How on earth can someone say what someone else does with their own property....

.... I believe when my brother dies his house should go to my daughter....

It's also not 'greedy', it was theirs, legally. Yes parents asked them to do something else with it, but it wasn't the parents to say that. Sadly the parents gave the house to who they wanted at the time. You can't then take it back years later and say 'I change my mind'. 

Looks like (from the small info we have) it was done for financial reasons for the parents, and the parents choose that over equal distribution to their children. 

benidorm59

No it was done by a solicitor and put with the will.  The mother asked the other sibling to carry out the wish.  Till this point it,was always assumed the house would be split and the sibling with the house always said it will and was even written into his will   It's done now.  Thanks all for the replies its done and dusted 

pinkshoes

benidorm59 said:

No it was done by a solicitor and put with the will.  The mother asked the other sibling to carry out the wish.  Till this point it,was always assumed the house would be split and the sibling with the house always said it will and was even written into his will   It's done now.  Thanks all for the replies its done and dusted 

It's all very well putting a wish in writing but the house had already been gifted to the other sibling, so it was no longer your mum's house to wish about...

If the other sibling is not wishing to share then that is their prerogative. Not the sort of person I would ever want to bother with personally...

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benidorm59 said:

No it was done by a solicitor and put with the will.  The mother asked the other sibling to carry out the wish.  Till this point it,was always assumed the house would be split and the sibling with the house always said it will and was even written into his will   It's done now.  Thanks all for the replies its done and dusted 

What was done with the solicitor? The letter of wishes? Totally pointless because the house was no longer your father’s or your mother’s as it belonged to your sibling.