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Advice: Property Dispute with Person Not Named in Will
I'm looking for some advice (or even a recommendation for a solicitor I could speak to) regarding a property dispute. My aunt passed away a year ago with no children so her property (and estate) was passed on to family as per her will. Now, family members from her husband's side (husband passed away a year before my aunt)…
What can I expect for a fair financial settlement
Hi, Our divorce has been finalised and we are now in the process of sorting out the financial settlement. We have completed E forms and submitted them to our solicitors. my Ex husband has made me a financial proposal and I just want to run it past you all to see if this sounds fair as I don’t feel it does. We have 3…
Best dating sites
Hi again, So after advice given on my last post I!!!8217;ve decided to dip my toe in the dating game again. I haven!!!8217;t !!!8220;dated!!!8221; since I was 15 so expecting a challenge!!! I!!!8217;ve signed up to Plenty of Fish but don!!!8217;t seem to be getting anywhere...has anyone had any success internet dating and…
TV programme re single women who want kids and methods available
A weird question but my internet search history is starting to look a bit dodgy so I need help I'm looking to watch a recent programme (or series) about alternative methods for single women who are looking to have a child i.e. donor/surrogate/adoption etc - believe it was on C4/C5 over the past weeks Any suggestions on a…
My Mother
I want to cut my mother off, wipe my hands and be done with her. However by doing so at this point in time, I will put us in £2000 worth of debt. Is it mercenary to wait till that is paid and then walk away? To give you a brief history, I wasn’t born a boy so have been a disappointment since day 1. Her needs have always…
Divorce 5 years - Mortgage Questions
Hi all, first time posting here so please forgive any faux pas. My brother has recently decided to get a divorce after a break down in his and his wife's relationship. It will be 5 years in July, they didn't cohabit prior to marriage. About 3 months ago they had got a rather substantial mortgage out own what was to be…
Married but separated with joint names on property deeds
My daughter who been married for 20 years but separated for 10 years from her husband and both in early 50's. They have a property with joint names on the deeds with no mortgage. He left for someone else but refused signing any divorce papers. Although she could apply through the courts to dissolve her marriage, but is…
Is there an organisation specialising in debt and mental health
Please dont get me wrong you guys are great on here but I need something i can refer my brother to thats a bit more 'private' and specific. He is also not a member on here. I have personally seen my brother become more and more broken after his relationship break down and he admitted his debt issues are having a mental…
Is this a genuine email or a scam?
Sorry if this is in the wrong place but wasnt sure where to post this question. I have just had 2 emails supposidly from Netflix headed 'New sign ih to your account'. Both emails are the same and say 'We have noticed a new sign in on your account on an Android phone, Location Serbia'. If this is you then enjoying watching,…
Will it bring a penalty with tax credits?
A couple weeks ago my ex told me he earnt 8000 the year just gone, we are both students (& have 3 children) and were living together during that year. He started off doing the odd day here and there in summer and I thought it was maybe 8 days total, then the start of this year he was away from the house alot going to see…
(Should be) a simple divorce...
Hi! Simple quandary here! My girlfriend and I wish to marry in the future, but the snag is she's still married to her ex, whom she's had no contact with for more than a decade after she left him. We know the gentleman's address as it's publicly available but money is tight. So...what's our options? TIA
How would finances be split?
I’ll be as succinct as possible. I’m trying to get a feeling for how far up sh*t creek without a paddle I’ve left myself if my husband and I divorce. I see (now) how vulnerable I’ve made myself by choosing to be a sahm, topping up dh’s pensions instead of mine as you get more tax relief, and removing myself from the…
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Family members taking money from parent whilst in care home
Hi All, I'm after some advice on a moral dilemma that I have. I am aware of a co-worker and her husband who are withdrawing money from her mothers account, and transferring this into their own account whilst her mother is in a care home. They are withdrawing cash as well as transferring the funds by both internet banking…
Some Advice Needed Please - Divorce
Hi Folks, Just after some advice. My wife and I have been married for 11 and sadly have agreed to get a divorce. We have no children however we do own a property. She didn’t want to buy originally and was happy renting where as I wanted to buy a property. Due to her ill health she supposedly went along with it as wasn’t…
Inheritance Tax etc
My question is: I own two flats and would like to gift them to my daughter. One of the flats used to be my home and then I rented it out for 8 years until Jan of this year since then it has been empty. The other flat directly above has been home to my 20 year old daughter for the same amount of time. I in the meantime…
Probate problem
My mum passed away in may last year. My mum had left a will, leaving everything to me, her only child, and money to my two children. She made my husband executor of her estate. her estate is small, a two bedroom house worth about £130k and that’s it. we applied for probate last June, we did it ourselves as the estate is…
Who do you think should pay?
Can I ask for opinions please, bit of a family dispute here, personally I think they should just go halves but- Person A is selling an item and Person B is interested in buying it. A names his price and B is happy with it. Then A gets offered £200 more from someone else so B agrees to match the other offers and pays for…
Farming Family Will Problems
Looking for some advice for my other half. He worked on his grandads farm for the last approx 20 years since leaving school and kept it going pretty much by himself , for a minuscule £100 a week (although got no payments at all for the last 3 years since his grandma died ) on the understanding that when his grandad dies he…
Consent order
Morning all My partner signed a consent order approximately 3 years ago when he separated from his wife. The consent order is heavily biased towards his ex wife, she ended up with a much larger share of the assets and her pension pot is a lot larger my partners. The consent order didn't go before a judge to be signed and…