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Marriage, relationships & families

Discuss the MoneySaving implications of relationships and family life.

MoneySaving mums

A place for mums with kids of all ages to discuss parent MoneySaving matters.

973 discussions 13.8K comments Most recent: I don’t know where to turn. by silvercar 16 November at 11:20AM
MoneySaving dads

A place for dads with kids of all ages to discuss parent MoneySaving matters.

372 discussions 4.1K comments Most recent: A married couple gifting a child tax free limit £3000 or £6000 by tetrarch 16 November at 1:10PM
Deaths, funerals & probate

Get MoneySaving help at the time of bereavement - discuss wills, inheritance tax, estate planning and more.

12.9K discussions 135.4K comments Most recent: Sell a house in trust before surviving spouse has deceased by Marcon Today at 10:44PM
Pets & pet care

For MoneySaving questions about taking care of your cat, dog, parrot or other animal companion, including vet fees and pet insurance.

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What qualities do women want/value in a relationship?
In my life at least, a bit like moneysaving :D , no one seems to teach you how to make a relationship work. So I was wondering if any women might be willing to share what they want/value in a relationship. The idea being that if you know what is important in a relationship, then you can focus on the right things to aim to…
Putting a charge on a property you are due to inherit a share of
Hi, I wondered if anyone can give me some advise please; My father died in 2018 and left a 50% share of his property to me and my brother, which will come to us once our stepmother either sells or passes away.(The other half to step brother & sister) Family relationship is good (at the moment) but should we (can we)…
Clean Break Order
Hi, hoping someone who has either done a clean break order or who has legal experience can tell me what type of information is gathered to draw up a clean break order please? Is it a full financial list like you complete for a consent order (D81) or is it more of a statement of the agreement both parties voluntarily wish…
Charging my daughter and boyfriend rent?
Can someone please help me? My daughter who’s 20 is signed off with bad anxiety therefore is not working. Her boyfriend moved in a year ago, they both pay £100 each month. They have all food and bills included and smoke a lot of cannabis between them. I struggle to feed my 14 year old son yet they buy the newest games…
Dementia care (home Vs care home)
I'm currently a carer for my mother who has Dementia/Alzheimer's. She is still mobile and independent in the house but we have carers who visit daily (arranged via LA) and I manage her finances including payment for care costs by way of a deputyship. I'm stuck in a hard place at the moment in terms of future care…
Who to talk to
Who do people talk to when they have problems, I can't talk to family or friends, feel really upset about the person I live with, it's constant problems, don't know how to get out of this situation, do I speak to a therapist, call samaritans, I don't know what to do
Help if fleeing domestic abuse, Men & Women
Just saw this on another site, it's for Men and Women, please use it if you need too https://www.womensaid.org.uk/womens-aid-welcomes-extension-of-rail-to-refuge-lifesaving-travel-scheme-for-domestic-abuse-survivors/?fbclid=IwAR0dFQLSTncjsJz7Rm1HeP8Cq3wHN8QHEn187_Jl3RHneJkLdDX2AoV3he8
What am I entitled to?
Hi, My Dad recently passed away unexpectedly recently, which has been a massive shock to us all. He didn't leave a will however i am sure his company had life assurance and other things. Me and my stepmum are being civil with each other however we have not got on the best of terms over the years however despite this i was…
Living together who pays what
Hi folks, just looking for advice here, so nearly 8 years ago I relocated to be with partner, rented a property for 6 months which I paid for. Since then my partner asked me to live with him, he owns his home. Also at the time I had a extremely good job which I worked away at and a great income. Its been nearly 8 years we…
Changing my child's surnname
Hello, I wonder if any one can help me. I have applied via court order to change my daughters surname. I feel like a fish out of water if I'm honest and anxious as it's brought up a lot of past feelings from my daughters father. I've sent the papers off and now it's a waiting game. I'm expecting it to take a while due to…
Question about social services procedures in the early 1990’s
Hi. I’ve recently been talking to a friend who’s interested in tracing some long lost relatives. She’s given me some details of her early life and there’s a few things which don’t quite add up. When my friend was a toddler in 1993 she was taken into the care system as her mum was unable to look after her for complex…
Sue divorce solicitor
Hello, I've posted on here about a protracted divorce, it is finally near to a conclusion. This I have managed to finalise myself. I withdrew from my solicitor's services 2.5 years ago as I felt they had not been particularly helpful, and I had ran out of money. I will lose out on a large sum of money as they made an error…
Can anyone recommend a solicitor or advisor for help with a school appeal
Hi everyone, Can anyone advise? I am moving from Hull to Halifax in August. As the move is fairly new, I have recently applied for 3 secondary schools for my daughter. She will be going into year 7. This week we received a letter to state she has got a place at the 3rd choice. The thing is the school is not a good school…
Am I still a step-dad?
I was divorced some 20 years or so ago after a marriage that only lasted a couple of years. I have never re-married, I do not know what my ex's present marital situation is. A few years ago I made a will leaving some money to my ex-wife's daughter. I am now considering rewriting my will and am wondering if I have any legal…
Advice on music and the Koran.
A daughter married a Muslim and now follows Islamic rules regarding dress/food/etc.etc. However,now having a first school age son,he very much enjoys music and dancing along with his friends at school and on various music sites at home. This is causing friction as his father,a very strict Muslim,says music should not be…
Money Moral Dilemma: Was I wrong to pay my mate back in fish and chips?
This week's MoneySaver who wants advice asks... My mate recently lent me £5. Last week he came over for dinner in the garden, and I'd bought us both fish and chips. He asked if I had the £5 I owed him, and I said that was what I'd spent on his meal. He got upset about me "charging him for food", and said he'd do the same…
Dating & gifts
I been dating a nice lady for a few months, just the past few weeks we have gone more serious. We are not living together. We talk daily and plan to meet weekly too. Last time I took some flowers (first time thus a large bunch). When she visited me she brought me a nice gift. Ideally like to buy her flowers more often, but…
Debt Repayments
Hope this does not come across as a silly question; but I am going around in circles on Google. Both my husband and I have separate debts prior to our marriage; but we want to organise a plan to pay them off. Previously I was with CCCS a long time ago which helped me and I was wondering does anyone know if we would be able…
Have you suffered from not having a will? Tell us
Hi everyone, We’d really like to hear from any Forumites who have experienced the effects that not having a will can cause. If you’re happy to share your story, please post in the thread below. If you’ve seen any relevant threads or posts elsewhere on the forum, please do share the links. We’re looking to do a feature…
Joint House Ownership and Assets Help
I am the joint owner of a property with my dad who is helping me to buy it. We have about £30,00 left remaining on the mortgage. He has suggested signing it over to me as it occurred to him that his share may be counted when it comes to being assessed for care costs should they be needed. He does not live there with me as…