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Marriage breakup and divorce
-I have been married for 20 years-I bought the house 2 years befor I got married-We have 3 childresn aged 18, 15 and 10-My wife has been working as a child minder for 17 years or so-My wife has been using the house for her childminding business-The morgage is now paid but my wife has never contributed a penny towards the…
Solicitor For Divorce Now Threatening To Stop Defending Me & My Court Case
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Finances and marriage
I have been married to my husband for almost 20 years Over the years my career has taken a back step as I have worked part time to look after the house and children. We started out at a similar salary level, he is now the higher earner. I work part time he works full time and we combine some of our finances in a joint…
Amicable divorce, how to deal with the house
After 15 years we’ve decided the time is right to get a divorce. We’re still very good friends and have 2 kids, so we’re trying to find a way to allow me to stay in the house with the kids without him suffering too much financial hardship. We both have an equal claim to the equity in the house, which is about £100k each,…
Home and relationship breakdown
I own my house with my ex for 18yrs I’ve paid majority of interest only mortgage for 16yrs. Ex now planning to marry. Can new wife claim part of my house as ex is still on mortgage?
Financial Clean Break never signed
Bit of background - married 2005, 4 kids, (15,14,14,11) divorced 2018. At the time because of various things I just wanted to get divorced. He paid me half of the equity in the house and that was it. We split the kids equally when we first separated (4 nights one week, 3 the week after). But since covid 1 of the twins…
Change of name deed
A solicitor I know has agreed to prepare a change of name deed for me and witness it. Is the date that I and he sign this the date that will be on the deed or the date he prepares it? Just my appointment with him isn’t until end of month and he’s out of office atm to reply to emails.
Advice for a Friend re Ex Partner and Child's Father, what Now????
HI all I'm posting this for a friend She has been in relationship for 8 years Moved in with partner 6 years ago, decided to try for a child who arrived 2 years ago. Female has stayed at home to bring up child while male stayed at work worked nights in care home but quite often when sick. Up until a year ago everything was…
Reasons for divorce implications
Hello all, I am separated from my wife and we are living separately. My wife wants to proceed with a divorce quickly so she can move on. There have been no serious issues regarding the end of the marriage, but to try and get it through quickly she has put behaviour as the main reason for the divorce. Before I sign anything…
Splitting up but not married help please
Hi I saw the post below on a similar theme and wondered if you could advise me for a friend please? They are not married and splitting up. Thy have grown up children living away and a house with a mortgage he pays. She is in the house and works but low income. He is at a friends. Someone told her she needs to find out if…
Getting my belongings back from abusive ex
Hi everyone, I’m really need help as to what I can do. Have been married for less than a year, left after abuse and going through a difficult divorce (as he is not cooperating). There are a lot of my belongings at my ex’s home (his parents house) and he’s has not returned these. He previously blackmailed me - money in…
How to minimise Social Care costs?
I'm in good health fortunately and hope things stay that way for many years but today's announcements have woken me up about future worst case scenarios. Having been a more money-conscious person since retiring I'm getting really worried and depressed that all the scrimping and saving I've been doing in order to leave a…
Care Funding
Has anyone enlisted a third party help (solicitor) to handle a funding claim for care with the council when the two Attorneys do not agree on whether to go for Deferral Agreement or Letter of Undertaking? One lives in the property and refuses to pay rent under a Deferral but refuses to go for the Letter of Undertaking. The…
House % split in divorce
Hi, me and my wife are divorcing after 8 years. I’m moving out to rental house for the time being and she’s going to stay here in the house until something comes up she can move to, and until the 12k early repayment charges end in 18 months! We’re trying to come up with a separation agreement and have said we’ll split the…
Wedding Venue Refusing to Refund Money Owed Due to 'Damages'
Hi, I'm completely lost as to what to do next in regards to the below so any help/guidance would be extremely appreciated. At the beginning of July me and my wife got married and as there was still covid restrictions in place we had to reduce guest numbers and cut many aspects which after some back and forth we managed to…
NHS X Ray Report
I asked for a copy of my x-ray report of my pelvis. It was just 2 lines. First was from my GP saying 'hip pain, ?OA'. Report - no significant bone abnormality noted. Is this really all it's meant to show?
If care homes are charging £1k+ per week and carers are paid minimum wage, where is the money going?
Firstly, if there is a more appropriate board for this thread, please move it. Secondly, I don't have first-hand experience in these matters, so I appreciate I'll be making a lot of sweeping generalisations BUT- We've all heard the news - people having to sell their houses to pay for care, people being charged sometimes…
Split from my partner after 20 years
Hi We have split. We have a mortgage. We have 2 kids. She is atm at the house. She is NHS worker, I'm on universal credit. She is at the house with kids and dog. I'm in the car . How the hell does this work now. I'm looking for a room that is cheap. My universal credit goes into our joint account. We are on the breadline.…
Board tax??
My oldest has finished his A levels, left college and has a job, if he starts to pay board by standing order does it count as income for us, and would it be taxable? Thanks.
Money Moral Dilemma: Do I give a gift when it's a 'pretend' wedding?
This week's MoneySaver who wants advice asks... I'm going to a family 'wedding' that has been years in the planning while the groom waited for his divorce to go through from his previous marriage. The couple have told the family he's now divorced and the wedding is going ahead, and they've asked for money as a wedding…