Helpful Advice needed.

royP_2

Helpful Advice needed.

My wife's brother has recently gone into a nursing home suffering with Parkinson's, unfortunately he can only talk in a whisper and he is unable to walk.

He has a partner who is not being very helpful, she says the relationship is over, has not visited him or spoken to him for 2 months now.

She will not answer the phone or email when we call and she will not let us in to collect any of his clothes, mobile, radio etc.

The house they live in is owned 50/50, and we do have his verbal permission and the key.

What if anything can we do?

HampshireH

What a sad situation. The partner could be grieving their loss. I'm not trying to make excuses for their behaviour but grief does funny things.

Have you tried knocking the door or perhaps a 3rd party friend of theirs who could approach her?

You could in worst case request a police escort to attend with the key and collect belongings.

It's something the used to support with far more frequently than they do now but it's something you could ask your local community police office if it's a option.

RAS

I'd suggest that you also do some checking up if the house is owned between them.

Is it 50/50 (tenants in common) or a joint tenancy - check here Get information about property and land: Get a copy of the deeds - GOV.UK (www.gov.uk)

Whilst you are about it sign up here Property Alert - GOV.UK (www.gov.uk) as this will warn you/him if she tries to do anything that jeopardises his interests. You do not need to own the house to get an alert AFAIK.

Does he have LPA health and finance in place? As that would enable one of you to act on his behalf.

Make, register or end a lasting power of attorney - GOV.UK (www.gov.uk)

Enables you to talk to the banks, social services and police on his behalf, as well as the nursing home and medics.

RAS

I'd add

Have the home tried to negotiate with her?

It's difficult if you don't know if she's grieving/not coping or just trying to keep what she can now the relationship is "over."

If the latter, get it on a legal footing ASAP

And does he have will? Or any pension or life insurance?