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Marriage, relationships & families

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MoneySaving mums

A place for mums with kids of all ages to discuss parent MoneySaving matters.

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Deaths, funerals & probate

Get MoneySaving help at the time of bereavement - discuss wills, inheritance tax, estate planning and more.

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Helping daughter to stay in her home through her divorce
My step daughter is going through a divorce. She lives in a mortgaged home that she shared with her ex who moved out last month. My partner wants to try and help keep her in her home and is wondering if he can "take on" the ex's share of the mortgage as she can't afford the mortgage on her own? My thinking is that the…
Advice on Lasting Power of Attorney please.
My wife and I have obtained mutual LPA's which have both been registered and activated etc. We are both fit and healthy and hopefully will not need to use the LPA's for a long long time, if ever. My query however is this. Do we now leave them to one side and only act on them when they are actually required, or do we…
Any experience of Defamation?
I apologise if this post is in the wrong place, but it seemed the nearest match....I wonder if anyone has any experience of bringing about a case of defamation and what sort of legal costs I might be looking at? I have made some enquiries with solicitors, but struggling to work out if it is worth the financial outlay (I…
High fee to update my will?
Hi, I (arguably naively) went through a solicitor to create a will about 6 years ago. I've got a wife and 2 children. It's a very simple will, basically everything goes to my wife, then my kids and if it goes to my kids then it's held in a trust until they're 24 years old, looked after by our siblings. I emailed the firm…
Other half is moving in, how much rent should I charge?
It's a new relationship and the question is what's the most I can charge without them having a claim on my property if it all goes west?
Sister's Separation - Advice
I am posting for my sister. I am going to try and remove the emotion as much as I possibly can but it's very difficult for me. Apologies in advance for a long post. She has just separated from her husband of 9 years. They have been together since she was 18 and they have two very young boys. Her husband has always been…
Cover letter for confirmati
I Hope someone can help,I am in the process of trying to get a certificate of confirmation, I have received a letter back from the sheriff Court, stating please include in your covering letter how many certificates you require, im just needing help with what to put in this cover letter
Power of attorney and contract query
I signed a contract with an estate agents to sell my dads property when he went into care (to pay for his fees). I signed for it as a POA. Sadly he has passed away -does anyone know if the contract ends on the date of his death as the I know that the POA ends when he died?
Recently separated, advise needed
My wife and I are recently separated, her choice. I work full time have a well paid job and have always paid all the mortgage and bills, cars, everything. My wife has never worked. I want her to be ok from the possible divorce and want to split as easy as possible. We have good savings and I have a good pension. My ideal…
Money saving dilemma
I have lived with my parents, in my great grandfathers house, with my great grandfather all his life. a few years back my great grandfather gifted the house to me and my mother and farther in equal 3rds before he died Its fully payed off geothermal no mortgage Unfortunately earlier last year he passed away. I would now…
Lasting power of attorney
I have been granted Lasting power of attorney for my mum. How can I find any accounts, bonds etc. that she has? We already found one that she says she didn't know she had.
Passport Application for a Child
I'm applying for a passport for my son. It wants me to send his birth certificate off, but we were not married when he was born so the birth certificate has my maiden name. Do I also need to send off my marriage certificate with it? Thanks!
Divorce no solicitor
Hi all. I have petitioned for divorce from my husband of 18 years. Originally we were going to do this as an agreement with regards to the finances. It came to my attention that my ex husband was potentially hiding assets (mainly shares by moving them to another party). When I asked him about this he because quite cross…
Ex using my address
Recieved a letter today, my son opened it as his initial is the same as his father's. It was for the ex, from a debt recovery company. Ex has never lived at this address, this home is mine and my husbands, moved here 2 years ago. My adult son lives with us and rarely gets post, so was surprised and disappointed in the same…
Ex wife won't collect her belongings.
My ex-moved out of the family home nearly 2 years ago, but hasn't collected any of her belongings. I asked her about 6 months ago (verbal and through text messages) to collect, them, and have been doing this regularly. The sake of the house is dye in the next 2 -3 weeks and I'm still telling her that she needs to collect…
Rent for adult children
My daughter is 23. Just finished uni and is earning £250 a week from 2 jobs.Not paying tax yet. I charge her £30 per week for food and bills, ( electricity. Gas. Water. Internet,) and I do her washing and £25 per week for rent. Bear in mind I’ve lost 53 per week in housing benefit cos she’s working but feel taking £53 in…
Relationship Breakdown
Good morning! I'd be grateful for some advice please to do with the division of things after a relationship breakdown. I had been living with my ex-partner between Feb 2021 and Mar 2022, in her house, when she decided that it might be best if I moved out but we kept on seeing each other. So I moved out, we continued to see…
decent house slippers
Hi,d I have arthritis in my hips and knees and the discs in my lower back are slipping. I am in pain all the time but I think my slippers are not helping. I buy from M&S and supermarkets. I'm looking for some decent ones but I can't afford to pay more than about £40 against 15 to 20 I normally pay. Has anyone any…
Paying care home fees - anyone use the CHIP scheme?
Hi all - hope someone can help. My mum has dementia and will soon need to move to a care home sadly. I'm just looking at if there's any way to fund her care without being forced to sell the family home. Does anyone know anything about the "Care and Home Inheritance Plan" / "CHIP" scheme? Their website - 'mycaremyhome' -…
gifting/deprivation of assets
Hi. My mum has dementia, and is highly likely to need to go into a care home imminently. I got a call from him the other day saying he would like to give me, my brother and my sister £3K each as a gift and I am wondering if this would fall foul of deprivation of assets - my Mum is being assessed next week (I am uncertain…