Leaving abusive relationships (merged)

black-saturn

When I have reported it nothings ever been done about it. But I will shut up about the subject now.

margaretclare

Just to wish djdido2 all the luck in the world. Stick to your guns and you'll get your life back. Keep on the way you are and it will go on getting worse. Do you really want a lifetime of being called a slag etc and having him constantly checking up on you?

We're going on holiday tomorrow morning for a week, that's my darling DH and me - looking forward to staying in a beautiful part of England, a comfortable cottage, being able to get out and about and see old friends and family members.

Very best wishes, chin up, remember *he* can only win if you allow him to!

Margaret

Glad

black-saturn wrote:

When I have reported it nothings ever been done about it. But I will shut up about the subject now.

reports are always read and looked at BS
if nothing is done it will be because the abuse team don't see any action as necessary

djdido2

found my way finally!! how confusing and annoying!! nevertheless i suppose you only learn by looking.

i thought i had been permanently deleted at first and my heart sunk. just talking here has helped me leaps and bounds and i do go back and re-read over and over so tht things stick in my mind.

as i said before not been able to post as if he saw this it would be fuel for the fire. dont want to take steps back. and i can only post when he isnt around and also my kids need some of my attention too. lol

Queenie

Pleased you found your way back

djdido2

will all those who are "keeping an eye out for me" bless em. know that i am here???? whoever moved it did not leave a thread to say it had been moved. thought i.d maybe been kicked off coz my thread was too long or something.

anyway to update.

he has spent the evening sulking as he senses there is something wrong. so not much has happened to get the situ sorted. however i am feeling sooooo positive and am looking forward to a brighter future.

i am making plans in my head and will get the ball rolling asap.

black-saturn

Let us know how your getting on.

Sorry you couldnt find your thread when you logged back in. The board guides thought it was a good idea to merge it with loads of other threads. It wasn't anything to do with it being long.

Queenie

djdido2 - everyone who posts on a thread is automatically "subscribed" to it. If you look at the menu bar at the top of the page, you'll see an option called "User CP". If you click on that, it shows which threads have been updated since you last visited - you can even refresh it while still on here if someone adds something else. So, those who are still looking out for you will still find you on this thread Also, in the "User CP" you'll have access to any Private Messages (PM's) that have been sent to you and you can use that interface to send PM's to others on MSE.

HTH

Queenie

black-saturn wrote:

Let us know how your getting on.

Sorry you couldnt find your thread when you logged back in. The board guides thought it was a good idea to merge it with loads of other threads. It wasn't anything to do with it being long.

That's not 'quite' accurate, BS, it would be more accurate to state: The board guides thought it would be a good idea to merge it with another thread on the same subject .

dj - please don't take the move personally!

msmicawber

Glad you're back and sounding so positive. Have you had a chance to read all the posts that people have left you? There's some good stuff in there which should help you plan how you want to deal with this and, hopefully, give you confidence too.

Very best wishes - ignore the sulks, they're just an attempt at manipulation.