Leaving abusive relationships (merged)

msmicawber

Sorry, took so long to post the discussion's moved on!

djdido2

yes i am able to do this although its still very scary for me. i plan to do it monday and will get my dad to be around for help. stupid but how do i act over the weekend??? as if nothing is wrong??? finding it increasingly hard "pretend" to be nice to him when deep down i have started to really hate him. wow never really hated anyone before. not to this extent anyway.

Queenie

djdido2 wrote:

... in the past when i have told him he has lurked around and hidden in my garden. dd caught him staring through lounge window when curtains were closed. glad i never opened them i would have had a heart attack. quite a nervous person despite the job.

Perhaps you need to consider an injunction if that is the case?

I strongly urge you to seek professional advice on the logistics so that you have the added confidence of being given the latest information regarding the law and your rights. There is only so much advice that you can obtain on a moneysaving forum and to a certain extend, you need to protect yourself from exposing too much information about yourself. There's nothing to say he doesn't use this forum too.

Do please contact one of the Agencies already mentioned and get appropriate advice for your particular circumstances and needs.

djdido2

yes this did concern me yesterday that he would find this thread and go ballistic. i will seek advice although i have to be careful as he tries to watch every move i make.

djdido2

if he is sad enough to look through every single detail of my life because he is suspicious thts his problem. in some ways i wish he would find it and he'd get a huge shock as to the way he has treated me.

now the thread has been merged chances are even slimmer of him finding this lol.

Queenie

djdido2 wrote:

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now the thread has been merged chances are even slimmer of him finding this lol.

Then at least something positive came from the merge

black-saturn

Clear all your cookies out on your comp so he can't find it. As for how you act during the weekend try and keep out of his way if you can. Take the children out or do something else to keep you occupied.

If you suspect he is prowling in the garden again call the police. Tell them you are on your own with children and you think there is someone spying on you. If they catch him in the act he will stop doing it in the future and if they don't he may see them turn up and that will put him off. My ex stalked me for 3 years after I split with him and in the end he was fined for harrassment and given an injunction. They caught him looking through the curtains too.

djdido2

good suggestion. so if i delete cookies can he not detect this site???

msmicawber

Sorry, my post yesterday was probably not clear. If you clear your cookies then he can still detect the site, but would need to log on again.

If you don't clear your cookies, then the site remembers you and you're automatically logged on.

Jay-Jay_4

DJ I'm sending you a private message. Look in the top right corner underneath where it says Welcome djdido2