Leaving abusive relationships (merged)

rchddap1 · 27 August 2006 at 8:26AM

Just wanted to pop back in and see how djdido2 is doing. Stay strong and you can sort this out.

Bestthingsinlifearefree · 30 August 2006 at 9:44AM

Hope you are keeping well DJ Dido.

Best,

djdido2 · 30 August 2006 at 1:50PM

hi there

i'm back. had a mega busy five days working and organising party for dd so i havent found the time to post.

to update everyone. we have had many arguments and conversation regarding our PROBLEMS. he has gone back home. but calls every now and then to ask if i am willing to sort it out. i am really enjoying my own company for once. although as i said i have been extemely busy. i think i havent had too much time to dwell so my mind is occupied.

will take alot of strength to stick to my guns but i am determined too be happy!!!!

thanks to all those looking out for me. xx

dj

rchddap1 · 30 August 2006 at 1:55PM

There is a lot to be said for your own company. You do what's right for your happiness.

Glad he's gone back home. Obviously still trying to play the 'control' trick by asking if YOU are willing to sort it out...ie, not him, but you.

You are doing brilliantly. Well done on finding your courage.

djdido2 · 30 August 2006 at 2:01PM

thanks rchddap. yes he has gone but he in his eyes its not over yet. he will try anything he can but the more he does the more i am convinced it will be better for me and the kids to be on our own.

he came to work with me at the weekend and i spotted some guy i havent seen for over three years. he was really happy to see me and gave me a hug. that was it then. he who does nowt started!! you fancy him!! did he kiss you? how do you know him????. i knew then that it was definitely time to call it a day and i just did what some of the posters said and asked him to leave. he went without a fight!! phew!!

WeirdoMagnet · 30 August 2006 at 2:06PM

Not had any advice for you djdido, but have followed your thread. Been waiting for you to update us and say you'd done 'it'! Well done you! Stay busy, and like you say, stick to your guns! :dance:

djdido2 · 30 August 2006 at 2:12PM

yes i've done it and i feel really good. but as i said he is very much about control. he just text me asking if i am willing to see him tonight, to talk!!

rchddap1 · 30 August 2006 at 2:18PM

He's not in control you are. He'll get the message eventually

djdido2 · 30 August 2006 at 10:49PM

the last two days have been so different. i feel positive, happy and i can think straight without guilt or worry. its a fabulous feeling to be free. he has left me alone today. (only text and rang twice) he will text or show up in a day or two to try and salvage our relationship.