Asking boyfriend to leave at short notice

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burlingtonfl6 said:

AskAsk said:

burlingtonfl6 said:

And next time get a guy who has his s**t together

at least the bloke is not beating her!  some women end up with partners that beat them. 
i don't know how these men still manage to get partners.  i think they are pretty devious and never show their true colours until later on in the relationship when they have anchored their position and it is not easy to get out.

The bad boy effect.
Some women only want ''nice guys'' when they've had their fill of the bad ones.
The problem is, by that point, nobody wants them.

Yes, that’s how people end up in abusive relationships....because they like bad boys. 🙄

AskAsk

Lover_of_Lycra said:

burlingtonfl6 said:

AskAsk said:

burlingtonfl6 said:

And next time get a guy who has his s**t together

at least the bloke is not beating her!  some women end up with partners that beat them. 
i don't know how these men still manage to get partners.  i think they are pretty devious and never show their true colours until later on in the relationship when they have anchored their position and it is not easy to get out.

The bad boy effect.
Some women only want ''nice guys'' when they've had their fill of the bad ones.
The problem is, by that point, nobody wants them.

Yes, that’s how people end up in abusive relationships....because they like bad boys. 🙄

i find the part of the comment, "by that point, nobody wants them" the most hilarious, lol 
doctor relationship, errrr.... NO 

ArsEl

What's the betting this all fell on deaf ears and she's still persuing the desperate dream of a meaningful heart to heart with someone who's clearly not interested in her? Hopefully she's had enough self respect to stop fooling herself by now, but i have my doubts.

Pollycat

ArsEl said:

What's the betting this all fell on deaf ears and she's still persuing the desperate dream of a meaningful heart to heart with someone who's clearly not interested in her? Hopefully she's had enough self respect to stop fooling herself by now, but i have my doubts.

The OP is still active on the board.

They asked for advice.

They got it (unusually pretty unanimous).

What they then do with that advice is up to them.

MoneySeeker1

Seems to me you need more confidence in the "class" of men you can attract - or more confidence to live life on your own if need be (ie if there's no worthwhile man around to be with).

It's nice - but not essential - to have a man in your life. So, if you do have one in your life, then your life should be enhanced by that. Quite frankly - this particular man is detracting from it and you'd be much better off without him.

Give yourself a good long look in the mirror - deal with anything the mirror tells you are problems (go on a diet/more flattering clothes/better hairstyle/whatever) - and give yourself a pep talk of "Because I'm worth it" and decide it's going to be either "On my own or with a good man that makes my life happier". Do any dieting and revamping at the hairdresser that is necessary and then, having done that, go do any clothes-shopping that is necessary with a good (and honest) friend and regard this man as "past history".

ArsEl

Pollycat said:

ArsEl said:

What's the betting this all fell on deaf ears and she's still persuing the desperate dream of a meaningful heart to heart with someone who's clearly not interested in her? Hopefully she's had enough self respect to stop fooling herself by now, but i have my doubts.

The OP is still active on the board.

They asked for advice.

They got it (unusually pretty unanimous).

What they then do with that advice is up to them.

Active where precisely? There's not been a dickie bird since everyone told her to snap out of it.

ArsEl

MoneySeeker1 said:

Seems to me you need more confidence in the "class" of men you can attract - or more confidence to live life on your own if need be (ie if there's no worthwhile man around to be with).

It's nice - but not essential - to have a man in your life. So, if you do have one in your life, then your life should be enhanced by that. Quite frankly - this particular man is detracting from it and you'd be much better off without him.

Give yourself a good long look in the mirror - deal with anything the mirror tells you are problems (diet/clothes/hairstyle/whatever) - and give yourself a pep talk of "Because I'm worth it" and decide it's going to be either "On my own or with a good man that makes my life happier". Do any dieting and revamping at the hairdresser that is necessary and then, having done that, go do any clothes-shopping that is necessary with a good (and honest) friend and regard this man as "past history".

I have to say the last two words in your signature are probably the only advice needed on this thread - Wake up!

Pollycat

ArsEl said:

Active where precisely? There's not been a dickie bird since everyone told her to snap out of it.

Active as in last logged on today at 07:21. Precisely.

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There is nothing in MSE rules that says you have to come back and update a thread you started.

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Lover_of_Lycra said:

burlingtonfl6 said:

AskAsk said:

burlingtonfl6 said:

And next time get a guy who has his s**t together

at least the bloke is not beating her!  some women end up with partners that beat them. 
i don't know how these men still manage to get partners.  i think they are pretty devious and never show their true colours until later on in the relationship when they have anchored their position and it is not easy to get out.

The bad boy effect.
Some women only want ''nice guys'' when they've had their fill of the bad ones.
The problem is, by that point, nobody wants them.

Yes, that’s how people end up in abusive relationships....because they like bad boys. 🙄

It is in some cases. A few of the girls at my school were always finding people from outside our group to date who had criminal convictions. They seemed quite boastful about it and, inevitably, more than one ended up being seriously assaulted.

The men are 100% to blame for what they did, but no-one should have been surprised.

Pollycat

ArsEl said:

Now you're splitting hairs. Logging in and being an active poster are slightly different as you well know.

Not splitting hairs at all.

The term 'last active' is used by MSE.

They don't say 'last posted'.

There is a 'site feedback' board here:

https://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/categories/site-feedback

if you would like to suggest they change the wording used.