dekaspace wrote: »
Do you tell a drug addict to just stop taking drugs and everything will be better or do you do something to treat the root of the problem so that person doesn't need to take drugs?
When I say I don't need a friend I mean I need something to motivate me more than a friend automatically.
Savvy_Sue wrote: »
With treating addiction, it's a mix of things needed, and there's no more an instant cure for drug addicts than there is for you.
The addict has to WANT to change more than they WANT to keep taking the drugs, and more than they WANT not to change, and more than they WANT to keep up with their existing friends / way of life etc.
It's also often a revolving pattern: I think it's an average of seven periods of treatment / detox before someone stays free of drugs. Of course that means some people succeed in breaking free at the first attempt, and others slip back down the slippery slope more than seven times.
So you saying you managed a reasonable sleep pattern every night for three weeks, and then you stayed up late to do some work and that's it, you couldn't do it any more - well guess what? That's like a dieter eating a cream cake and then going on to finish all the biscuits in the house. Or an alcoholic having one drink and downing three bottles. It happens. What matters is what you do about it.
You've had some recommendations for sources of support. You've had some recommendations for things you could try so that you're not on the laptop at 2 am. But none of us can do it for you.
FBaby wrote: »
Thinking in a planning way is hard work and deep inside, we all wish we didn't need to do it and could rely on someone else to do it for us. It's a very typical teenage trait.
The reality is that it's demanding enough to motivate oneself, it's even more demanding to have to motivate someone else, that's why most people don't do it. Parents do it for their kids, and there might be a mutual support between couple, but in the end, expecting someone to be there to tell you what to do so you don't have to do any of the thinking is never going to be a positive thing long term.
If you want to get better, you will need to accept that you are better trying to look into ways to motivate yourself. For that, you need some level of energy, so you need to consider how you could get mental energy. There are different ways to gain some, and it usually involve doing exactly the opposite of what your instinct tells you to do. You need to get involved in activities that will raise your adrenalin levels, which usually mean pushing yourself one way or the other and the best way to do so is by challenging yourself to something, however small it is to start with. Maybe arranging to make a trip to the library at a specific date/time, and then planning to take 1 or 2 books from 6 different section can be one challenge. I bet you you will then come back with that little level of energy feeling good that you've done it that means that you will be more able to enjoy reading the books.
It's all about taking little steps, but you have to take these yourself if you want to feel good about it.
tomtontom wrote: »
Sorry OP, switching off is not being on the internet past 1am. If you start to feel more relaxed in the evening then do something away from the computer or tv, you can enjoy your time without technology. Then you'll gradually wind down, but still get to bed at a decent hour. And as time goes on, you'll feel the benefits earlier in the day.
You're still not getting this idea of helping yourself. Things are not going to change overnight, and they may feel worse before they get better, but if you don't try you're still going to be in the same pointless place in years to come.
dekaspace wrote: »
Thats a little bit of a frustrating response I DO get the idea of helping myself but I am at a point where I feel too bad to do so, and being on the internet at 1am is more that I switch off so have no energy to physically even move, so on one hand I am less fidgety and all over the place but on another just even more muted than usual so just stare at a blank screen.
And I think more down to the autism I need something visual to stimulate me, it used to be I liked reading but books are getting rarer and it costs money for ebooks (and i hate tablets but can tolerate then for reading) as the worst I got as even a teenager was if I sat in front of tv on a day off I felt "tired" so after a while had to play a game to stimulate me what I get now is a extended version of that added with the fact as I have spent all day staring at a screen my brain was not stimulated so it doesn't want to go to bed.
On the very rare chance I do something like play a video game for a few hours during the day that gives me enough stimulation and also the sense of doing something so I can both go to bed early and fall alseep instantly.
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