Ames wrote: »
You've obviously identified some of the issues you have, which is a big part of the solution.
One that I identify with is the sleep problems. Mine can be all over the place, when I'm really stressed I don't get to sleep till gone 6am.
I haven't found a solution to those days, but on 'normal' days I've managed to figure out what my natural rhythm is.
I spent a month working it out. I'd go to bed at a 'normal' time, try to sleep, then get up and do something for a bit and try again. Eventually I worked out that I naturally fall asleep between 2am and 4am, and wake up between 11am and 12am, but sometimes need a nap late afternoon or early evening. I need around 10 hour sleep in a 24 hour period. Taking my meds earlier in the evening instead of right before bed helps.
I'm hoping I can find a way of pulling it round to more 'normal' hours.
So obviously I have trouble getting up for morning appointments. This morning I had to be at the hospital before 9am for treatment, and didn't get to sleep till after 5am. I've had to nap a few times.
The one thing that has helped me with waking up is to use a daylight simulating alarm clock. It gently wakes me up before my alarm does. I've slept through it a couple of times, but it's been amazing. It also has a sunset function that helps me relax and get to sleep. I really can't recommend it highly enough. I ignored it a long time after it was suggested to me, because they are expensive. But it's really been worth every penny.
Another thing is working out your best time of day, and doing things then. Mine's about 9pm to about midnight so that's when I do things like emails, paperwork, bits of housework. If you work out your best time of day maybe you could use it to get the next day's food set up? Lay out breakfast, with plates etc, make a sandwich for lunch, decide on dinner.
I have to say food is a problem for me too, it just feels wrong to have breakfast at midday even though my body's telling me it's time to break the fast. It's the next thing I'm going to work on with my therapist.
I think taking one problem at a time and figuring out what works for you is probably the way to go.
(Feel free to ignore my advice, everyone's different)
missbiggles1 wrote: »
Why don't you just call it lunch?
suki1964 wrote: »
Well I'm going to be blunt and call it as I see it
The OP has been posting here for years, and not only under this Username. In the time he's been posting he's gone from college education, to uni to sitting around at home on various benefits
The op has depression, yet not treated, is autistic, yet managed to survive college and Uni, is on the lower rates for mobility and personal living, which I would assume means he can actually look after himself
To me the op has just got used to living a lazy ad hoc life. No regime, no structure. He lies in bed all day, stays up to the early hours, has a very unhealthy diet and pigs out before bedtime
Op, you don't need someone holding your hand. You need to grow up and smell the coffee. Get an alarm clock. Set it for 7am,and get up in the morning, jump straight into the shower, go make a cuppa and a slice of toast or whatever, then get dressed. Do that for a few days and you will soon be sleeping through the night from a reasonable time
This is what people do everyday, day in, day out, no matter that they really would love to stay in bed hugging the duvet
Get the sleep sorted, the diet sorted and your energy will come back. With the energy you will find an improvement to your health problems
No one can help you unless you start to take responsibility yourself. Your doctors and theripists appear to have been trying to tell you this for a while
faerielight wrote: »
Dekaspace..It sounds like everything is overwhelming you at the moment. check with your local mental health team to see if they know of any helplines.. my city has a mental health helpline that is open from 8pm to 8 am.
Dekaspace.. I am worried that you are leaving yourself vulnerable on here and on other threads, as I can hear the stress and anxiety in your posts.. You are welcome to come and talk on the "Here we can all be heard for a little while" thread in the "Marriage, relationships and families" section of MSE.. Waves and Smiles started a safe protected thread for anyone feeling distressed.. They are all a lovely bunch I will leave the same message on the "toilet card " thread.
Ames wrote: »
Then what would I call the sandwich a few hours later? (And anyway, as a northerner, I'd be calling it dinner )
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