dekaspace wrote: »
The GPS I have had in the time since then have gone to all extremes, from outright refusing medication and saying I need therapy but none is available due to waiting list, offering me medication but no support, offering me CBT but the therapist saying nothing they can do and just saying get a better sleep pattern and diet, go out more etc and GPs saying exactly the same.
The best doctor I had was the one that prescibed me something, as she was also the one that got me a quick autism assessment, and helped me sign off but wasn't able to arrange support, only moved from that area as had drug dealing neighbour, identity theft at 3 properties over 5 years, illegally evicted twice, every landlord I had in that time refused to pay back deposit.
So I wish I had the doctor and support I had then but in area I live now.
I was thinking of moving to area with better support but I can't handle change, it will be expensive and for the most past I am settled here for first time in years.
missbiggles1 wrote: »
If the people you go to for help recommend you do certain things, don't you think that this might be the way forward? What'll you do if you move and your GP/therapist tells you the same thing again?
Nobody has a magic wand, unfortunately.
dekaspace wrote: »
Because its not treating the root of the problem, but at same time my dietician I had for a short while said my actual diet isn't whats the problem its moderation, instead of starving all day and then eating a lot in one go have 3 meals a day.
When you feel bad all the time you don't have the energy to cook and too tired to get out of bed, even if I can get out of bed I feel weak all day so don't want to do anything which in itself makes me feel worse.
I have never had a good day in many years but I have had some ok days at which point I eat less, sleep a little better etc but its hard to tell if its the chicken or the egg,
tomtontom wrote: »
If you're too weak and tired then how are you going to access the support you're asking for? They're not going to come and get you out of bed.
You don't need to cook at every mealtime, make a sandwich or a simple salad with some protein.
You're going to feel like crap if you're just eating a heap of food in one go, physically and mentally.
Andypandyboy wrote: »
Do you receive benefits for your condition? If so, have you thought about employing someone as a motivator or sounding board? Sometimes we need our minds concentrating, and actually paying someone may do just that, as I assume you would not be happy paying for nothing or paying but not acting on their suggestions?
Additionally, if you want to go to college and need support they will assign you an LSA to help you with your course requirements and be a sounding board for any other issues you may have. You need to tick the relevant box on your enrolment form and you will be seen by someone who can organise support.
Ames wrote: »
You've obviously identified some of the issues you have, which is a big part of the solution.
One that I identify with is the sleep problems. Mine can be all over the place, when I'm really stressed I don't get to sleep till gone 6am.
I haven't found a solution to those days, but on 'normal' days I've managed to figure out what my natural rhythm is.
I spent a month working it out. I'd go to bed at a 'normal' time, try to sleep, then get up and do something for a bit and try again. Eventually I worked out that I naturally fall asleep between 2am and 4am, and wake up between 11am and 12am, but sometimes need a nap late afternoon or early evening. I need around 10 hour sleep in a 24 hour period. Taking my meds earlier in the evening instead of right before bed helps.
I'm hoping I can find a way of pulling it round to more 'normal' hours.
So obviously I have trouble getting up for morning appointments. This morning I had to be at the hospital before 9am for treatment, and didn't get to sleep till after 5am. I've had to nap a few times.
Another thing is working out your best time of day, and doing things then. Mine's about 9pm to about midnight so that's when I do things like emails, paperwork, bits of housework. If you work out your best time of day maybe you could use it to get the next day's food set up? Lay out breakfast, with plates etc, make a sandwich for lunch, decide on dinner.
I have to say food is a problem for me too, it just feels wrong to have breakfast at midday even though my body's telling me it's time to break the fast. It's the next thing I'm going to work on with my therapist.
I think taking one problem at a time and figuring out what works for you is probably the way to go.
(Feel free to ignore my advice, everyone's different)
tomtontom wrote: »
If you're not sleeping then a good start is turning off the computer, and any other technology around you - actually off, not flashing away next to you. If you want to be somewhere at 9am you'll do it.
There's a fine line between being weak willed, having bad habits, and being lazy. You are in danger of crossing it. There's nothing you describe that you can't at least start to help yourself with. Why not make a start by planning three meals for tomorrow? Nothing fancy, an egg or a few pieces of fruit for breakfast maybe?
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