suki1964 wrote: »
Ok I'm out. Unsubscribing as no matter what help and personal experience people are offering, you are adamant you can't help yourself
dekaspace wrote: »
Who said I think that? No that goes back to me being misunderstood again.
I listen to points of view and put my own across as a debate/discussion.
So that response has ended up frustrating me.
What I would say like I said in another post and related to me putting my opinion on every response is I have already tried a lot of things over the years that didn't do anything so reccomendations are only what I have already done.
Don't take it as not taking advice and as well don't think I won't try it again in the future, I try and change my sleep pattern and diet fairly regularly but like I say I need the actual root of my issues sorted rather than deal with making the consequences of the issue less.
DomRavioli wrote: »
You're not willing to help yourself.
You have dismissed every single idea put forward.
You need professional help, you are refusing to both use self help or professional help and until you do both nothing will change.
I'm out as well. Absolute pi55 take.
dekaspace wrote: »
I have NOT dismissed things I mentioned I have tried them already and either it didn't work or I slipped back into old ways.
Notice the things I haven't tried or I haven't done much of I don't write about, I write about things I already tried and failed.
AT WHAT POINT DID I SAY I WON'T DO THE THINGS
That part is really down to my autism, it makes me come across one way when the reality is different, I then get angry when people make assumptions.
FYI I will try and change my diet again, I am just saying its probably going to fail rather than dismissing it.
The pi55 take is your accusation.
FYI also I asked for things like therapy from doctors over the years and been refused due to waiting lists, if I didn't want help or willing to try why would I ask them? Why would I contact my MP mentioning the cuts to the local social work and also local autism groups? Why would I apply for college courses even when I assume Im going to fail? Point is I try anyway, when people mention things I have already done I am saying I already tried it but got nowhere, and will try again and that the autism side makes other things difficult even without MH issues.
Did you know I went to library last 3 days? I didn't know what to get out but just window shopped, thats the autism not the mental health stopping me from getting books out, the mental health is whats stopping me enjoy reading a book.
My problems are a combination of autism and mental health, people have applied non autistic mindsets to the situation which comes accross as not listening when its totally the opposite its why earlier in the thread I wrote I write thanks when all is over rather than individually and also why I have a problem with being understood correctly (that again is autism)
A huge part of things is how my autistic mind conflicts with itself, I have always had that even before MH issues, if I didn't have autism the MH issues would go away.
Its the autistic part of me that gives my brain conflicting information which translates as struggling with changes rather than me not doing something.
Id say its "easier" to treat the autistic side first than the mental health side as its the autism that is stopping me from changes to routine however good they are rather than the mental health that embraces changes so the two conflict.
Finally so you know before I even wrote the thread I asked my doctor for therapy and got a phone call yesterday giving me an appointment for it.
The final problem is to write everything I feel would take enough detail I could write a few pages on here along and still forget something important and even then theres so many ways to write things and each has its own interpretation.
Accusations of not taking advice are actually more harming than anything as it disregards what I have already tried or will try because it ends up frustrating me more so with an already stressed head it means longer to do things.
DomRavioli wrote: »
You've been advised of having better sleep hygiene, to see your GP, to start self help, to eat better, and to start looking after yourself.
That has been met with "I did it years ago" - when by your own admission you had more control over your life; you have been very dismissive.
No GP would refuse to refer you to therapy because of waiting lists. You can refuse to go on the waiting list, but the GP has a duty of care to ensure your health is as best as it can be. It is also likely you can self refer for therapy, most CCGs now have this service. And by your own admission above, it was always available - and you will receive a service.
You come across as a whiny not willing to help themself person. therapy (most likely CBT) is based on self help principles - if you refuse to help yourself then there's no point going and wasting precious resources.
You've also had some very constructive suggestions as to who to approach about your issues, and some ways to deal with your issues. they have all been batted aside, in some ways quite abruptly and rudely. That isn't anything to do with autism (I've worked with people all over the autistic spectrum for 6 years, and although they may be different, they aren't offensive), possibly your MH, but stop blaming it on a diagnosis - that is the first place to start.
Perhaps when you recover your manners from wherever you left them, then people will be receptive to you.
And if you ever speak ill of me again, I will report you.
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