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Lazy Child
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Wow! I'm getting more astounded at every post by the OP!
The lad had an inheritance that everybody would envy and he's wasted the lot. He has, not the grandparent who left it to him.
Now he's continuing to live the life of a wastrel, fed and sheltered in a warm, comfortable home I imagine.
Time for some hard lessons in life, otherwise he's going to have a very strange future. He won't be able to sponge of people all his life. His siblings need to be armed against him.Member #14 of SKI-ers club
Words, words, they're all we have to go by!.
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Give him three months' notice, to be withdrawn if he makes a serious and sustained effort to find work(AKA HRH_MUngo)
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Imagine someone holding forth on biology whose only knowledge of the subject is the Book of British Birds, and you have a rough idea of what it feels like to read Richard Dawkins on theology: Terry Eagleton0 -
tiger_eyes wrote: »I'm not sure it's possible to leave an inheritance that can't be squandered by even the most determined beneficiary. You can wait until the beneficiary is 18 or 21 or 25 or even 30, but there's no age limit on pouring money down a drain. If you're really determined, you could set up a trustee who controls the money, but that's a recipe for resentment.
I know someone who is the trustee in this scenario, and yes, it has caused resentment.(AKA HRH_MUngo)
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Imagine someone holding forth on biology whose only knowledge of the subject is the Book of British Birds, and you have a rough idea of what it feels like to read Richard Dawkins on theology: Terry Eagleton0 -
encourage him, gently to find workpollypenny wrote: »Now he's continuing to live the life of a wastrel, fed and sheltered in a warm, comfortable home I imagine.
He's got a nice warm home but he's got no money. How long can someone live without any money at all? Even if he just wants to go to the pub or if he needs the bus fare to go and see someone he needs some money.
Mobile top-up, clothes, barbers, all cost money. I imagine OP is paying for these things? If so I would stop paying for everything bar the most essential things, ie food and shelter.left the forum due to trolling/other nonsense
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encourage him, gently to find workI'd tell him that he needs to get down the job centre and sign on and also see if there are any courses he could do to give him some work experience.
My son was a bit lazy between leaving sixth form and starting uni, but he's now realised that he has to work for a living to pay his student rent and bills as I can't afford to pay his way. Plus he's an adult now (19 also) and needs to learn what it's like to live in the real world rather than have everything done for him. I must admit, he's really grown up in the last year
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I was wondering if anyone can give me advice about my 19 year old son.
He left college over a year and a half ago and he doesn't have any ambitions to do anything. He is quite happy to sleep all day. Play xbox games, or just lounge around in his bedroom watching tv.
If I ask him what are his plans for today he refuses to talk to me. He clams up.
He even refuses to sign on!
I am at my wits end. what do i do?
What did you do when he was little - set out boundaries, make sure he knew what would happen if he over-stepped them, be consistent with punishments when necessary?
If it worked when he was a toddler, why not use the same method now?
He can either be a child and be treated like one at home or decide to behave like an adult and become responsible for his own life.0 -
He stopped speaking to us. He went wild. He dropped out of college and went on a rampage of self destruction with his mates in tow
He slept during the day and went out at night.
Of course we were angry at him for his behaviour, so he started to avoid us.
No rent was paid. he wouldn't do it.
We asked repeatedly
You aren't his friends - you're his parents! You should have told him what was happening, not asked him!
If he didn't want to comply with the rules of your house, he didn't have to continue living there.0 -
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encourage him, gently to find workOP I have the same problem with my 10 who will not do homework.
Do I get rid of the XBox well before GSCE's or even now?0 -
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