Lazy Child

jjhr

I was wondering if anyone can give me advice about my 19 year old son.

He left college over a year and a half ago and he doesn't have any ambitions to do anything. He is quite happy to sleep all day. Play xbox games, or just lounge around in his bedroom watching tv.
If I ask him what are his plans for today he refuses to talk to me. He clams up.

He even refuses to sign on!

I am at my wits end. what do i do?

Poppie68

Kick him out

I would remove everything but his bed and wardrobe from his room, providing you bought the Xbox etc. Stop cooking or even providing food for him, deny access to the Washing machine, shower and living room and tell him when he finds a job and starts paying rent then he can have full privileges back...Oh and take his door keys off him.

fairy_lights

Take him to the doctors

Does he go out at all or does he literally spend all his time sleeping or on the xbox? Does he have friends and socialise?
Why won't he sign on?

nearlyrich

What is he living on if he has no job and no intention of getting one? Time for some tough love, tell him he has 2 months to get an income as you need £150 or £200 per month off him to keep living with you.

jjhr

fairy_lights wrote: »

Does he go out at all or does he literally spend all his time sleeping or on the xbox? Does he have friends and socialise?
Why won't he sign on?

Yes he does spend time with his friends. The reason he won't sign on because he doesn't like the people there. Yes I know, its pathetic

166million

Kick him out

What Poppie68 said.
Too many parents encouraging laziness rather than bringing child up to be adults in their own right.

tea_lover

jjhr wrote: »

Yes he does spend time with his friends. The reason he won't sign on because he doesn't like the people there. Yes I know, its pathetic

Stop feeding him.

jjhr

nearlyrich wrote: »

What is he living on if he has no job and no intention of getting one? Time for some tough love, tell him he has 2 months to get an income as you need £150 or £200 per month off him to keep living with you.

We feed him, but he does not get any money off of us, maybe if he does an odd job for us he will get the odd £5 or £10.

nearlyrich

Oh and he is not a child maybe that is the problem he needs to realise he is an adult and he should be taking responsibility.

LutonGirl

Turn off the wi-fi and the heating and cut the plug off his telly. He's obviously too comfortable.

DKLS

Family meeting time to welcome him to the world of adult life and the tedious realities & responsibilities that go with that.

Also time to make a choice, either go back to studying, find a job or if there is a problem he needs to seek help, lounging around the house shouldn't be an option.