sexless marriage :(

j.e.j.

geerex wrote: »

Look, your wife isn't fulfilling her duties. Either ditch her, or if she's going to end up taking all of your money, get a tight wee thing on the side. Your wife isn't fulfilling her obligations, you have needs.

Faith177

geerex wrote: »

Firstly, I GUARANTEE that if you were a woman, 99% of these comments would be "get rid of that loser".
Look, your wife isn't fulfilling her duties. Either ditch her, or if she's going to end up taking all of your money, get a tight wee thing on the side. Your wife isn't fulfilling her obligations, you have needs.

I'm guessing you are either single or under the thumb and play "the man" when your wife/partner is out of ear shot :rotfl:

dottymrsp

Wow, so, um, according to quite a few commenters here (naming no names) having sex with your husband is a 'wifely duty' now, I'm pretty anti-feminist, and old fashioned, and I take my wifely duties pretty seriously... but emotionally blackmailing a woman into having sex with you counts as violation of consent in my book... just FYI.- so unless your wife has signed up to a consensual non-consent agreement and is happy to be emotionally blackmailed into "fulfilling your needs".... you're a rapey douche.

OP - getting a 'tight young thing' on the side as one poster has suggested is NOT a good idea, as I'm sure you love your wife, so (assuming you are in a monogamous marriage) stay faithful, because cheating on her isn't going to get you anywhere.

amistupid

dontwannabecelibate wrote: »

sexless marriage .

Yes please.

geerex

dottymrsp wrote: »

Wow, so, um, according to quite a few commenters here (naming no names) having sex with your husband is a 'wifely duty' now, I'm pretty anti-feminist, and old fashioned, and I take my wifely duties pretty seriously... but emotionally blackmailing a woman into having sex with you counts as violation of consent in my book... just FYI.- so unless your wife has signed up to a consensual non-consent agreement and is happy to be emotionally blackmailed into "fulfilling your needs".... you're a rapey douche.

OP - getting a 'tight young thing' on the side as one poster has suggested is NOT a good idea, as I'm sure you love your wife, so (assuming you are in a monogamous marriage) stay faithful, because cheating on her isn't going to get you anywhere.

" rapey douche"? Notwithstanding the fact that this isn't an American forum, where exactly did I suggest rape?

As I said before, if the OP was a woman, I could guarantee that a hell of a lot of replies would be telling the OP to "ditch him", " get a toy boy", "take him for all hes got" etc. Seems to be one rule for guys and another for females on here.

The fact remains that there is an implicit expectation of certain rights in a marriage, why else would withdrawal of physical intimacy be an accepted reason for divorce in courts?

As it stands, the wife isn't fulfilling her side of the bargain, if that side of the relationship is dead, she should allow her husband to hook up with someone else.

pollypenny

I think the wife will probably be glad if her useless clot of a husband hooks up with someone else.

VfM4meplse

I've read this thread with a mixture of amusement and bewilderment.

What I don't understand is how your wife sleep-walked her way into a marriage with someone who lacks basic consideration. She knew you for long enough before you married. From what you say OP (or at least your seemingly wondrous attitude to the common sense advice offered on the forum) you're not the one who's changed. You've always been like this.

As for the counsellor taking sides - well that says it all!

victory

VfM4meplse wrote: »

As for the counsellor taking sides - well that says it all!

^^^ I feel that that part of the posts where the counsellor took the wife side I have read the same on another thread, another time, it just seems very familiar, no idea what username but seems very familiar?

Icey77

victory wrote: »

^^^ I feel that that part of the posts where the counsellor took the wife side I have read the same on another thread, another time, it just seems very familiar, no idea what username but seems very familiar?

There is a long thread about separation and what to pay. But that thread comes across as much more honest, WYSISYG and has detail that stacks up in RL. There is a point in that thread where a counsellor side with the wife but on a different subject.

Mupette

Stop thinking with your fathers brain, times have moved on men really can help with the children and housework.

get a mask then you can vacuum, you can make cleaning products yourself which will be better for you so no excuses there.

sorry your either a troll or an overgrown manchild who shouldn't of married

MAN UP