Advice please - relationship & friends.

CH27

DJS1988 wrote: »

You're all forgetting it's not me whom called anyone thick, not Dandelion, not a soul.

Dandelion - that's all very nice, and I never would've pulled you up on your spelling if you was not totally derogatory.

I wish I had not returned here with an update, one I thought was positive, one where I said I thought my OH had been a prat. Sitting behind a keyboard calling someone thick isn't the best way of doing things on what is meant to be an advice forum.

If someone can lock this thread I'd be most grateful.

If this is how you handle people not agreeing with you I can see why you have a problem with your OH's friends.
They don't like you & there is diddly squat you can do about it.

ETA I agree with Victory!:eek: :rotfl:

victory

CH27 wrote: »

ETA I agree with Victory!:eek: :rotfl:

Thank you, that has made my day:D:D

CH27

victory wrote: »

Thank you, that has made my day:D:D

I think I need a lie down :rotfl:

victory

DJS1988 wrote: »

Or she shows herself up and my partner will see what I have all along .

You have said things along this ^^^ line for quite a few posts, this worries me, why would you want to bring someone down? I get it that that she insulted you, was horrible, etc but to everyone that happens if we all went along and tried to destroy someone, tried to bring them down, make them pay, seek revenge, 'get them' or whichever line you wish to go down, it would be carnage out there, wars would rage within every relationship, chaos would reign, most would get very :mad: voice a load of explitives, be very put out and be in the negatives for a while and then dust themselves down and move on, learning from the terrible experience and not let it rule the relationship, life, the love you both have?

victory

CH27 wrote: »

I think I need a lie down :rotfl:

:D

victory

Also locking the thread seems a bit disingenuous to all the posters that have been posting their help and they don't get to find out how the meet went....

tea_lover

Total 'toys out of pram' over-reaction. Life doesn't always go your way OP, you need to learn to deal with that in a more productive manner.

DJS1988

Right, so let me get this straight. Dandelion can call someone thick, yet I can not say I don't agree with it? Perhaps not calling someone thick without merit, and saying something constructive would be more helpful.

I have already given my thanks to everyone that has given constructive advice, whether I feel it's right for me or not. Asking to close the thread is not disrespecting that, it's simply that I do not wish to have battles with anyone over something so stupid.

Also, no, I have not said I want to bring anyone down. I have said I think she will show herself up/show her true colours. I won't apologise for part of me hoping that would be the case, as I would like my partner not to be taken in by her any longer.

I feel I know myself well enough, and am quite capable to have a discussion about a difficult situation without being drawn into a slanging match. On here I have not appreciated someone calling my OH thick, I don't think many of you would - especially after you had taken the time to come here and say you felt alot happier and more positive about the situation you'd asked for advice on.

DJS1988

I've not got my hackles up, I've not thrown my toys out of the pram.

I've simply responded in kind to Dandelions inflammatory post, that was not warranted after my update in any way, shape or form. I have not called him/her thick at all.

The thread has gone off topic and I did not come here for bear baiting, I came here for advice, which I have taken onboard whether it be for or against what I have decided to do.

CruisingSaver

OP I hope the meeting goes as you hope and the four of you are at least able to be civil with each other.


I'm actually ashamed to be sharing forum space with some of the posters on this thread. The unashamed baiting of the OP is a poor reflection of their behaviour but I doubt they'll have the self awareness to realise it!


CS