Advice please - relationship & friends.

Pyxis

Thanks for the update, DJS. Glad it worked out well, and hope GF behaves from now on!

Best of luck to you and OH for the future!




( Can we come to the wedding?)

Izadora

I'm glad it all went well and hopefully they'll be a bit nicer to you from now on. You don't have to like them but at least if you can all tolerate being in the same room then it makes the guys' friendship much easier.

Skintmama

Thank you for updating the thread. I hope everything works out well for you and wish you all the best for the future

dktreesea

DJS1988 wrote: »

Ah we do - my main group of friends mostly have partners so we all socialise a lot together, and he would now comfortably spend time with "my" guy friends without me being there. My mates love him and they see how happy we are. We also spend time with other friends of his (not in the same circle), and spend a lot of time with his brother and his partner, and his cousins etc of whom he has many around our age.

Really, we/I don't have to be around them much at all - it's more knowing that I can't, and also that at the end of this year there are three 30th's (including my OH's) in his tight circle where I have to be around them. I want these things to be happy events we look forward to, not dread.

Sorry to say, but you want way too much. Why not count the blessings you have, lots of close freinds of your own, couples from your side you both get along with, some friends on his side you both get along with, his close family who seem to have welcomed you into the fold?


I'm fascinated by how, between both of your working lives and other what sound like more fun people to do things with, you even have time to think about this other group, and one person in particular in that group, let alone consider having them in your life.


You can be around them. if you other half invites you, he invites you. If the rest of that group don't welcome you with open arms, so what? You're there at your OH's invite, not theirs. As for yoru OH's 30th, why exactly does the girl in question need to be involved? So what they are friends, but it doesn't mean he has to celebrate everything with this particular friend, especially if she doesn't fit into your and your OH's circle.