Advice please - relationship & friends.

Izadora

dandelionclock30 wrote: »

Not spewing bile at all, you just dont like it when people tell you how it is.

dandelionclock30 wrote: »

Run along

dandelionclock30 wrote: »

Its beyond pathetic.

I'm sorry but I don't see that as 'telling it how it is', I see that as sniping at the OP for no reason other than she doesn't agree with your advice.

As for starting to doubt the veracity of the entire thread, you clearly have much more level-headed friends than a lot of people I know if you think that this is unbelievable behaviour.

purpleshoes_2

DJS1988 wrote: »

He DOES know she's behaved badly. He's had words in the past, and made them aware he will not be around if they continued with the behaviour, once they've been warned.

He thinks we've ALL behaved wrongly in this most recent situation.

I don't know how many times I have to explain this point. It's very frustrating when people that can't/refuse to take in simple facts keep posting the same thing over and over..

You started this thread, if you were happy with the situation this thread wouldnt exist

I bet he does think you've all behaved badly, takes the heat off just how badly he's let you down

You dont have to explain this point. Its called disagreeing with someones opinion.

Its not about refusing to take in simple facts, I see what you are posting, I just think you are in denial about how badly your bf has behaved and are trying to gloss over it and put on the he loves me really face. Which is fine. But if he lets you down again you might find it harder to take.

And your attitude towards people who agree with everything you say and those who don't is quite staggering.

Asking me if Id read the entire thread just because I didnt agree with your viewpoint.

You come across as being condescending at times, Ive not been rude to you, but you really do not need to address me as if Im simple, because I am far from that.

meritaten

I don't think anyone has looked at this from the OPs boyfriends view. to him he has a 'best friend' who has a GF he didn't initially get on with. they met and thrashed out their differences. he has made an effort to 'get on' with this girl and seen her 'advances' as being 'friendly'. he doesn't see how she manipulates people, how she causes strife between couples. all he saw was HIS OH behave a bit badly and doesn't really understand the 'why'.
he didn't see why he shouldn't go to the birthday do if OP was otherwise busy.
He has been educated otherwise and now thinks another 'sit down' meeting would work just like before.
he is well-meaning but deluded. IMHO
Please do post with update if meeting takes place DJS. I have my own idea on the outcome.

warehouse

Saw this on facebook and thought of this thread.

cloudy-day

DJS1988 - I have followed this thread with interest - its disappointing that once again a thread has been derailed by nasty comments.

I have my own idea of what will happen at the meeting, please post back what happened.

Remember, for some posters the Ignore button is your friend!

DJS1988

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I have my own idea of what will happen at the meeting, please post back what happened.

Remember, for some posters the Ignore button is your friend! [/QUOTE]

I wish I had a clue. Feeling pretty anxious today which I didn't think I would. I think it's because I have literally no idea what I've personally "done", so I therefore have no idea what's going to be thrown at me.

However, I know what I want to say, and how I need to say it. Just need to stick to it, no matter how much I am riled. Just got to think of the bigger picture - which is going back to a drama free life!

I wouldn't waste the click x

Mojisola

DJS1988 wrote: »

However, I know what I want to say, and how I need to say it. Just need to stick to it, no matter how much I am riled. Just got to think of the bigger picture - which is going back to a drama free life!

Hope all goes well.

jenhug

Quick question.

Does she get as involved in other couples relationships within your social group or just yours and your partners?

Still can't decide if its because she wants your OH for herself or she is just a meddle for fun type of person.

Good luck for later. Get some Bachs remedy to try and calm the nerves a little. xx

DJS1988

jenhug wrote: »

Quick question.

Does she get as involved in other couples relationships within your social group or just yours and your partners?

Still can't decide if its because she wants your OH for herself or she is just a meddle for fun type of person.

Good luck for later. Get some Bachs remedy to try and calm the nerves a little. xx

In all honesty, I'm not sure. I haven't seen evidence that she does, but I don't spend THAT much time with them all, and it's not something I'd ask any of the other girls.

She has made her FB cover photo a picture from the weekend - that she's not in, her OH's face is obscured, but guess whose mid-centre and takes up most of the shot? :rotfl: If I don't laugh I will cry...

Thank you x

jenhug

She wants him then. Totally obsessed. Her poor OH. Your OH seems totally oblivious!