I've got a date tonight, going to her place, but I'm quite nervous. Advice?

kingslayer

jaylee3 wrote: »

Why the EFF has this gone to ELEVEN pages? OMG! It's a teen boy fantasising about bonking a middle aged woman. None of what he's saying is real.

Are people just humouring the Op for a laugh or something?

Why exactly do you think I am a troll, fantasising about an older woman?

I am actually deadly serious, but for some reason people keep saying I'm a troll, but won't explain why. The only explanation so far is because I said a word that hasn't supposedly been used in ages; with the word being "jonnie" and that i made a stupid decision not to wear one.

BrassicWoman

people call troll because no one is actually this stupid or selfish or totally lacking in self awareness in their outdated ideas about women.

however it is fun watching the thread

kingslayer

BrassicWoman wrote: »

people call troll because no one is actually this stupid or selfish or totally lacking in self awareness in their outdated ideas about women.

however it is fun watching the thread

You only comment to criticise me. You seem to think I'm a woman hater for some reason.

JoW123

kingslayer wrote: »

I never went there for sex, well not in my mind anyway. I went there with the notion that we were gonna spend some time together, chat and get to know each other. As soon as she met me at the door in a skimpy nightie, that's when I wondered that sex might be (or definitely will be) on the cards.

But I never went there with sex in mind at all. It would have been nice to get to know her on a personal level, which is what i wanted more. As soon as she poured me a drink and we sat in the lounge on the sofa, i felt pressure to start kissing her and then lead to sex. I should of said no, but i guess i was thinking it's one of the few chances she gets to be "fulfilled" and wanted to please her.

When someone tells you that they're looking for something serious, i expected us to actually get to know each other, especially after all that time we were talking after we first met.

If it was just for sex, why talk to me for nearly 3 months? Why not just say what you were after, if that is what you were after?

The thing is, because she seems shy, maybe she is embarrassed about what happened the other night. She does seem to get embarrassed easily and kept saying she didn't think I found her attractive, as much as to seek validation because she was lacking confidence/insecure about herself.

She has a job, though, so she says. She works nights until early mornings, so i don't see how she would feel the need to get pregnant to avoid work.

I really want to know what happened between her and her ex, as she only told me that her ex just !!!!!!ed off, which was the only explanation. That doesn't really make sense as her children are all between the ages of 11-16, so it's not like she's just given birth and her man doesn't want any part in the upbringing of the child.

She met you at the door in a skimpy nightie and you honestly thought you had gone there to get to know each other?????? Dear lord, that's naiveity on a whole new scale......

victory

kingslayer wrote: »

I never went there for sex, well not in my mind anyway. I went there with the notion that we were gonna spend some time together, chat and get to know each other. As soon as she met me at the door in a skimpy nightie, that's when I wondered that sex might be (or definitely will be) on the cards.

But I never went there with sex in mind at all. It would have been nice to get to know her on a personal level, which is what i wanted more. As soon as she poured me a drink and we sat in the lounge on the sofa, i felt pressure to start kissing her and then lead to sex. I should of said no, but i guess i was thinking it's one of the few chances she gets to be "fulfilled" and wanted to please her.

When someone tells you that they're looking for something serious, i expected us to actually get to know each other, especially after all that time we were talking after we first met.

If it was just for sex, why talk to me for nearly 3 months? Why not just say what you were after, if that is what you were after?

The thing is, because she seems shy, maybe she is embarrassed about what happened the other night. She does seem to get embarrassed easily and kept saying she didn't think I found her attractive, as much as to seek validation because she was lacking confidence/insecure about herself.

She has a job, though, so she says. She works nights until early mornings, so i don't see how she would feel the need to get pregnant to avoid work.

I really want to know what happened between her and her ex, as she only told me that her ex just !!!!!!ed off, which was the only explanation. That doesn't really make sense as her children are all between the ages of 11-16, so it's not like she's just given birth and her man doesn't want any part in the upbringing of the child.

She met you at the door in a skimpy nighty, really??????

Every mans dream came true for you on the very first visit, wow, you can really string a great story together, adding bits that keep it going, very good, not true though?

kingslayer

JoW123 wrote: »

She met you at the door in a skimpy nightie and you honestly thought you had gone there to get to know each other?????? Dear lord, that's naiveity on a whole new scale......

I never knew she was going to turn up at the door in a bleeding nightie, i'm not a clairvoyant! I said that i thought i was going there to chat and chill out, i was never expecting sex.

kingslayer

victory wrote: »

She met you at the door in a skimpy nighty, really??????

Every mans dream came true for you on the very first visit, wow, you can really string a great story together, adding bits that keep it going, very good, not true though?

So why put question marks beside those sentences if you think i'm just telling a story? If you don't believe me, fine, but i'm being genuine. I have no reason to waste time coming on here to spout a bunch of fictional nonsense. I might have an imagination, but it's not that damn vivid.

Morglin

kingslayer wrote: »

I never went there for sex, well not in my mind anyway. As soon as she met me at the door in a skimpy nightie, that's when I wondered that sex might be (or definitely will be) on the cards.

My gawd, this is getting more like a Carry On film, with every post....:eek:

I am just thankful, if this is true, that she didn't meet you at the door in bondage gear, or holding a saddle and bridle - I don't think my health would have stood a 12 page thread on the budget version of Fifty Shades of Grey, or the Trials and Tribulations of a bloke made to feel like Champion The Wonder Horse.....:silenced:

Look, if it's true - just move on now......sex, casual or not is meant to be FUN, it's free, untaxable and a jolly time should be had by all.....:T

But, it should be safe sex, because that is the only way to avoid the patter of little feet, whether it be a baby or a dose of crabs or something.

Lin

JoW123

kingslayer wrote: »

I never knew she was going to turn up at the door in a bleeding nightie, i'm not a clairvoyant! I said that i thought i was going there to chat and chill out, i was never expecting sex.

I'm not saying you knew she would open the door in her nightie, but surely you have to realise that a woman who opens the door in her nightie to a man she has not even met for coffee before, is not looking for a serious relationship?? Oh and for the record I don't think you are a troll, I think you're completely serious which is what I find so alarming!!

Lily-Rose_3

I think the OP really believes that this is all happening. It is - in his head.