I've got a date tonight, going to her place, but I'm quite nervous. Advice?

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Caroline_a wrote: »

I'm calling troll. This is just ridiculous.

Reminds me of the absurd world of StudentPhil

Person_one

StuC75 wrote: »

Too much of this has been going on in your head

kingslayer wrote: »

one other thing that has been running through my head is, i noticed she had breast implants. Now, i know this may sound trivial, but taking that into consideration, as well as what she said regarding her health, i.e. she has regular tests, maybe she works as an escort when she gets a chance?
I just wondered what you all thought about this?

I have to agree with StuC.

I can't wait for the update where she shows up on your door carrying twins, it would be good if you could work in a storyline where you go on the run from the law together too...

kingslayer

Caroline_a wrote: »

I'm calling troll. This is just ridiculous.

I'm not! I am just thinking way too much. I need to stop.

kingslayer

StuC75 wrote: »

You are soo wrong and have way too much time to think.. It cannot be healthy..

If she was an escort why would she take the time to meet you (as an unknown) at her own place for a 'Freebie' without the mention of any kind of protection being used.

Also as an escort would expect her self confidence would be a lot higher..

When would you think that she would fit this in?

Sensible people do have health screening before new partners - or if an Ex had cheated on her - so she felt the need to check he hadn't passed anything on... it doesn't mean that shes 'working'..

The implants could be down to health reasons? breast cancer? or to help with confidence if wasn't comfortable with what already head - re her shyness \ low self confidence & worth - feeling that you should be complementing her to make her feel better..

for now its probably better that youre not speaking to her as you would most likely say something massively insulting!!..

I am probably being stupid.

I was complimenting her. Every time i was saying she was beautiful, gorgeous etc she would say "shut up, no i'm not" etc. It was like she never believed it and that was frustrating.

You're most likely correct, it's just me thinking things that probably aren't true.

I just wish we would have had a more in depth chat about things while i was there. It would have been better than coming away over thinking and speculating like i have been these past couple days.

Tropez

I have to thank you for this thread; it is fantastic.

Sometimes I sit here and ponder my relationship with my wife. We get on well and generally have what I would term a good relationship but she does things that confuse me, she's prone to spontaneous ideas and now and again she goes in a huff with me over small things and doesn't even tell me what she's miffed about until much later.

And in those times, I wonder myself if it is meant to be quite so tricky at times?

But you, dear me, you...

My wife has suggested in the future she might have breast implants. She likes her body and wants to fight nature a bit on that front (feisty little devil that she is). Seems legitimate to me. Not once have I considered she might be lining up a possible future career as an escort but why stop there? I mean, you get slightly better health provisions in !!!!!! (I know, big scandal a few years back in mind) so maybe she fancies herself in some !!!!!! videos?

But you see, the truth is (assuming what you're saying is the truth, and I'm not convinced, since every time you plead your case that you're not a troll you throw out something else so utterly beyond the norm that it calls it straight back into question) relationships aren't complicated. Sure, I have my occasional moments of "what the actual?" with my wife but all in all things work pretty well.

The reason you find relationships complicated is because of you. The number of assumptions you've jumped to over the course of this thread - she gets tested so she must be easy, she didn't use a condom so she's stupid (or ditzy as you put it), she has breast implants so she's a hooker (because sex workers generally practice unsafe sex with relative strangers when they're off the clock, of course) - it's not the signs of someone who has a mere anxiety condition but someone who is so utterly paranoid that they could never have a meaningful relationship.

You don't just need to stop thinking, you need to seek professional help. The relationship isn't tricky, you're the problem. You're the one who keeps moving the goalposts, you're the one who doesn't know what you want and you're the one running through a multitude of different scenarios of what she might be when you have very little evidence to support any of them. You clearly have some deep-seated issues here, you're speaking in what could only be described as misogynistic terms and you're overly complicating every little thing about every little thing.

Until you get to grips with that, you're going to be a complete mess in any relationship. If this is remotely true then if I were you, rather than spend your time trying to convince people you're not a troll while coming out with some more ridiculous theories about a woman you supposedly like, I'd go see a GP and get a referral to mental health services because this type of behaviour is so personally limiting and emotionally destructive that it needs to be addressed sooner rather than later.

StuC75

its called fishing for complements...and will reply in that way so that you explain further why you think that so that it builds up how they feel about themselves...

Or how you said it may have lacked any real conviction.

but you do need to realise what the likely limits on this relationship will be - kids will rightly be her priority so it may be a while before anyone else could be involved in that regards - maybe time that you can look to address what youre wanting from a relationship...

kingslayer wrote: »

I am probably being stupid.

I was complimenting her. Every time i was saying she was beautiful, gorgeous etc she would say "shut up, no i'm not" etc. It was like she never believed it and that was frustrating.

You're most likely correct, it's just me thinking things that probably aren't true.

I just wish we would have had a more in depth chat about things while i was there. It would have been better than coming away over thinking and speculating like i have been these past couple days.

codemonkey

RuthnJasper

I feel soiled just reading this stuff...

No protection... posting about the poor woman's 'shirt potatoes' on a forum... Ye gods.

I just pray that we don't see you pop back on here in a few weeks' time after she's texted you to say that she's late in receiving her monthly visit from Auntie Flo...

Try and develop some self-respect, Kingslayer - http://www.wikihow.com/Respect-Yourself; and then work out how to respect other people (particularly those with whom you'd like to have s£x).

Assuming you aren't a troll, of course.

RuthnJasper

Person_one wrote: »

I have to agree with StuC.

I can't wait for the update where she shows up on your door carrying twins, it would be good if you could work in a storyline where you go on the run from the law together too...

Is that how Bonnie and Clyde started (minus the twins)?

Heffi1

RuthnJasper wrote: »

I feel soiled just reading this stuff...

posting about the poor woman's 'shirt potatoes' on a forum... Ye gods.
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OMG I just spat coffee out all over the screen, shirt potatoes, brilliant I love it.