I've got a date tonight, going to her place, but I'm quite nervous. Advice?

adouglasmhor

Morglin wrote: »

My gawd, this is getting more like a Carry On film, with every post....:eek:

I am just thankful, if this is true, that she didn't meet you at the door in bondage gear, or holding a saddle and bridle - I don't think my health would have stood a 12 page thread on the budget version of Fifty Shades of Grey, or the Trials and Tribulations of a bloke made to feel like Champion The Wonder Horse.....:silenced:

Look, if it's true - just move on now......sex, casual or not is meant to be FUN, it's free, untaxable and a jolly time should be had by all.....:T

But, it should be safe sex, because that is the only way to avoid the patter of little feet, whether it be a baby or a dose of crabs or something.

Lin

The old personal raincoat doesn't protect against the seaside nippers (or herpes either).

Caroline_a

Does she own a Great Dane or have a caravan in her garden?? :rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

For those who weren't here then or have forgotten...

http://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/...yer+dog+garden

http://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/...+in+our+garden

kingslayer

Tropez wrote: »

Can you not?

Because you keep coming back and adding a little bit more, whether it be yet another absurd theory based on nothing or a little bit of information as to your wild night.

That's why people think you're trolling.

I do believe that some folk round 'ere are too quick to jump to the troll conclusion. Because there seems to be this overriding belief that everyone's lives are the same uniform level of tedium that the more bizarre stories couldn't possibly be true, even though it is a fact that many, if not all of us, have some of those moments in lives that elicit a "Get the hell outta here!" response when told to others.

But in general, we don't keep adding little bits to make the story more salacious, or more controversial - but you do, and that is why people have a hard time believing what you're saying.

It is rather common troll behaviour to start with a simple premise and then add bits here and there to keep the tale going and these bits invariably are more off-the-wall than before. It is also common troll behaviour to act in such an incredibly naive manner and to completely disregard why people are critical of you - you've been doing that throughout. Oh yes, sure, you've been "stupid" for not using a condom but that's about the only level of blame you've accepted for your part in any of this and you've made numerous misogynistic comments (that's woman hating, by the way) yet you claim to be oblivious as to why.

My previous post stands - if this isn't a troll post, you need professional help. There is nothing that you can gain from posting on this forum at this point. Virtually everyone on this thread has explained why you are some sort of a-hole at this point, in polite terms of course but the sentiment is there. How does it help someone with supposed anxiety issues to be repeatedly criticised for their behaviour to this extent? It doesn't.

Any sane person who was on the level wouldn't sit there sending a few text messages and then whimpering like a castrated poodle that there were few responses or that one hadn't been replied to and running through a thousand different scenarios as to why she hasn't replied. You ever considered maybe you've upset her somehow? You ever considered she reads this forum, has come across your post and is now fuming you actually considered she's a hooker? You ever considered just calling her and asking her how she feels about you? No, you seem quite content to just be shouted at here, and that's very odd.

Occam's razor - the simplest answer is usually the correct one.

Okay, but I'm not a troll. The only reason she could be upset with me is because I asked her about STI's in a fairly blunt way, and considering how emotional she seems, then maybe she took it totally the wrong way.

And I doubt she reads this forum. I don't need professional help, my mind is just like a puzzle.

elsien

She's so shy she opens the door in a skimpy nightie to a bloke she's never met before? The mind boggles as to what she'll get up to when she manages to overcome her shyness.

Tropez

kingslayer wrote: »

Okay, but I'm not a troll. The only reason she could be upset with me is because I asked her about STI's in a fairly blunt way, and considering how emotional she seems, then maybe she took it totally the wrong way.

Once again, you're projecting blame from yourself on to her.

And I doubt she reads this forum.

Why not? You do.

I don't need professional help, my mind is just like a puzzle.

Rampant paranoia and destructive delusions are not a "puzzle", they're a legitimate problem but if you want to carry on behaving like a loony and scare off every other woman you attempt to have a relationship with, well, that's your choice.

tea_lover

kingslayer wrote: »

Okay, but I'm not a troll. The only reason she could be upset with me is because I asked her about STI's in a fairly blunt way, and considering how emotional she seems, then maybe she took it totally the wrong way.

Let's just hope you didn't mention your escort theory to her then! Of course, we all know that sex workers like to give away unprotected freebies on their night off.... kind of CPD.

kingslayer

elsien wrote: »

She's so shy she opens the door in a skimpy nightie to a bloke she's never met before? The mind boggles as to what she'll get up to when she manages to overcome her shyness.

I am sure she isn't the only shy person who is overly sexual. all i know is that when i spoke to her on the phone and in person, she never really asked many questions and seemed shy to me. she would ask a few questions, but i used to do most talking because i try to talk a lot when i'm nervous. it is the way she acted around me too, which made me think she might lack confidence/self esteem.

adouglasmhor

Pics or it didn't happen.

kingslayer

Tropez wrote: »

Once again, you're projecting blame from yourself on to her.
Why not? You do.

Rampant paranoia and destructive delusions are not a "puzzle", they're a legitimate problem but if you want to carry on behaving like a loony and scare off every other woman you attempt to have a relationship with, well, that's your choice.

It may come across as paranoia, but those are theories in my head that i felt could be true. maybe i am paranoid and insecure, but that's mostly to do with not having been seriously interested in someone for years.

She has been the first person in a long time that i've actually been interested in wanting to get to know, so i think this is why i am like i am. I don't know if i've upset her, but yeah i probably came across in a bad way after texting her asking if she was free of sti's. at the time i thought nothing of it, but it may have well angered her if untrue. like i said before, i have a tendency to over think things too much and it isn't healthy.

FBaby

BrassicWoman wrote: »

OH NO! ITS THE DECLINE OF CIVILISATION!

A woman who enjoys no strings sex? THINKING FOR HERSELF AGAINST THE MORALITY POLICE??

It's Sodam and Gomorrah all over again!

Get off your woman hating high horse of judgement. Queen Victoria is no longer on the throne and would still be very disappointed with you if she was.

Oh dear hit a nerve it would seem! The issue is not about women being only interested in a no string attached sexual encounters but about such women not making it clear to their pretenders. OP is going on about trying to figure her out. What I am saying is that she seems to be interested only in sex and nothing else and that shouldn't come as a surprise to OP considering the way she was so quick to lead him to bed.