I've got a date tonight, going to her place, but I'm quite nervous. Advice?

Goldiegirl

kingslayer wrote: »

No, I actually didn't do that at all, but I just wasn't entirely in the mood for sex, so my performance suffered. Anyway, I'm going to shut up as this gives people more ammunition to take the p*ss out of me.

If you weren't in the mood for sex how did you manage to get carried away in the moment?

JoW123

kingslayer wrote: »

No, I actually didn't do that at all, but I just wasn't entirely in the mood for sex, so my performance suffered. Anyway, I'm going to shut up as this gives people more ammunition to take the p*ss out of me.

Too much information Kingslayer! Some things really need to be kept private.

kingslayer

Goldiegirl wrote: »

If you weren't in the mood for sex how did you manage to get carried away in the moment?

Just because things got heated doesn't mean I was in the mood for it. Things got carried away at first, but once it subsided I just wasn't as interested, but I wasn't just going to stop in the middle of it and say "sorry not in the mood" because she obviously wanted it. And me being a sap had to keep up the pretence in case she thought I was not interested and got upset about it. Anyway no one believes what I say right now so I'm typing for nothing.

kingslayer

JoW123 wrote: »

Too much information Kingslayer! Some things really need to be kept private.

How is that too much information?? I didn't even say anything in the least bit sexual.

JoW123

kingslayer wrote: »

How is that too much information?? I didn't even say anything in the least bit sexual.

Because we don't want to know the ins and outs of the whole encounter for God's sake. The extent of your performance should not be up for discussion!!

DUTR

kingslayer wrote: »

Just because things got heated doesn't mean I was in the mood for it. Things got carried away at first, but once it subsided I just wasn't as interested, but I wasn't just going to stop in the middle of it and say "sorry not in the mood" because she obviously wanted it. And me being a sap had to keep up the pretence in case she thought I was not interested and got upset about it. Anyway no one believes what I say right now so I'm typing for nothing.

Sounds like you were raped then, you could have just said no, as no means no.

Confusedandneedhelp

JoW123 wrote: »

Because we don't want to know the ins and outs of the whole encounter for God's sake. The extent of your performance should not be up for discussion!!

U mean in, out, in... Done?

The 's' on the 'outs' is clearly a typo!

PeacefulWaters

Kingslayer, are you going to start a new thread about your Mr Droopy problem?

Confusedandneedhelp

kingslayer wrote: »

I really hope not! Why would she do that anyway? I don't understand why she would want another child; she has three teenage children already.

Whoa, I know this does happen, but three teenage children going to their nans every two weeks? Seems awfully convenient. Three teenagers going to their mates houses, Ye I can see that.

Not that I believe this anyway

But benefit of the doubt to the op for 5 seconds. This isn't the love of your life, the simple fact of the matter is she has three teenage children. Unless ur in a position to take on that responsibility ( you're not, just based on this thread) I'd say either don't get in touch at all, or if she does, now out like a gent.

And so we're clear I have a problem with none of the 'facts' - my ex was slightly older, had two kids and we got together on the night we met. Difference is where u head is at, which is not in a stable place, emotionally or psychologically. Certainly not enough to be able to commit to someone in this position.

Just on the off chance that any of this is remotely true.

kingslayer

Confusedandneedhelp wrote: »

Whoa, I know this does happen, but three teenage children going to their nans every two weeks? Seems awfully convenient. Three teenagers going to their mates houses, Ye I can see that.

Not that I believe this anyway

But benefit of the doubt to the op for 5 seconds. This isn't the love of your life, the simple fact of the matter is she has three teenage children. Unless ur in a position to take on that responsibility ( you're not, just based on this thread) I'd say either don't get in touch at all, or if she does, now out like a gent.

And so we're clear I have a problem with none of the 'facts' - my ex was slightly older, had two kids and we got together on the night we met. Difference is where u head is at, which is not in a stable place, emotionally or psychologically. Certainly not enough to be able to commit to someone in this position.

Just on the off chance that any of this is remotely true.

Why awfully convenient? I only know that the eldest is 16 and the youngest is 11, but think the other daughter is early teens.

There isn't anything wrong with my head. It is just that i've had no idea what is going on between us, that is why my head is all over the place. She said she wanted to see me again, but then goes all quiet.

I have been trying to prove i'm being serious, but everyone dismisses what i say, so there's no point trying any longer. I will just have to text or call her later, if she doesn't answer/reply then I will draw a line in the sand of this situation.