Updated post 100: Sorry this is long. Awkward love life :(

victory

Write J a note? Ask him round for a coffee?

thehappybutterfly

miss_independent wrote: »

This thread isn't up to my usual standard I'm afraid.

No, you're right - not as humorous as usual

Dearie me, it never rains but it pours. Normally my advice in these situations is "if in doubt do nowt" but that's really not the best advice for you as you need to do something. Gosh, I don't know what to suggest. I find the remarks made by your friend 'S' a bit strange "You've got to have one of them" - sounds like she's pimping the boys out. :eek:

Maybe you should pluck up the courage and go and see J, just the two of you, and see how it goes. Not a date like, just a visit, without any random family members popping up like unwanted chaperones. You need to get him out of your system once and for all. If he doesn't ask you out by the end of the visit, then you ask him out. What's the worst that can happen? If he says no, then you'll know.

Then you go for K! Burger J and his shyness - this boat has sailed! :rotfl:

System

miss_independent wrote: »

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:rotfl:

*looks around to check he isn't here*


NAR

We're ok, he's on his holls

Still think you should push your self just a little bit where 'J' is concerned. Not too much though.

paulineb_2

I think if someone has asked you on a date, its nice if you say yes or no ta quite quickly, after all by the time you pluck up the courage to see J or text him and see what he thinks, or decide what you want to discuss, K might just think you arent interested in him and !!!!!! off.

I wouldnt keep him waiting more than a few days on an answer, if that.

miss_independent

paulineb wrote: »

I think if someone has asked you on a date, its nice if you say yes or no ta quite quickly, after all by the time you pluck up the courage to see J or text him and see what he thinks, or decide what you want to discuss, K might just think you arent interested in him and !!!!!! off.

I wouldnt keep him waiting more than a few days on an answer, if that.

K hasn't asked me out. He saw his Auntie on Saturday and his Mum asked in front of her what he had thought of me. He said he thought I was really nice and he would have asked me out if I wasn't married. At which Auntie S burst out laughing and said what made him think I was married - he'd got my ring fingers mixed up. After she told him that I'm not married he asked S to find out if I liked him too as he would like to ask me out so she called me today and asked me what I thought. She saw him today so I don't know if he will ask me out or not.

I wouldn't have kept him waiting anyway.

paulineb_2

miss_independent wrote: »

K hasn't asked me out. He saw his Auntie on Saturday and his Mum asked in front of her what he had thought of me. He said he thought I was really nice and he would have asked me out if I wasn't married. At which Auntie S burst out laughing and said what made him think I was married - he'd got my ring fingers mixed up. After she told him that I'm not married he asked S to find out if I liked him too as he would like to ask me out so she called me today and asked me what I thought. She saw him today so I don't know if he will ask me out or not.

I wouldn't have kept him waiting anyway.

Your first paragraph mentions about turning K down, or not, so I assume you think hes going to ask you?

You are overthinking this really, given that there hasnt been a definite date made with K yet.

morganedge

Go for a bowl of Special K!

miss_independent

paulineb wrote: »

Your first paragraph mentions about turning K down, or not, so I assume you think hes going to ask you?

You are overthinking this really, given that there hasnt been a definite date made with K yet.

Well when some says, "I need to know if you like K because he really likes you and he has asked me to see if you like him too. If you do he would like to ask you out. He would have already but he thought you were married." I would have thought he might ask me out.

I'm glad I got a bit of thinking time. At the end of the day its me that might have to face being in the same room as both these guys one day and I needed to know if that was something I could deal with.

Gloomendoom

My sister went out with with bloke for several months but ended up marrying his brother who, incidentally, is younger than her.

She doesn't have problem being in the same room with both, or either, of them.

Quicklook1960

I'd bite the bullet Miss I and go out on a date with K. It's just a first date, so it's a "get-to-know-you" ... you never know you could end up enjoying yourself ! Nothing ventured... Nothing gained...

Good luck in whatever you choose.