Updated post 100: Sorry this is long. Awkward love life :(

LannieDuck

Yay! .

SuzieSue

So pleased for you.

It's a bit of a coincidence (I wonder if he is reading this thread)?

Idiophreak

miss_independent wrote: »

I may not be that quick on updating as to how things are going as I don't want to be writing about the poor guy on the internet but at some point, I will let you know how things are going.

Oh come on, miss_i! You've got to keep us in the loop!

Ask yourself:
What would Bridget Jones do?

System

Yes please keep us posted. Hope all goes well.:)

NAR

I'm so pleased for you Miss Independent

Don't worry about me I'll get over you some day.

Now suck a lemon and wipe that big grin off your face!!! :rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl:

miss_independent

NAR wrote: »

I'm so pleased for you Miss Independent

Don't worry about me I'll get over you some day.

Now suck a lemon and wipe that big grin off your face!!! :rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl:

Awww. Lets just be friends?

SuzieSue wrote: »

So pleased for you.

It's a bit of a coincidence (I wonder if he is reading this thread)?

:eek: OMG DON'T SAY THAT!:eek:

Idiophreak wrote: »

Oh come on, miss_i! You've got to keep us in the loop!

Ask yourself:
What would Bridget Jones do?

Only good girls keep diaries .

tayforth

Woo hoo!!!!! I'm thrilled for you

(and hoping that you update us soon)


Good luck, have fun, relax. You'll be fine.

NAR

miss_independent wrote: »

Awww. Lets just be friends?

Of course we are. (if this success rate keeps up I'll be starting a thread of my own soon! :rotfl: )

miss_independent

Sorry folks...

It's one of those date horror stories .

As you can probably tell from the time, it didn't go too well. I couldn't wait to get away.

There is a Bistro in a beautiful country estate near us - its a bit like a National Trust place with grounds you can walk in. As it was a beautiful evening. We decided to go there - it was my suggestion. Anyway, as we were texting arrangments, he text me saying - "You'll have to drive me.". He didn't ask, just told me. He only lived round the corner so I couldn't see why he couldn't walk but I still thought, ok give him a chance.

I don't know how to say this without sounding big headed, please don't think I am. I looked as nice as I could, in a natural way. I wore a pretty but simple sundress, very natural make up and had done my hair nice. My friends and family had been popping in the house all afternoon and I got comments that I looked, "perfect", "had got it just right" etc. I was confident I looked nice . When I pulled up outside his door, he took a while to come out and when he did, he was dressed really shabbily (not at all like he was at the BBQ). He honestly looked like he had rolled out of bed. In fact I think he had. He was actually dressed like a scruffy teenage boy. I'm sorry, I know I sound like a b*tch, what I'm trying to say is he had made NO effort at all. In my head I berated myself and said that the way he looked had nothing to do with how nice a person he was.

Within 3 seconds of our date he had said the F word a few times. I tried to tell myself this was just nerves but it did turn me off. His language the whole time was foul.

Within ten minutes he started boasting about recreational drug use and told me he had done a runner to the UK to escape his debts. He later confessed to stealing for fun and told me about his parents crazy sex lives. The whole time he spoke about himself. I had asked the usual questions and shown interest in his life hoping he would reciprocate but he did not ask me one question about myself nor did he offer me a compliment in any way. I did try to praise him as much as I could and was sympathetic, polite and caring. He laughed at my jokes but quickly got back to his favourite topic - himself and his crazy life. I actually feel very sorry for him, nobody deserves the kind of life he had and to be honest its going to be hard for him to turn it around. I sense he is sensitive to rejection and I hope he doesn't take the fact I don't want to see him again too hard.

He kept trying to get close to me, and I started to feel really uncomfortable. Part of my job includes analysis and intentional use of body language so I tried my best to show I didn't want to get close to him (leaning back and away, crossing arms in front of me, avoiding prolonged eye contact etc). I don't see HOW he could have misread that. Our waiter caught me eye and chuckled at me as he could tell we were on a first date and it wasn't going well. Anyway, he still persisted and touched my leg. I decided to plan my exit strategy. After two hours, I said I was sorry but I had to meet some friends later on so I would have to go.

He seemed surprised! I could tell he thought things were going really well. I thought he was walking back to my car but to my surprise he got in! So he assumed I was just automatically giving him a lift home. In the car, he kept talking about "next time" and I was thinking that I didn't know how to tell him I really don't want to see him again. I didn't say anything when he was saying, so confidently, about "next time" as I didn't want to lead him on. As we pulled up outside his house, he just sat there. He wasn't getting out. I said, "Thank you for meeting up with me and for your conversation. Enjoy the rest of your weekend." He asked me when we were going out again, when I was free. I know I shouldn't have done this but I felt quite vulnerable alone in the car with him so I said, I didn't have my hours for this week and I couldn't let him know. He looked a bit shocked, like this was his first inkling that it hadn't went well to me. He said, "So why is it you had to leave again? What is it you are doing now?". I lied as convincingly as I could. Again, I tried to bring it to an end.

I was so uncomfortable, I was practically pinned against my car door as I didn't want to be close to him. He finally said, "Well, Bye then." and started looking into my eyes and leaning in. I knew what was coming so I attempted to turn so he'd get my cheek but he saw what I was trying to do and he kissed me on the lips. Except he missed and got my chin :cool:. This is one bad kisser I am NOT intending to reform. He finally got out the car, again referring to "next time" :mad:.

I drove away feeling disgusted. I don't want to hurt him though so I am praying he doesn't contact me again.

So there we are. No J, DEFINITELY no K and I am weLL P Od!



How many frogs does a girl have to kiss?

System

Sorry to hear it didn't go well Miss I.

BUT at least you know now that nothing will happen with K. Sometimes thats how dates go. You build it up but then in reality they are the opposite of what you expect.

*hugs* this dating lark is a bloody minefield hun, but i hope that things will work out for you.