Updated post 100: Sorry this is long. Awkward love life :(

miss_independent

LannieDuck wrote: »

Sound like K's been doing some serious pot-stirring. Leave it a month or so (to be sure K isn't going call), and then call J :P

Lol, I won't be waiting by the phone for a month! Its put me off approaching J, he has had years to ask me out, knows I've been single all this time, its quite obvious that I liked him - I highly doubt he is attracted to me. I think I'm probably just "that nice girl" who he got along with but isn't attracted to me physically.

marisco_2

It does always complicate things when people try to meddle in others relationships. Their perception of peoples attractions and feelings towards someone are not always accurate. I hope that isn't the case in your situation though.

There may be all manner of reasons why you haven't heard from K. S may not have got hold of his mum as yet. Even if she has then Ks mum may not have seen or spoken to him so far in order to pass your number on. He may be away on business or pleasure and be back soon. If he has been given your number, then it could just be that being a shy guy, he is building up the courage to make that call and ask you out.

Don't give up all hope just yet or go thinking of yourself as a fool either. All you have done is pass on your phone number in order to arrange to go for a coffee with a guy. A totally normal, everyday thing for someone to do. You haven't lost face at all. I hope you hear from him soon and get a chance to spend some time together. Then you can make your own minds up about how you feel being in each others company again.

NAR

His loss Miss I. Mr Right will find you in due course - PM me your address! :rotfl: I'll show you my tan! :eek:

Seriously carry on enjoying life in a casual way, being friends with J will help you both with confidence issues. And I'm always here to give you hugs xx

miss_independent

NAR wrote: »

His loss Miss I. Mr Right will find you in due course - PM me your address! :rotfl: I'll show you my tan! :eek:

Seriously carry on enjoying life in a casual way, being friends with J will help you both with confidence issues. And I'm always here to give you hugs xx

Lol - if you were wearing your speedos your tan lines must be pretty epic :rotfl:.

Not gonna lie could do with a hug . Thanks NAR, at least I know you love me, even if I am one of many!

Marisco, you should be an agony aunt! You always say the loveliest words...

NAR

miss_independent wrote: »

Not gonna lie could do with a hug . Thanks NAR, at least I know you love me, even if I am one of many!

Course I do, come here . . BIG HUGS

tayforth

You haven't lost face and you're aren't foolish, you sound like a very nice person and I'm sure that Mr Right is out there somewhere, as NAR says.

Keep your head high and your chin up xxx

p.s. I agree with what you said about marisco

barbiedoll

Oh dear, I've just been reading this thread for the first time and now I've got a headache too!

OP, you call yourself "miss independent" but at 29, you're relying on relatives to pass on messages and phone numbers and to be honest, it all sounds like the playground stuff at primary school with your friends whispering "he likes you" etc etc. As you had a such a good time when you first met K, then why not get his number and ask him for a coffee yourself? It doesn't mean it's a "date", it doesn't mean that you're a hussy (I love that word!) and it doesn't have to mean anything, it's just a couple of people who get along, meeting up for a chat. What's wrong with that?

Oh, and even if K is a little younger than you have been told, so what? I went out with a 19 year old when I was 29 (almost 30!:eek:) and I had a whale of a time!

As for J......well, it sounds as though you have got your head around that situation for the time being. Get hold of K's number, give him a ring and [STRIKE]throw yourself at him[/STRIKE] see how things go. What have you got to lose?

LannieDuck

miss_independent wrote: »

Lol, I won't be waiting by the phone for a month! Its put me off approaching J, he has had years to ask me out, knows I've been single all this time, its quite obvious that I liked him - I highly doubt he is attracted to me. I think I'm probably just "that nice girl" who he got along with but isn't attracted to me physically.

Definitely don't wait by the phone for a month! But I meant give it a bit more time before you determine he's not interested. Maybe he's as shy as you are.

miss_independent

Sooooooooo,

K ended up texting me last night !

Now I feel like an idiot for feeling like an idiot :rotfl:.

Basically, he hadn't text because he thought S had made the whole thing up, he really didn't think I'd be interested and he was concerned that I was being pressured into saying I'd go out with him just to get S off my back. It was very sweet. After I let him know I was the one who suggested coffee, he text straight back saying he had liked me as soon as we met but didn't feel it was appropriate to tell me as he didn't want to be rude or make me feel uncomfortable. S was telling the truth about his age so thats good.

Anyway, we text back and forth most of the night until we both had to go to sleep but he said he would be in touch today. We have a lot in common, we like a lot of the same odd things, its quite strange. I just hope when we meet up, I feel that spark. After being single and doing my own thing for so long, I'm a little bit cautious and don't want to rush anything. And I'm SO nervous about getting back into the dating game. I've not got butterflies in my stomach, I've got giant eels or something.

I may not be that quick on updating as to how things are going as I don't want to be writing about the poor guy on the internet but at some point, I will let you know how things are going.

Thanks for all the support!

marisco_2

:T Brilliant news. Enjoy meeting up with K. Hope it will be the start of something good for you both Miss I.