FINALLY DONE IT: Tayforth's new beginning

jungle_jane

mintymoneysaver wrote: »

Enjoy the second day of the rest of your life xx

Even better still - enjoy every day:rotfl:

Good luck with it OP - you have done something amazing for yourself and you deserve all the happiness in the world xx

tayforth

mintymoneysaver wrote: »

That was you....but it's not now!:j:j:j

Enjoy the second day of the rest of your life xx

jungle_jane wrote: »

Even better still - enjoy every day:rotfl:

Good luck with it OP - you have done something amazing for yourself and you deserve all the happiness in the world xx

Thank you both! I am feeling more positive today. Just realising that I nobody at all to answer to. I feel a sense of peace in the house.

I spent some time last night decluttering and moving a few things around, so that when the ex turns up this evening to collect more stuff, he'll see that I'm making changes already. I just want all of his stuff out ASAP. And then I'll set about properly creating my sanctuary.

I still have to get through my sister's wedding (which I know will be very very hard).

And I have to prepare for people trying to talk me round. I found this link, which I might print and give to anyone close to me who doesn't get that I'm 100% sure and that it was really abuse:

www.restoredrelationships.org/info/domestic-abuse/do-dont

But one thing at a time.

aileth

I for one am rooting for Sam to ring your doorbell, sweep you off your feet and go riding into the sunset on a white stallion, holding a bottle of Baileys!

Kayalana99

I know these threads are kind of together atm but if you get bored later and need a pick me up;
https://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/discussion/4020057

All the good things about living alone :-)

tayforth

aileth wrote: »

I for one am rooting for Sam to ring your doorbell, sweep you off your feet and go riding into the sunset on a white stallion, holding a bottle of Baileys!

You and me both, aileth.

:smileyhea



Your post made me smile, thank you xxxx

tayforth

Kayalana99 wrote: »

I know these threads are kind of together atm but if you get bored later and need a pick me up;
https://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/discussion/4020057

All the good things about living alone :-)

Thanks I couldn't sleep last night (head full of daydreams and plans), so I posted on it. Can't wait to read it all!

msb5262

Hi tayforth,

I'm very glad to see you are here letting us know you're coping.
Don't put pressure on yourself to feel happy instantly...you have been through something very tough. It must have been incredibly hard to screw yourself up to make the decision, then carry it out, and you are bound to feel a bit stunned for a while.

You'll have ups and downs every day but I'm confident that you will also know in your innermost heart that things are going to get better and better for you. Be good to yourself and let yourself recover from this.

Have a lovely day

MsB x

heartbreak_star

You sound so positive, tayforth - it's lovely to hear

HBS x

nerak_y

That was an interesting read! I remember a few days after making a statement about my ex harassing me post split, the police sent me domestic violence leaflets. I felt like I had been kicked in the stomach. It hadn't actually dawned on me this was actually what was going on, since he had never been actually physically violent. I was very teary for a while after that.
I think that website would have been very helpful to read whilst still with him and most useful for people reading your thread feeling unsure about their own relationship.

Hope your day is looking good, and you stay strong and focused when he comes for his things. Loving the wee changes at home idea which will give him a big f**k off subliminal message of his own!! xx

Mojisola

aileth wrote: »

I for one am rooting for Sam to ring your doorbell, sweep you off your feet and go riding into the sunset on a white stallion, holding a bottle of Baileys!

Something like that may be lovely in the future but I think anyone coming out of a destructive relationship needs time alone so that they can sort out just who they are.

Living with a controlling, manipulative person makes you lose sight of your own personality and it can take time to get it back - to learn what you like doing, how you like to live, which friends you want to spend time with, even simple things like what you want to eat and what time you want meals.