what's the best thing about living alone??

savemefromsinking

Hi all,

living with my OH currently but this might not be the case for much longer. Facing living alone (which I've done previously)- just after a pick me up from fellow (soon-to-be) singletons, when I'm just seeing the gloom in the situation:

what are the best things about living alone?

londonsurrey

It's really tough at first, because you're so used to having lots of minutes that you become unaware of spent interacting with the ex-OH, even if it was just arguing.

The upside of this is that you can learn to put all those bonus spare minutes to good use, like simply pampering yourself, reading that book without having to tend to someone else, going off to a night class or club without referring to that other person, buying that scrummy french bread simply because you want it, without having to consider the dietary needs of the other person.

Above all, you can find the real you, without having to become that sweet caring character tending to the needs of someone else.

Negatives - I was widowed very suddenly at 38. The grief was overwhelming.

Pluses - I've learnt bellydancing, have joined a social club of writers and musicians, acquired a paramour with a classic bike (so have gone on my first proper bike rides. Lol) and my waist length hair has never been so glossy!

balletshoes

you get the bed and the tv remote all to yourself .

Miró

Being able to spend your money on whatever you want whenever you want

StaffieTerrier

I love having the choice of doing my own thing when I want. I get to choose what I do and when I do it. There's no fighting over the tv, or what to eat or when to eat it. Having the freedom to be spontaneous without having to ring somebody to let them know your plans, or having to check with someone else when making plans, etc.

I'm going on holiday with friends this year rather than a partner. It was really refreshing to be able to say yes without having to think carefully and discuss it with someone.

I'm sure you'll soon see positives as well. There's a a lot of positives and negatives to being single and in relationship. The most important thing is to grasp life and live it.

Person_one

Its absolutely without a doubt completely brilliant.

You have a bed to yourself, that you can get in and out of when you decide and you'll never be disturbed or woken up by someone else getting in an hour after you and bugging you, or who wants the lights off when you're reading a really good chapter, or who hogs the duvet, or who has annoyingly cold feet and wants to warm them up on yours, or who snores or kicks out or has terrible morning breath.

You can cook what you fancy when you're hungry and do the washing up whenever you're ready to. You don't have to avoid ingredients you love just because somebody else hates them, you don't get irritated when you've cooked three nights in a row and its not your turn but you'll have to do it again tonight because otherwise you'll go hungry or have to put up with a !!!! sandwich.

You know that whatever was in the house when you left will be there when you get back. If the milk's gone its because you finished it, if there's hardly any loo roll left its because you haven't bought any new, you won't be taken by surprise!

You can keep the place as clean or as messy as you feel like depending on your mood, and you've only got your own washing in the basket to worry about.

You can decorate and furnish exactly how you want without having to compromise and without having to constantly defend your lovely home from assaults by horrible shelves, ugly paint colours and bad DIY that you are then expected to be grateful for.

You can use as much water, gas and electricity as you are comfortable with, you don't have to try and sneak around a skinflint who would rather see you get frostbite in January than turn a radiator on or someone who leaves every appliance in the house running at full power 24/7.

You'll love it, no need for gloom!

rich11

Persone one you will have me rushing to the divorce courts soon to sample some of that life

Cat501

I don't live alone, but as I live with teenagers I might as well Being able to read or sit on the pc for hours on end without feeling guilty and anti-social. Having the TV remote to myself. Being able to please myself about where I go and who I see - within reason!

And, at the risk of appearing crude, and this wouldn't be a problem for some people - but being able to, er.....expel wind in bed should the need arise instead of clenching your buttocks. I know you can't help what happens when you're asleep but I never got comfortable with conscious flatulence. It's amazing I don't have a butt like Kylie.

Best of luck OP, you'll be fine! xx

savemefromsinking

thanks guy, keep the answers coming x

anguk

rich11 wrote: »

Persone one you will have me rushing to the divorce courts soon to sample some of that life

Me too! I live with my OH and love him dearly but some of the points made on here certainly make single life look very attractive! I think for me being able to do what you want when you want without always having to consider someone else would be the biggest bonus.

If you're feeling gloomy about living alone think of all the things you couldn't do or disliked about living with your OH.

MissKeith

Getting to walk around the house in the nud. :rotfl::rotfl: