what's the best thing about living alone??

Find_The_Real

Having spent too long in what I consider the insanity years with someone who was selfish, lazy and a muck magnet among their many lack of attributes - I have to say there is no one best thing it is everything!

sportbeth

My absolute top number 1 is never being woken up by anybody. Either by being kicked in the middle of the night, or by snoring or by the constant smokers cough of my ex first thing in the morning.

And no nasty noises or smells to put up with. I'm making him out to be a real charmer aren't I?

tayforth

sportbeth wrote: »

My absolute top number 1 is never being woken up by anybody. Either by being kicked in the middle of the night, or by snoring or by the constant smokers cough of my ex first thing in the morning.

And no nasty noises or smells to put up with. I'm making him out to be a real charmer aren't I?

:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

savemefromsinking

Well I suppose an update is well over due.

SO 16th June I started this thread, completely worn down and defeated by an increasingly unbearable living situation.

Things weren't immediately resolved. A last ditch attempt involved a move with a longer commute to a larger place. This gave 3 months of distractions of sorting and planning and unpacking to distract myself with- this wasn't an entirely awful thing, given that our previous abode had neighbours from hell and was in a horrid area.

Of course, once the dust settled, the situation still remained the same: unloved, unsettled, unhappy. So I reached breaking point and broke up with OH. This was pre-empted by OH having what can only be described as a disgusting and vile argument with his family with them all shouting and swearing at each other, declaring how much they f-ing hated each other, blaming, moaning, criticising etc. It was a toxic mix of hatred, bitterness, seething resentment and animosity. I had a vision of how my life would be if I chose to stay with someone who was not fulfilling me. I told him it was over and he was gone within a week.

I felt free, lighter, clearer and that I had more space and time. I stayed at that place for a few more months then bought my own place.

It has honestly been an incredibly liberating and empowering few months. I have more money than I ever did when I was part of a couple, I have more time and freedom and I'm travelling more. I'm definitely more social and happy and getting back to my old self.

So- there's my update. It has all worked out so well for me! I have dated someone new and whilst it was fun, it wasn't anything significant. In fact, the few nights I wasn't sleeping alone, I felt almost claustrophobic as I have become so used to my own space and silence/bubble.

My favourite parts of living alone:

[*]my bed- sheets always fresh, always made and inviting- feels luxurious

[*]long, uninterrupted baths with lots of pampering and relaxing

[*]successful budgeting- having more money and only having myself to answer to

[*]no extra mess and chores due to someone living like a pig

[*]food not being demolished and empty packets in fridge

I really hope this thread has proved a help/a focal point for some. I have lurked on Tayforth's and others threads and it's great to see their posts on this thread.I'm so happy to be under 30, a homeowner and happy- feels like everything weighing me down has disappeared (well...not counting the weight I need to lose!)

SMFS

Person_one

Yay! Glad things are going so well for you, I had wondered every time this thread popped back up on the first page!

tayforth

savemefromsinking wrote: »

Well I suppose an update is well over due.

SO 16th June I started this thread, completely worn down and defeated by an increasingly unbearable living situation.

Things weren't immediately resolved. A last ditch attempt involved a move with a longer commute to a larger place. This gave 3 months of distractions of sorting and planning and unpacking to distract myself with- this wasn't an entirely awful thing, given that our previous abode had neighbours from hell and was in a horrid area.

Of course, once the dust settled, the situation still remained the same: unloved, unsettled, unhappy. So I reached breaking point and broke up with OH. This was pre-empted by OH having what can only be described as a disgusting and vile argument with his family with them all shouting and swearing at each other, declaring how much they f-ing hated each other, blaming, moaning, criticising etc. It was a toxic mix of hatred, bitterness, seething resentment and animosity. I had a vision of how my life would be if I chose to stay with someone who was not fulfilling me. I told him it was over and he was gone within a week.

I felt free, lighter, clearer and that I had more space and time. I stayed at that place for a few more months then bought my own place.

It has honestly been an incredibly liberating and empowering few months. I have more money than I ever did when I was part of a couple, I have more time and freedom and I'm travelling more. I'm definitely more social and happy and getting back to my old self.

So- there's my update. It has all worked out so well for me! I have dated someone new and whilst it was fun, it wasn't anything significant. In fact, the few nights I wasn't sleeping alone, I felt almost claustrophobic as I have become so used to my own space and silence/bubble.

My favourite parts of living alone:
[*]my bed- sheets always fresh, always made and inviting- feels luxurious

[*]long, uninterrupted baths with lots of pampering and relaxing
[*]successful budgeting- having more money and only having myself to answer to
[*]no extra mess and chores due to someone living like a pig
[*]food not being demolished and empty packets in fridge

I really hope this thread has proved a help/a focal point for some. I have lurked on Tayforth's and others threads and it's great to see their posts on this thread.I'm so happy to be under 30, a homeowner and happy- feels like everything weighing me down has disappeared (well...not counting the weight I need to lose!)

SMFS

What a fantastic, inspirational post I'm delighted for you, and I can definitely relate to a lot of what you describe. This thread has helped me a lot.


I'm chuffed to bits that you've been reading my thread Thank you!


You've done amazingly well for yourself As for me, I don't necessarily wish that I were a homeowner, but I wouldn't mind being under 30 again lol xx

dragonette

I have just separated from my partner, and signed for a lease! Its my first time living alone. I'm looking forward to the flat being as I left it - I do a manual labour job and cleaning someone else's mess after a long shift just made me narky....

Will update in a few weeks when I find all the other benefits lol!!

savemefromsinking

dragonette wrote: »

I have just separated from my partner, and signed for a lease! Its my first time living alone. I'm looking forward to the flat being as I left it - I do a manual labour job and cleaning someone else's mess after a long shift just made me narky....

Will update in a few weeks when I find all the other benefits lol!!

good luck- hope it all goes smoothly for you. Enjoy making the place yours :beer: