what's the best thing about living alone??

savemefromsinking

Frith wrote: »

Things I don't miss about my ex...

1) His smoking.

2) The thought of the tens of thousands of pounds of debt he was in that he refused to acknowledge let alone do anything about.

3) His strange attitude towards his ex wife - sort of fawning and creeping - and the fact he still worked with her.

4) His refusal to let me meet a single one of his friends or colleagues. In 14 months together, I was only allowed to meet his mum!

5) The fact he was proud he had never cleaned his kitchen floor. I presume his wife must have cleaned it but he had been divorced for 4 years when I met him. I never took my shoes off!

6) His silly driving.

7) The way he pretty much ignored my children.

8) How dismissive and harsh he could be with his own children.

9) His obsession with rugby *yawn*

10) Lack of teeth cleaning.

11) Lack of "intimacy" and that he thought he was quite good in bed........

12) His strange letchy-ness towards other women.

13) His constant blaming of other people for everything.

14) That he was involved in a disciplinary at work basically for bullying someone he managed (he blamed that man as well).

15) His absolute refusal ever to commit to a day or time when he would come and see me, leaving me hanging on til the last minute waiting for a text.

16) His refusal to take his health problems seriously.

17) Telling me he had told me something or saying "I never said that" when I have the sort of memory that means I can recall conversations word for word...

18) Being told he will never get married again, never leave his job or his house and never want to have children with me.

19) His CONSTANTLY texting people or playing on his phone.

20) Getting dumped in a 2 word text message.

I've been single since the end of September and it's great!

Bet you are loving it!

savemefromsinking

So what would be the first thing you would do once your home is totally yours again...

a) clean the place top to bottom, get it organised and how you like it
b) book in for a spa day/pampering treatment
c) soak in the tub, music on, glass of bubbly
d) go out to party

or something else....

Jojo_the_Tightfisted

From when it happened.......


Get it decorated how I wanted it.

Throw out everything he insisted had to be kept. Into the street for other people to take for free.

Buy posh glasses and furnishings that he said were a waste when you could get cheap !!!!! from somewhere.



Celebrate not having to buy half a pound of butter every other day.

Enjoy not having to hide my purse because he'd see money and instantly desperately need something from the shop and forget to return the change.

Chucked out every frying pan, the sandwich toaster, the rubbishy knives, the ruined clothing where he deliberately put nice white things in with the darks because it was too hard to separate them.




Have hair, nails, everything done just because.


Just do things because they had value to Me and not to Him.

Caroline_a

Enjoy the quiet of the house with the tv off (OH used to walk in, turn it on, then walk out and go into another room).

Read/use laptop without being told 'you're always on that bl00dy thing'

Only one set of socks to sort.

Not being responsible for an adult child!

bugslet

This is a great thread!:)

I'm learning to live alone since my partner of 27 years went into hospital 2 months ago and will be shortly going into full time nursing care.

I don't want to be one of those people who hangs onto stuff and pines all the time. He's in my life from a visiting point of view, but not otherwise now and I have to get on and deal with it. I'm still learning to be alone at home, but I'm planning for the future ( Oh yes to the dressing room idea and since londonsurrey, I see you do bellydancing, there will be a space for the sparkly stuff;)) and last night I had some friends come round for a meal and it wasn't a major trauma to clear the dining room table of his stuff.

Some not very happy days still, but it's good to know that things will improve and evolve.

VestanPance

I really so no benefit to living alone if I'm being honest.

Although reading through some examples on here I do wonder how people ended up with such nutters in the first place. The stuff being described, that isn't even remotely near normal.

victory

Caroline_a wrote: »

Enjoy the quiet of the house with the tv off (OH used to walk in, turn it on, then walk out and go into another room).

I often do that it is just lovely and quiet, so I can read or write, silence is a beautiful thing:D

old-benny-1935

Being able to masturbate when ever and were ever I want

Slinky

Frith wrote: »

Things I don't miss about my ex...

1) His smoking.

2) The thought of the tens of thousands of pounds of debt he was in that he refused to acknowledge let alone do anything about.

3) His strange attitude towards his ex wife - sort of fawning and creeping - and the fact he still worked with her.

4) His refusal to let me meet a single one of his friends or colleagues. In 14 months together, I was only allowed to meet his mum!

5) The fact he was proud he had never cleaned his kitchen floor. I presume his wife must have cleaned it but he had been divorced for 4 years when I met him. I never took my shoes off!

6) His silly driving.

7) The way he pretty much ignored my children.

8) How dismissive and harsh he could be with his own children.

9) His obsession with rugby *yawn*

10) Lack of teeth cleaning.

11) Lack of "intimacy" and that he thought he was quite good in bed........

12) His strange letchy-ness towards other women.

13) His constant blaming of other people for everything.

14) That he was involved in a disciplinary at work basically for bullying someone he managed (he blamed that man as well).

15) His absolute refusal ever to commit to a day or time when he would come and see me, leaving me hanging on til the last minute waiting for a text.

16) His refusal to take his health problems seriously.

17) Telling me he had told me something or saying "I never said that" when I have the sort of memory that means I can recall conversations word for word...

18) Being told he will never get married again, never leave his job or his house and never want to have children with me.

19) His CONSTANTLY texting people or playing on his phone.

20) Getting dumped in a 2 word text message.

I've been single since the end of September and it's great!

What on earth attracted you to him in the first place?!!

Alias_Omega

Living Alone? Well its been a few years, and i dont plan on living alone unless things go wrong with Mrs AO.

(Hello Mrs AO..as i know you read what i write on here)


Living on my own had a few benefits, i could go shopping and not worry what the contents of the shopping trolley came to at the tills, i would not have to get up early for anything except for work. I could go where i wanted, when i wanted..

The downfall to living alone, i would often have lots of time alone which would spend gambling. The joy's of meeting a women, to find a week/2 weeks later she was no longer interested and into something/someone else. I would have no one to go on holiday with, as the last "lads" holiday i went away on ended up with the group fighting after a few beers..

So, just a snap-shot of what was going on. The high's were being able to make a on the spot decision to go to the Isle of Man TT on a whim, and the low's were being alone on Christmas Day, scrolling through eBay looking for bargains.

Though these days i have multiple children, and the single life/living alone isnt for me..