what's the best thing about living alone??

londonsurrey

I know I've definitely settled happily to living alone now - spoke to a friend last night, and she announced that her boyfriend has moved in with her.

I was pleased that she was happy, but all these thoughts were going through my head of "Oh, but you've lost all that personal space!" Lol.

Lexxi

savemefromsinking wrote: »

Still loving reading the responses on this thread- they are giving me something to focus on for when all this unpleasant atmosphere and aggresion has left my life.

The sheer relief in knowing that the unpleasant is over and you're not on pins waiting for it to kick up again.
I loved locking the door and leaving the world outside, I used to sometimes sing that bit of the Bon Jovi song too as I turned the key
The selfishness really appealed to me, not considering someone elses schedule or needs or even wants. On a Friday, I used to get off the bus, get beer and chocolate, get home , put them in the fridge, order a takeaway, walk the dog and be chilling in my PJs by the time my curry arrived

ostrichnomore_2

I've lived alone for the first time ever, since July this year. There are definitely advantages!

I can snore without someone poking me awake, and on the other hand, I also don't have to suffer listening to someone else snoring...

Can spend whole weekend in my jammies if I want...

I've lost one and a half stone in weight without effort/dieting - it's entirely down to eating whatever I want, whenever I want, and no longer having to cook up (and eat) a big fat dinner every evening. I now get to eat meals that my ex didn't like.

I socialise/go out/see friends a lot more than I did when I was with ex who had to be dragged out of the house under protest...

Books everywhere and no one to complain about it...

Don't have to shave my legs etc all the time :-)

princess_loki

Goodness!! Sounds exactly the same as my situation!! Been living alone since April this year and it is fantastic :j:j.

I have joined a gym, see my friends more, have given up smoking and drinking and I can do what I want when I want!

Yesterday I was tired so I went to sleep in the afternoon and then had a lovely long bath with no one to annoy me or disturb me.

I LOVE living alone now! :T

ostrichnomore wrote: »

I've lived alone for the first time ever, since July this year. There are definitely advantages!

I can snore without someone poking me awake, and on the other hand, I also don't have to suffer listening to someone else snoring...

Can spend whole weekend in my jammies if I want...

I've lost one and a half stone in weight without effort/dieting - it's entirely down to eating whatever I want, whenever I want, and no longer having to cook up (and eat) a big fat dinner every evening. I now get to eat meals that my ex didn't like.

I socialise/go out/see friends a lot more than I did when I was with ex who had to be dragged out of the house under protest...

Books everywhere and no one to complain about it...

Don't have to shave my legs etc all the time :-)

CrazyAngel_3

My OH is in the the Navy and is currently on a 6 month deployment. I love it!

1. No one around to have to nag
2. No one nagging at me
3. If I want a packet of crisps and a glass of wine for dinner then thats what I will have!
4. Never having to watch Formula 1, ever!
5. No tidying up after him to do
6. Lights dont get left on for no reason
7. I can sleep like a starfish
8. I only do one washing machine load per week.
9. I make my own plans and do my own thing.
10. If im not in the mood to speak to anyone I dont have to
11. No arguments
12. Food I buy actually stays in the fridge rather than it getting mysteriously eaten almost immediately.

The down sides are

1. Having to make my dinner when I get home from work when I cant be bothered (I will usually only stretch to heating a tin of soup or a bowl of cereal :-) )
2. The washing up..... urgh, not only do you have to make your own dinner but you also have to wash up afterwards.

Tish_P

I live with my chap and wouldn't change that, but there are some things I miss about living alone.

Eating "girl food". I'd often be fine with a bowl of soup for dinner, or a scrambled egg and spinach on toast. But that's not hearty enough for him so I eat more and fattier food, more meat, and later at night than I would if left to my own devices.

Uninterrupted sleep. He snores.

Having the house exactly as clean or as messy as I like that day.

That's my top 3 - I'm sure my partner would have a longer list of his own! There are thousands of little compromises you constantly make when you live with someone so I'm not surprised that so many people feel happy to be living alone. You'll be fine OP - just keep busy.

Tish_P

I love your point 12 crazyangel! No matter how huge a packet of cheese is in the fridge, a day later when I want some cheese on toast it's *all* gone.

mintymoneysaver

I do still have teenage girls living with me, so it's not the same, but my OH moved out 7 months ago now, and I'm not sure if I could ever live with another man again!

savemefromsinking

thanks for the replies- some real things to look forward too

savemefromsinking

My list of things I won't miss:

being woken up at least once a night- OH late to bed in the early hours, stealing blanket, snoring

OH smoking

always doing the cooking, laundry, housework

always having to chivvy OH or ask them to contribute with housework

having to cajole or drag them out to anything social

morning breath/aversion to teeth brushing

OH toxic relationship with family

OH addiction with online gaming and its inflexible schedule

bitterness and jealousy over any success I have at work, meaning comments on how I shouldn't ask OH to contribute to all the petrol costs from driving OH around as I earn more

lack of ambition or motivation

constant complaining, negativity, glass half-empty woe is me attitude

OH booking time off work for a holiday which never appears then smoking/playing online for 12-14 hour stretches at a time

constant moaning when food shopping

having to online shop in order to avoid moaning

how everything is a hassle and chore

poor standards of personal hygiene

a partner who is in love with their PC

aggression and anger when socks, underwear, workwear hasnt been washed and prepared- but never actually putting on a load of laundry

not paying 50% of the rent/bills just because I earn more, even though it amounts to only 1/3 of their income

average sex